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floss2

OP, as Lostinrates says, you had just had a huge shock, and it is a natural reaction to show your emotions. Having done a similar move at 11 myself, leaving primary school in a small village and starting high school in a biggish town, I can understand a little of how daunted you and your family must feel. Maybe when your daughter has seen the area her anxiety may start to settle down, especially as you are being positive about the whole experience. After all, it would be a shock to her too, and kids show things differently to us grown-ups.

Good luck, and enjoy your exploratory visit!

Savvy_Sue

lauren_1 wrote: »

I moved 300 miles from County Durham to Somerset when I was younger, to an adult it might seem ok but for a child it may as well be a different country.

No one could understand me, I couldn't understand them, the weather was different, the TV was different (back then it was 4 channels and regional tv) i was used to a village not a town, couldnt play out as much due to traffic, however at school EVERYONE wants to be the new girls friend!

:rotfl: We moved the boys to Zummerzet when they were 7, 9 and 12. After hearing DS3 try to spell 'door' as 'dorr', I asked if anyone commented on their accents. DS3 had clearly assimilated, and at DS1's school they had mostly lost it, but DS2 said "They think I'm Scottish!" :rotfl: Clearly, he spoke English, but not as we know it, therefore ...

Anyway, I worried most about DS1: he was quiet and anxious normally, but he just got on with it, and it was DS3 who struggled most to settle.

Savvy_Sue

sod's law indeed. Sadly I don't know who has the wine, but I have some chocolates here if that will help?

jollymummy

OP I hope your eldest is soon better.

Thank you so much for starting this thread and for everyone's input. We are looking to relocate to the coast in the next year with our 6 year old son. We live in a small rural village and he goes to a tiny school where he knows everyone. He's a very outgoing friendly little chap but isn't keen on change so I have a few worries but I feel our quality of life would be fab if we moved - well we all do really.
This thread as given me a lot of reassurance and good ideas. Thanks again

property.advert

Moved to get child into best school and she is thriving. Much better than where we were before, better lifestyle, more open space etc.

I think the fact that we spent a lot of time at home with her during the transition and afterwards was important but so was getting her into a top class kindergarten and mixing with other kids.

ailuro2

oh dear! Don't cancel the trip - get DH and the others to go have a look, they can record it on camera/webcam and you can look at it later.

Yes, we know you need to be there for any final decisions, but they can do a bit of hoofing around working out where you WOULDN'T like and save you a bit of legwork. Could they Skype with DS if he does end up in bed poorly?

Hope your DS gets over it soon and you don't have to change any plans.

BugglyB

One small thing I can advise from my own childhood is keep reminding your children of what will be the same. I moved half way across the world as a 10 year old and my mum made me a scrapbook of all the things that would be the same in the 'new place'. I still have it. You have no idea how comforting it was to know I would still be able to get a McDonalds happy meal and that Big Bear would be going with me!

When we did move, my room was decorated exactly the same, same wallpaper, same towels, same lampshade, which was a great comfort. This is of course subject to cost.

ailuro2

aliasojo, how's your young lad now? Hope he's feeling better, and that the rest of you are OK.

ailuro2

Sorry to hear that, hope they get it all figured out soon and get him some meds to make him feel better.

Savvy_Sue

How's the lad doing, aj?