Relationship Breakdown.

sheryldoc

Its easy to say.. but you have tried going with your heart and not your head and it hasnt worked.. how about trying it the other way and seeing if after the initial hurt.. it gets any better for you?

Hope it does.. chin up..

Whats for you.. Wont go by you..x

Snaggles

I'm sorry, I've not much advice to offer, but just wanted to send you my heartfelt sympathy. It must be a huge obstacle if one partner is unable to be honest to their family/friends about their sexuality. It's a shame he wasn't able to face counselling as this might have helped him to explore why he was unable to be open about it, which I'm sure would have helped the relationship.

If you have broken up and got back together in the past, and it is still not working out, then I'm sure you are doing the right thing in moving on. I hope your heart will heal quickly, and that eventually you will find someone who is able to be completely honest about his feelings, and is able to shout about your relationship from the rooftops (not literally!) without having to hide anything.

Take care,

Love Snaggles xxx

victory

I so wanted to come on this thread today as I read it yesterday but had no time to post that you have both discussed it and he had agreed to speak up and that it was all going to be o.k but no...
I hope like the other posters say if you cannot get him to come out then that you will be strong and mend your heart soon, God bless you and I wish you a very merry xmas xxxx

stenny_2

Hi people,

Just thought i'd pop in for an update after all the advice you have all contributed.
Really nothing has changed, i sat up all last night and wrote a nice long letter and put it on his pillow for to read for tonight.

I know i said Friday i'd be leaving, but this has now changed to Saturday evening i am going to stay at my best friends house as she is staying at her B/F's.
Her house is only 10 mins walk from my parents so i will be going to them for xmas along with the rest of the family.

I feel much better after all the comments/help i received from you all, and i will be in touch over xmas and keep you updated should anything change.

Wishing you all a Merry Xmas & all the best for 2007

Hugz n kisses

Thanx again!

PS Forgot to say a big thanx also to edinburghlass for pointing me in the right direction.

Mics_chick

Good luck Stenny - you are a strong, caring and friendly person - someone is going to snap you up before you know it

Have a lovely Xmas with your family MC

Crispy_Ambulance

Just read this thread. Sorry this is happening to you - but remember, you will survive and you deserve to be happy. No-one should have to hide away and pretend to be someone that they are not.

Jet

You must feel because he hasn't come to terms with his sexuality, that he is "ashamed" of you.

That's not healthy in a relationship is it?

He really does need to deal with his own issues before you can start to have a happy relationship.

Only he can decide if he can do that. If he can't, you need to be free to find someone who can offer you what you need.

Edinburghlass_2

I suggested to stenny he post here as a problem shared is a problem halved.

Thank you to all the posters who took the time out to give a word of comfort:T

Season's Greetings to all.

vizcacha

I can't think of much to add - there has been such good advice here -

just wanted to send you my best wishes and a big hug xxx

and always remember - when it comes to things like this we are much stronger than we think we are

even if you feel sometimes like you can't live without him YOU CAN and you will if you just take things a step at a time

my favourite book on this subject :

http://www.lovereading.co.uk/book/1276

jordylass

Hi Stenny, I hope whatever you decide you are at peace, but just wanted to post a slightly different perspective gained (for me) within the last couple of months.
I left my partner of 16 years about 18 months ago and was very happy to go, for lots of reasons our relationship didn't seem to be what I wanted from life any more and I thought we had fallen out of love.
We stayed in touch and still spent time together, when I realised recently that he was starting to think about dating I was devastated and realised I'd made a huge and very selfish mistake.
It seems from your post that you still love him and would like to make it work but you're not sure you can do it 'his way' any more. I'd suggest that you take a look at http://www.divorcebusting.com/ especially the forums, it's american, but there is a lot of stuff to get you thinking, and I'd do it before you move out, because it's much harder to repair it when you're not there.