BF wants to clear my debt...

tobedifferent

Thanks for your replies. I think a big thing for me is what others think.

I work with a lady who is really very nice but who regularly says she tells her daughters to 'marry for money.' Her daughter who is my age started dating a new guy 6 months ago. I don't know what his name is, what he looks like, what he does etc. but I do know that he has a Porsche 911 and a 6 bed house. Apparently the daughter has just realised that he is a really nice man, so after 6 months with someone that has finally dawned on you, why were you with him at all I wonder? I hate to think that I could be like that!

My sister has just called me a control freak, my OH is great, I work longer hours and don't have as many holidays. He has a key to my flat and is forever coming round cleaning and cooking for me, and he always buys me flowers (are you lining up to punch me for doubting him??). But sometimes I feel helpless, its like he has the power to do all this when I feel I can't do the same for him, though don't think he's that fussed bout flowers.... I feel that because I can't return the things he does for me, which is mainly in terms of time and doing things for me, then maybe I can't love him as much, just writing that helps me see how crazy that whole line of thinking is! I do my own things for him, they are different but they mean as much.

I love him, he loves me, I'm not a person that would mess about anyone for my gain, clearing my debt will benefit us both. Its not just me anymore its us, thats what I want and what is marriage but entering into a partnership where all problems are shared. If I was in his position I know I would do the same.



I feel much better about the situation now.

Thank you.

TBD
xx

jellyang

You know you can't put a price on Love.

Accept his offer.

If you plan a life together then you have a lifetime to repay him in all sorts of ways.

woohoo_postingid

jellyang wrote:

If you plan a life together then you have a lifetime to repay him in all sorts of ways.

Cheeky! :shocked: :shocked:

southernscouser

But you can give him some things money can't buy!

OK you can buy them but there are risks of disease! :rotfl:

Gorgeous_George

You will both bring something to the relationship. The mosty valuable thing will not be money.

Be happy and be JOINTLY debt-free. There's babies to worry about!



GG

tobedifferent

woohoo_postingid wrote:

Cheeky! :shocked: :shocked:

Ummm, I work part time as a erm 'telephone entertainer' to pay off my debt quicker. Maybe he's thinking less time of me making fake noises on the phone and more to devote to being with him and having errrr...... Interesting conversations about politics!

Although it is very funny when he brings me cups of tea and does dodgy mimes to what I'm saying. I am very lucky.

tobedifferent

By entertainer of course I mean that I tell jokes and do a bit of juggling :whistle:

Donedoingdebt

If the situation was reversed & you were the rich one & your partner was in debt, what would you do?

Paula_anne

Hey we don't judge:rotfl: , sounds like you got a good bloke there, keep hold of him good blokes are hard to find:o

southernscouser

Paula_anne wrote:

good bloke there, keep hold of him good blokes are hard to find:o

And hard blokes are good to find.