Does anyone 'Feel Bad' About winning?

VeePee

This may sound ridiculous, but the way I see it is that, if I tell people about my wins (especially family members), then the "negative energy" channeled through their jealousy, can impact my luck in a bad way. I havent had any big wins this year, but I will keep it zipped if I do!

hazyjo

Definitely a bit of the green eyed monster. Some people do like to upset others who are doing well, bit like saterkey says above re the lottery.

We've just moved house and it's amazing the mixed responses. I had a 2 bed house and hubby had a flat. Now that we've shoved all our property finances together and bought our 'forever home', it's like some are jealous. One of my best mates has a similar sized house and is now saying 'oh, it's too big, if anything I want to downsize' and how if they were to move to anything equivalent it would cost them over £600k (it wouldn't, ours was way, way less than that, and is actually bigger), then she starts banging on about how she loves where she is anyway (same place my old house was in) and how she doesn't see the point of moving. It's still towny where I am, but the walk I have to the station is lovely - a few roads are lovely and peaceful and I hear birds tweeting now instead of sirens in the distance. I said something about it being quiet to her and she said that her hubby hated it too quiet and they couldn't beat where they live now. She's just so constantly defensive. And I've not been bragging, far from it. I've invited her over several times (no dates, just keep saying she'll have to come round, etc) and she's still not really been interested. Some very other mixed comments off people too. I've been really quiet about it all as would hate anyone to think I was bragging or anything! Thing is, it's only what most of my friends have between them and their hubbies. It's like they think we're trying to out do them and they always thought they had the biggest house and they don't like us having the same! Very very weird. Wouldn't even have crossed my mind! If they suddenly moved into a 10 bed house on a 4 acre estate, I can't imagine feeling anything other than happy for them if that's what they wanted!

I know if my friend did visit, she'd find negative things to say. Shame, innit. Putting me off actually wanting her here.

I've won a few London nights out and have taken friends along (inc one nice hotel stay). Most seem very happy that I win things, but a lot say 'I never win anything, you're so lucky... blah blah'. I just say if they entered as many as me, they'd win something. I do stress how time consuming it is!

Ignore any negativity. Some people aren't happy unless they're making others feel guilty about the positive things in their lives. You can be happy as Larry and someone will come along who feels they have the right to make you feel like you're not worthy or that it should have been them or someone who enters less comps (I've heard the line about 'compers' not being fair to others - so only people who enter in a blue moon should win? Hmmm...

Jx

zebedee01

I know what you mean! I feel bad sometimes too, and don't tend to tell people about all my wins lol, but obviously i am over the moon with them!

I have my wins posted to my mums house so she knows about them ALL! And she has been saying to me lately 'oh you are so lucky' 'you win everything' etc etc. So this is what i said to her...

'I am very lucky for the wins i get but really it isn't alot for the time i put in. You wouldn't spend the hours at work for what i get. But i love doing it and love winning!'

I also tell people about this site and tell them that if they too put the time and effort in they will also see some wins coming in!

Good luck!! Enjoy your wins, and i hope you have many many more!! xx

jpwhittle

i dont feel guilty about winning as i've yet to win something big that ive kept for me, (in fact anything big at all).
But i do often here all the comments you have stated and even been bullied for being so stupid! I wasnt so stupid handing over £100 of baby stuff to my brother though. I think with people like this its jealousy maybe greed, and sometimes a smidgen of wanting it all without any of the effort.
We know we arent spending money we havent got on these things and if our putting the effort in to win them then dont let people pull you down. Comping might not be everyones cup of tea, but nothing beats that feeling of something nice that isnt a bill landing on your doorstep.
You deserve your wins hun so enjoy them. You have told people how we win stuff if they dont do it thats upto them.
My ad understands why we comp and loves what we win but most others dont. Dad also admits he doesnt win like us cos he doesnt comp like us. We dont win anywhere near what you have but i can honestly say well done and congratulations, enjoy your wins.