DO men do anything at Xmas or is it just the ladies??

BillScarab

Hmm, well here's another man who does plenty. I'm more into Christmas than my wife so...

I buy most of the presents and the only ones I don't wrap are the ones for me as I'm better at wrapping presents than my wife.

This year I've written the Christmas cards, except for the ones to my wife's family I've left those so she can write personal messages in them.

I put up the tree and the decorations with the children's help.

I buy all of the Christmas food and drink.

I prepare and cook Christmas dinner (but then I do the cooking all year round).

I organise any trips to see Santa.

Not all men are useless

cha97michelle

My DH isn't useless. Just very busy at work. He will willingly do things i ask, and has even started noticing when some things need doing all by himself.

Our difference of opinion is that he will quite happily leave everything till the 24th, and wouldn't send cards out at all as he thinks they are a waste of time.

i think i'm saying he would do more, but i get too stressed if i leave it ti when he would do it, so i just get on with it. (maybe too many of us ladies are perfectionists)

he heard somewhere that if women were paid for the extra work they do at chrimbo (personal shopper, wrapping services, chef, cleaner, childcare etc) we would be paid around £18,000 in december. I found that very interesting.


Michelle

jcr16

my hubby doesn't do alot. but he does provide all the money . as i don't work ( sahm) so without him being the bread winner i couldn't do any of what i do. but this year he did put up with tree with our daugther. and he has made the kids main present. it is a wooden train play table , like elc sell for 200 pounds. so i very pleased with what he has done.

elona

My DH for the last few years has thanked me for making a "good Christmas" for our four DDs!

I almost fell over in shock!

shazziere

i have tried to get my hubbie more involved with the xmas thing but it just doesnt work.

On Saturday we had people round for "christmas drinks".In a typical woman panic mode i decided to send him to tescos(where else of course!!)for 2 packs of beer in the 2 for £16 offer.He came back with 2 packs of ten bottles of budweiser which were £9 each so was narked at this(even more so as i saw the next day you could have had the 20 bottle packs for a quid more!)I was even more flabbergasted when i saw the actual receipt came to £90 .....he said he felt we needed at leats 4 essential cd s for the music!As if!

Thus....he is now banned from doing any more grocery shopping any time of the year or else we will end up bankrupt.

On another note ...he is also banned from any involvement with xmas food.One xmas eve i decided that as a couple we would do all the veg for the next day once the in laws were all tucked up in beds(they were staying with us over the xmas season).Whilst i was up to my eyeballs in approx 200000 sprouts he decided to get a bit frisky but coudnt quite see why i wasnt "in the mood!"We ended up having s big argument and so i ended up yet again doing the veg all on my own.But....the morale of the story is that from that day forth....all xmas veg is now frozen!

chardonnay_2

my OH is brill!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! he is really involved in present picking /buying/ wrapping. although i do source the cheapest deals etc. he gets decs from the loft and we decorate the tree together - although he always wants to do this days before me. we shop for xmas food together. if xmas day at our house he is usually in control of dinner with my help. he cooks most of the year anyway- he is fab. so not all partners are useless - their mum must not have trained them well enough! ( shame my mil couldn't train her husband cos he is a male chauvinistic lump of lard)

marleyboy

Although I admit I let my OH set the tree, with the kids, as its what they love doing the most, (which takes them a full day). I go about setting up the decorations around and outside the house. We both buy he pressies together, except each others which we buy seperatley. I cook the turkey at 4am, ensuring everything is prepared on time, I then wrap all the christmas presents and place under the tree, and fill the stockins from santa at bottom of the beds. Knowing the kids will be up at literally first light, As Im the only one who has stayed up all night, I have to endure the dreaded bite of the mince pie (I hate em), coincidently Santas glass of wine turns itself into a Beer.# and is left empty I then bite the raw carrott, so kids can see rudolph n santa had eaten.

I allow the kids one present to open (secretly before mum gets up). Then wake the Mrs with a brew. We both sit back and admire watching the frantic tearing of paper turn into gasps and tears of joy as we allow them to "delve in". Then we both share the duties of clearing up the house ready for Xmas Dinner. she lays the table as I serve the meal, and she loads the dishwasher for me, whilst I sneak a quick kip, having been awake overnight. Christmas is for the kids, and Me and the Mrs love each other enough to make sure each xmas is special for them. We both have strict rules that xmas the kids celebrate, we celebrate the New Year. As for cleaning up the mess after the New Year Party, we both just sleep it off and hope the kids do it for us (fat chnce!) Above all we share the duties, we make it special for the kids, which makes it even more special for us. Merry Xmas everyone