staff meeting outside hours

Mischa8

pinkprincessangel wrote: »

So just because there are people wanting jobs you think its ok for him to be the way he is? I have checked my rights and I'm well within them to refuse. My daughter is not insured to be on the premises, so cant come with. Childcare is £4 an hour, 3 hour meeting + 2 hours travel = £20, my earning for the meeting = £17.79. I dont drive, trains and buses arent til 9am (time of meeting itself) at earliest and taxi on top would be extortionate. You seriously think I should go in after all that?
Also as others have noted, if I go once, he'll expect it to be repeated so its all or nothing. And being as there is not an option for next time I cannot attend.

Oh - a final point - I thought you said you were being paid to come in for this meeting??

Like I said before - could your manager give you a lift or a colleague?

With a defensive attitude like yours and an unwillingness to attend a meeting I'm not sure I'd want to employ you, personally - working mother or no, and contract or no.

Strike

Mischa8 wrote: »

Oh - a final point - I thought you said you were being paid to come in for this meeting??

Like I said before - could your manager give you a lift or a colleague?

With a defensive attitude like yours and an unwillingness to attend a meeting I'm not sure I'd want to employ you, personally - working mother or no, and contract or no.

Well it's lucky she's not asking you to employ her then.

Savvy_Sue

Mischa8 wrote: »

Oh - a final point - I thought you said you were being paid to come in for this meeting??

Like I said before - could your manager give you a lift or a colleague?

With a defensive attitude like yours and an unwillingness to attend a meeting I'm not sure I'd want to employ you, personally - working mother or no, and contract or no.

She had already said that no, the manager had refused to give her a lift, and that no colleagues lived in her direction, also the manager was not willing to pay the additional travel expenses, eg mileage if she did manage to arrange for someone to give her a lift.

The OP did not come across as defensive to me.

Mischa8

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

She had already said that no, the manager had refused to give her a lift, and that no colleagues lived in her direction, also the manager was not willing to pay the additional travel expenses, eg mileage if she did manage to arrange for someone to give her a lift.

The OP did not come across as defensive to me.

I meant as defensive in her reply to me, which she was.

Strike

Mischa8 wrote: »

I meant as defensive in her reply to me, which she was.

She wasn't being defensive, she was stating fact which had already been clearly clarified in her previous thread posts.

dark_lady

which you admitted that you didnt bother to read them all Mischa

jazabelle

Mischa8 wrote: »

I meant as defensive in her reply to me, which she was.

Maybe because everything you had bought up had been discussed in every post beforehand, and the whole situation resolved before you butted in without bothering to read it? You were the rude one.

I think the OP has been incredibly nice. I would have told the manager no straight away, where as she did everything she could - and did - attend.

Aweet

Sorry but the manager sounds like a right.... cough...

pinkprincessangel

Mischa8 wrote: »

Oh - a final point - I thought you said you were being paid to come in for this meeting??

Like I said before - could your manager give you a lift or a colleague?

With a defensive attitude like yours and an unwillingness to attend a meeting I'm not sure I'd want to employ you, personally - working mother or no, and contract or no.

As you can see from previous and further posts to this comment a lot of the questions had been answered, and advice either way was given by the splendid people here. While you admitted you jumped in with a response before reading the other posts, maybe next time you see a post you want to advise on you could read through first. As for me being defensive, it may have come across that way but it was more stating facts. I am being paid for the meeting, and I explained the cost of childcare and travel which far outweigh the wage I'd receive for the time. I am employed on a set 3 days, this meeting is outside those. You obviously dont realise there are rights for workers to say no if circumstances mean they cannot do what is asked. I would be financially out of pocket, inconvenienced and downright annoyed to attend the meeting. I started the thread and got the advice I asked for. You were the only one who threw the "suck it up" angle and as you can see from the replies you got it didnt exactly sit well with people.
And for you not being sure you'd employ me? If you expect me to go to a meeting regardless of the circumstances previously mentioned I doubt you'd be employed for long as the legal ramifications would mean you'd be out of a job a lot quicker than me.

Mischa8

pinkprincessangel wrote: »

As you can see from previous and further posts to this comment a lot of the questions had been answered, and advice either way was given by the splendid people here. While you admitted you jumped in with a response before reading the other posts, maybe next time you see a post you want to advise on you could read through first. As for me being defensive, it may have come across that way but it was more stating facts. I am being paid for the meeting, and I explained the cost of childcare and travel which far outweigh the wage I'd receive for the time. I am employed on a set 3 days, this meeting is outside those. You obviously dont realise there are rights for workers to say no if circumstances mean they cannot do what is asked. I would be financially out of pocket, inconvenienced and downright annoyed to attend the meeting. I started the thread and got the advice I asked for. You were the only one who threw the "suck it up" angle and as you can see from the replies you got it didnt exactly sit well with people.
And for you not being sure you'd employ me? If you expect me to go to a meeting regardless of the circumstances previously mentioned I doubt you'd be employed for long as the legal ramifications would mean you'd be out of a job a lot quicker than me.

Actually you had more than one person advising you to go in. or questioning why you would not go in, see 2nd and 3rd pages.

There again - I work in a far better job than being employed in a sandwich shop, so who's having the last laugh here?

Classic example of someone who can't see the wood for the trees and reads only what they like.