lying to school

daska

NAR wrote: »

If he is the sort of person that only responds to blackmail then threaten to tell school if he doesn't agree to the one hour early later in the year!

I'd lay money on the only thing him responding to being an empty space in his wallet.

NAR

daska wrote: »

I'd lay money on the only thing him responding to being an empty space in his wallet.

RAFLMAO :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

xangeleyes

It sounds to me that he likes to have his own way. It's his way and thats final!

You should speak to him about this. The thing is, he's already booked it (assumed) and your son knows about it, but the father should have told you about it first and booked it for the 2 weeks he can 'only' have in August.

Do you have full custody of your son? Tell him to either rebook it or perhaps allow it this once, and tell him that under no circumstances is he to do this again.
If you make him cancel it, unfortunatly, in your sons eyes, YOU will look like the bad one.

Sorry to hear about your mum *hugs*

EDIT: Just read that your ex has custody of the child.
The father can ask for a holiday letter, children are allowed an extra 10 days off per year. They don't like it but they'll accept it. Make sure he does it correctly.

peachyprice

daska wrote: »

He also knows that I'll fight tooth and nail for him whatever the problem, even down to sorting out extra exam time he's entitled to (formally diagnosed dyspraxia and dyslexia) when his dad refused to because 'it would be encouraging him to fail'.

Have you also asked about a scribe? My son is dypraxic dyslexic too, he has one for all his external exams except maths, but he gets extra time for that.

Bless him, they had to write out a little comment card for their yearbook, it asked for his nickname which he put as 'caveman' (he has long hair) the teacher putting the book together misread is as 'loveman', now it's out there for all eternity.

daska

xangeleyes wrote: »

It sounds to me that he likes to have his own way. It's his way and thats final!

You should speak to him about this. The thing is, he's already booked it (assumed) and your son knows about it, but the father should have told you about it first and booked it for the 2 weeks he can 'only' have in August.

Do you have full custody of your son? Tell him to either rebook it or perhaps allow it this once, and tell him that under no circumstances is he to do this again.
If you make him cancel it, unfortunatly, in your sons eyes, YOU will look like the bad one.

Sorry to hear about your mum *hugs*

EDIT: Just read that your ex has custody of the child.
The father can ask for a holiday letter, children are allowed an extra 10 days off per year. They don't like it but they'll accept it. Make sure he does it correctly.

No, there is no residence order. I brought DS1 up single handed until he was 12. Then things got very difficult for a multitude of reasons and DS1 chose to move to live with his dad - who currently has a far bigger income than I do LOL. It was never a case of 'I hate you' just that things were exceedingly difficult for all of us.

To put this in perspective we had a huge family lunch last time DS1 was here and during the conversation it emerged that his dad was eligible for a substantial discount on a 'big ticket' item due to DS1 being a member of a certain organisation, I laughingly said that his dad would have been very pleased to get the discount and DS1's response was (in his best 'don't be so bloody stupid mum' tone) "I didn't tell him". (I'm afraid that as we'd all had a few glasses of wine it really wasn't possible not to laugh.)

galvanizersbaby

puddy wrote: »

i like the exam idea but in reality it wouldnt work and gives mixed messages about manipulating things to get your own way (holiday lies)

so, tell your son that you consent to his having a holiday in term time but this must be agreed above board by the school as permission for a holiday and let dad sort out the holiday request form

if you are able to communicate to father, i would raise the issue of lying and this discrepancy about his only being able to take leave in august. father seems to have difficulty with sticking to the truth in various areas

I wouldn't worry too much about communicating with dad OP and apply to the school for the leave yourself stating the reason as a holiday with dad.
No need to tell dad you have sorted this on his behalf - after all it's DS that has made you aware of the holiday after all.
Besides dad should become aware that you have already truthfully informed the school of DS's absence when he phones up to lie to them come the time of the holiday

daska

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

I wouldn't worry too much about communicating with dad OP and apply to the school for the leave yourself stating the reason as a holiday with dad.
No need to tell dad you have sorted this on his behalf - after all it's DS that has made you aware of the holiday after all.
Besides dad should become aware that you have already truthfully informed the school of DS's absence when he phones up to lie to them come the time of the holiday

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I think you have found the perfect solution

galvanizersbaby

daska wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I think you have found the perfect solution

lol! evil I know but I can understand why your peed off!

Trouble is you would somehow have to keep from DS that you had applied for the absence so could be a bit tricky

Be funny to see how dad reacted to being caught out with a lie though

andy.m_2

Fantastic method of sorting things and maintaining the moral high ground!

daska

Priceless!

The 'reason' for changing the holiday was to fit in with the august start date at the new school. I've just had a call from the school and we did work out why DS1's dad might have thought it was August ... but it isn't, it's September.

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