Those who are waiting to TTC

Lily_The_Legend

euronorris wrote: »

Oh God, sometimes, I think about the reality of it, and actually starting to try and then get all panicked! hahaha

Me too!

lillibit

Thanks for welcoming me guys! :hello:

Panicked! - I've started watching OBEM and am terrified already! The pain and the foot long needles. EWWW!

Trouble is, after making sure everything is in order before getting pregnant, in years to come the little cherubs will not appreciate the hard work that went in to making sure their arrival was so thought out!
I'm keeping a dairy of events to show the effort and fore-thought, so said 'baby' can appreciate in years to come the hardwork! i/e don't get credit cards and loans in your early twenties that you are (in a round about way) still paying off in when you turn thirty!

bigzippy

lillibit wrote: »

Been preping for the big day since last September '10, when I came off the injection and moved over to the pill; as friends warned us the injection was notorious for still stopping progress after one year!
However, on pill now and was planning to come off to concieve at xmas '11 but then I took a really selfish thought that if I conceive in Dec then maternity leave would be over winter (boo) and I would be huge in the summer heat, so am waiting till May/June '12 so it would be spring/summer on maternity!

You may also want to come off the pill lillibit and use nothing with hormones in before TTC - they can also have a long lasting cycle-c0ckup affect... I wish I'd come off mine sooner (then I'd've found out earlier I had PCOS too )

And, not to be a downer, but realistically you've around a 20-30% chance each cycle of getting pregnant with well timed BD... around 85% get pregnant within a year... it's the minority that manage to plan when a baby will come, and don't forget they can be early and late too

I only say this so that you don't start TTC, having waited an extra 6 months and then it takes 6 months to get preg and you needn't've waited cos it ends up being the same time of year, iyswim? Obviously I hope it doesn't take that long, but we see a lot of ladies come to the TTC thread and then get really down because it hasn't happened as quick as they were expecting.


I hope I don't come across too depressing? :silenced:

Lily_The_Legend

bigzippy wrote: »

And, not to be a downer, but realistically you've around a 20-30% chance each cycle of getting pregnant with well timed BD... around 85% get pregnant within a year... it's the minority that manage to plan when a baby will come, and don't forget they can be early and late too

Thanks for the info Zippy. I didn't realise those statistics, although I had heard it takes most people a year to conceive on average. I must remember that and not get too disheartened if it doesn't happen for a while!

euronorris

bigzippy wrote: »

I hope I don't come across too depressing? :silenced:

Not at all!

I think it is good for us waiters to have a more realistic view of what to expect, so that we don't build all our hopes up and believe it will happen 1st try.

Trying to convince OH of this reality is proving trickier though. He seems convinced that his sperm is super sperm, and that they'll overcome any problems! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:Bless him!

Lily_The_Legend

euronorris wrote: »

Not at all!

I think it is good for us waiters to have a more realistic view of what to expect, so that we don't build all our hopes up and believe it will happen 1st try.

Trying to convince OH of this reality is proving trickier though. He seems convinced that his sperm is super sperm, and that they'll overcome any problems! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:Bless him!

Perhaps you could put this on a t-shirt for him! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Magicboo

bigzippy wrote: »

And, not to be a downer, but realistically you've around a 20-30% chance each cycle of getting pregnant with well timed BD... around 85% get pregnant within a year... it's the minority that manage to plan when a baby will come, and don't forget they can be early and late too

My darling, darling DH said to me over the weekend..
"I'd like my son to be born in August because I was born in August, my Dad was born in August and my Grandad was born in August.."
No pressure there then..I've got to produce a son AND in August!! :rotfl::rotfl:

euronorris

Lily_The_Legend wrote: »

Perhaps you could put this on a t-shirt for him! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Hahahahaha, brilliant!

Magicboo - Good God! He wants the month to be spot on too! I thought mine was bad enough with insisting on two boys!

He's adamant we'll have boys, but judging by the averages in my family, the words 'You'll be lucky!' spring to mind! Although, his family tends to have more boys, so he *may* be in luck.

Birdie85

Magicboo wrote: »

My darling, darling DH said to me over the weekend..
"I'd like my son to be born in August because I was born in August, my Dad was born in August and my Grandad was born in August.."
No pressure there then..I've got to produce a son AND in August!! :rotfl::rotfl:

God bless our men! :rotfl:

My DH used to say, 'I want a baby for my 30th birthday...' as in, actually born on his birthday! No idea how I was supposed to magic that one up! Now he's decided he can't wait that long so I'm off the hook!

LegalBlonde

RebekahR wrote: »

Whens the wedding again? And your starting to ttc after this AF right?

well so i thought but now that i am a week ahead of myself, my next fertile days are a few days before the wedding (the wedding is 15th july)

so one more cycle to go!!

we could dispense with caution and start trying then but i wouldn't relax to have a drink etc in case there was a tiny chance we had got really lucky, you know what i mean!

here is the most straightforward calculator i have seen so far

http://www.emmasdiary.co.uk/ovulation-calculator/ovulation_calculator_result.aspx?DAY=27&MONTH=6&YEAR=2011&CYCLE_DAYS=28