Those who are waiting to TTC

shouldstopspending

Oh yay, can I join? I'm a long time jealous person of all you TTC or WTTC....

Or maybe not.

I want to try for a baby.. but OH said he is not ready yet, and we need to wait until he is ready. Although if it happened (not on any contraception), he'd be over the moon. !!!!!!. Men!

And I have heaps of debt. I'm 32, OH is 34. :mad:

:eek:

My life sucks. All I want is a family. boo hoo hooooo :j

Imelda

praline wrote: »

Oh this is a nonsense... I do not have time to read two threads!

Ladies as someone here has said (I really must start to try to remember names/comments... at the moment many of you as a whole are just a blob of MSN commentators bar a few who have stuck out to me. I do apologise).

Lost my train of thought.... anyway there is no need for anyone to be hounded out.. Oh I've remembered: as someone said, the majority want you there. It is the reason why I decided not to not post.

Plus many of you are going through issues that my husband and I are/have. Ideally I wouldn't really be trying to a baby you probably have a stronger urge than I do therefore you are better fitted to the TTC board than I am. (I am happy to have/not a baby, my husband is the: 'oh look at that darling baby', 'Where would we put a cot', 'I wonder what our child would look like', whereas I'm more: 'you would be home alone with baby right now', and 'how will I cope with sleepness nights'.

(I do want a baby, our child would not be neglected by us or unwanted... and I will make an excellent mother. I know because I care.)

Gosh I am waffling... Ladies, come back. We don't do this 'don't talk to so and so business'. It feels like you have been shut out of a party.:(

Pralines.x

Hi there,

I'm not TTC either, in fact we're just at that will we/ won't we stage of proceedings.

I've quoted you Praline because I think we're the same. I'm really not worried about having a baby whereas my DH is getting more and more broody.

It's such an odd thing, I love kids, kids love me and we would be bloomin' good parents BUT I can't get over this- Pregnancy and child birth. If my DH could do I would be all for it. I am PETRIFIED of all things medical. My mother has had serious illnesses for the past 7/8 yrs and I had to go through hypnotherapy just to be able to visit her in hospital (I passed out the first couple of times ) and even now hospitals bring me out in a cold sweat. The thought of a c-section makes me feel sick, I think I could go through pregnancy it if there was a guarantee that I wouldn't have to have one. Secondly, babies do not interest me in the slightest. I have a two month old niece and although I love her and visit all the time I am wishing her life away waiting for the more "interactive" stage.

My DH tells me I just need to "get over it" (hmmm) but I think I clearly don't want kids enough and that it is not right to bring a child into the world unless I am 100% about it.

Am I completely abnormal? Am I just over thinking it and I should just wait for the day I wake up and insist we have a baby?

Thanks

euronorris

shouldstopspending wrote: »

Oh yay, can I join? I'm a long time jealous person of all you TTC or WTTC....

Or maybe not.

I want to try for a baby.. but OH said he is not ready yet, and we need to wait until he is ready. Although if it happened (not on any contraception), he'd be over the moon. !!!!!!. Men!

And I have heaps of debt. I'm 32, OH is 34. :mad:

:eek:

My life sucks. All I want is a family. boo hoo hooooo :j

Welcome!

Maybe the debt is what is holding your OH back right now? I know it is what is holding back my OH.

Do you have a plan to bust the debt?

And, I'm sure you have some positive things in your life. We need to keep up the PMA ladies, otherwise we'll all be way too emotional before even starting TTC! lol

You'll get your family one day SSS.

QQuaver

euronorris wrote: »

Entirely possible also, but that still makes my LP too short.

But your cycle was a respectable 27 days, and according to your cm, you ov'd on CD16. I'd say you temped wrong

clearing_out_my_pockets

Imelda wrote: »

It's such an odd thing, I love kids, kids love me and we would be bloomin' good parents BUT I can't get over this- Pregnancy and child birth. If my DH could do I would be all for it. I am PETRIFIED of all things medical. My mother has had serious illnesses for the past 7/8 yrs and I had to go through hypnotherapy just to be able to visit her in hospital (I passed out the first couple of times ) and even now hospitals bring me out in a cold sweat. The thought of a c-section makes me feel sick, I think I could go through pregnancy it if there was a guarantee that I wouldn't have to have one. Secondly, babies do not interest me in the slightest. I have a two month old niece and although I love her and visit all the time I am wishing her life away waiting for the more "interactive" stage.

My DH tells me I just need to "get over it" (hmmm) but I think I clearly don't want kids enough and that it is not right to bring a child into the world unless I am 100% about it.

Am I completely abnormal? Am I just over thinking it and I should just wait for the day I wake up and insist we have a baby?

Thanks

I think having a baby is a big decision to make in life. It's not something you should go into lightly. I love kids. Like you, I'm not fussed about little babies.

When my brother & his girlfriend said they were expecting my niece, I was happy for them, honest I was. I felt a little jealous, but I was still happy for them. But I get freaked out by scan pictures and baby bumps. I also have a fear of vomit so could not be near her when she had morning sickness.

For personal reasons (which I won't get into on here) I have a fear and massive mistrust of hospitals and the medical profession in general. To the extent that I'd have a full blown panic attack if I have to set foot in a hospital. I'm not as bad if someone is with me, but I hate hate HATE hospitals. If I ever go through childbirth, I want a home birth if possible.

Oh and my brother, who is a doting dad and whose daughter was planned and much wanted, is moaning that his daughter (two weeks old) is too boring. "All she does is eat, poo and sleep" :rotfl: He can't wait until she's a bit older so he can have some fun with her.

kavics17

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

Oh and my brother, who is a doting dad and whose daughter was planned and much wanted, is moaning that his daughter (two weeks old) is too boring. "All she does is eat, poo and sleep" :rotfl: He can't wait until she's a bit older so he can have some fun with her.

Oh, I dread the time I can have 'fun' with (older) my child. I much prefer babies, they don't talk, don't argue, happy to be kissed and cuddled, etc. I have no idea what I have to do with an arguing 7yr old or a computer obsessed 10yr old...

shouldstopspending

euronorris wrote: »

Welcome!

Maybe the debt is what is holding your OH back right now? I know it is what is holding back my OH.

Do you have a plan to bust the debt?

And, I'm sure you have some positive things in your life. We need to keep up the PMA ladies, otherwise we'll all be way too emotional before even starting TTC! lol

You'll get your family one day SSS.

Hi Euro!

Its deffo not the money stuff, we have it under control at the moment, although will never have a debt free life... we're not that blessed. We both have good paying full time jobs, and my maternity package is great... for when we do have a baby.

He was abused as a kiddy, so he is having therapy for at the moment.. and I just need to sit patiently and wait for the day he gives the green light. Its a tough ride, thats for sure.. cos I am absolutely ready to start a family, and know he will be the best dad in the world! (his was crap too!). Each time my monthly comes around I feel like thats another month wasted. *sad face*

Its hard seeing my friends all with kids and families around them.

Anyway. PMA is that I have a fantastic bloke, awesome friends and family and can spend all my money on myself! :cool: (I do have a secret stash of cash stored away for the day we do have a wee one)

euronorris

QQuaver wrote: »

But your cycle was a respectable 27 days, and according to your cm, you ov'd on CD16. I'd say you temped wrong

Seems the most logical conclusion! :rotfl::rotfl:

clearing_out_my_pockets

kavics17 wrote: »

Oh, I dread the time I can have 'fun' with (older) my child. I much prefer babies, they don't talk, don't argue, happy to be kissed and cuddled, etc. I have no idea what I have to do with an arguing 7yr old or a computer obsessed 10yr old...

That's the thing though - they don't turn into a 7 or 10 year old overnight. You can adapt to the changes gradually

I hope no one minds, but I decided not to do a list on the OP after all - you don't really graduate from this thread, other than if you decide to move over to the main TTC thread

euronorris

COMP and Imelda - Would using a private hospital and doctors make you feel more at ease? Is obtaining some private medical insurance an option? I ask because I've had some bad experiences with the NHS, but some great experiences here in Holland and the only difference is that here I have to pay for medical insurance (although it is subsidised by the government also).

I have to say, I do like all stages of babies and children as they grow. You certainly do miss the quiet once they start talking! haha, but at the same time, they also say the funniest things! But I understand that everyone views things differently.

SSS - I'm sorry to hear about the issues your OH is dealing with and I hope he is able to feel more at ease with things soon, and that you can start TTC soon too. My OH's father is pants and he also has some fears about being a crap Dad himself. But I remind him that, just worrying about it in the first place shows how much he cares and is willing to put the effort in to do a good job. Plus, I think he will be an amazing father! His parents have shown exactly what NOT to do!