Is it better to be presented with an engagement ring or to choose one together?

MarkBargain

I guess the proposal is better if the man presents a ring when he asks the question, but on the other hand he may choose a bad ring and it could be nicer to go and choose one together? The latter is also easier for getting the size right as well as style, so it is more practical but is it less romantic? What would you prefer? A question for the ladies!

Bride2be24

I prefer him to choose so he can do his romantic bit on the one knee etc. if you dont like the ring ask nicely if they would be offended if you could swap it and choose the ring together. That way you get what you want (if thats the case) and you also get the romantic bit of getting down on one knee x

McKneff

You can always do the down on one knee with something other than a ring.

A daisy chain made specially, a coke can ring with tinsel on it, use your imgination and look for the ring together,

Its part of the excitement looking together

sammy_wheeler

i defo wanted him to propose with a ring- and he did and it was perfect

ellay864

My OH chose a ring...totally not what I would have chosen. He chose an amethyst as I have a purple obsession, and with the 3 small stones each side it's much larger than I normally wear - I don't mean Kate/Di big stone but big for me (and I only have small fingers!) It took a bit of getting used to but due to the whole nature of the proposal (very romantic but LONGGGG story so I won't go into details) I just couldnt imagine wearing anything else. It's really more of a dress ring and he did offer to change it if I wanted but no other ring would have had the same back story and meant so much.
You could always try asking for kind of hints about the sort of thing she likes...or McKneff's idea is lovely, romantic but practical as you won't upset her with a wrong choice lol

White_Sapphire

H2B proposed with the ring - again, completely not what I would have chosen, not because I didn't like it (it's beautiful and I love it) but he chose something more modern than I would have done. Having said that the design won't date as it is very simple. Now that I have it I can't imagine having anything else - one of the reasons I love it is because he chose it himself. And it only had to be resized one size!

Depends on the bride-to-be I guess - some will want the ring to be presented, some will want to choose it herself. Love McKneff's idea! :T

sharpee

H2B proposed with a ring. I love the idea that he chose that specific ring just for me. So I know everytime I look at it it was chosen for me and is a symbol of his love

PinkPrincess83

I think its down to what you think your girlfriend would prefer.

My oh wasnt on planning on proposing when he did, so there was no ring, but even if it had been planned he wouldnt have got a ring as he knew I has seen a ring I loved and so he proposed then we went shopping for my ring, and I love it as its exactly the one I wanted, and its small and plain which is perfect for my small hands.

If you have no idea of size/ style then maybe you could so as Mckneff says and have a token ring and then take her shopping to choose exactly what she would want. Or could you maybe get advice on style etc from her best friend/ family member, when my sisters oh (now ex) was going to propose I went shopping with him to help choose her ring, he had picked one but just wanted my opinion on if she would like it (she did!!).

ab7167

I was presented with a ring, it had to be sized afterwards, but I wouldn't have had it any other way. The boy done good!

spoonymoose

I hinted at my OH what rings I liked online, HOWEVER when it came to the actually proposal he'd picked something completely different and you know what, it was even better than the ones I'd seen and it was perfect.

I couldn't imagine owning one of the rings I'd seen now I have the one he chose

nykied

Well, I would have said without a ring and my OH did propose without a ring, simply because I had my own specific ideas about what I wanted as an engagement ring. He proposed with some flowers, which was really sweet. In the end, we went shopping for a ring together and after I'd tried on the rings I liked, he picked one out and I fell in love with it. But as I have snappy little twig fingers, it can't be resized, so if he'd bought it before, it would have been the wrong size.

What I've always thought would be really, really romantic would be to have one of those Love Heart sweets with 'marry me' on it in a box. You might have to eat a lot of Love Hearts before you find one though...