Lodger didn't move in on date agreed - tricky Q - can anyone help?

abby1234519

Gwhiz wrote: »

ffacoffipawb cannot be serious, surely? If so then he's a complete idiot or a troll!!!!

I'm only a mere 22 and I use the term Welsher.

Mainly to describe my housemates :O

But they are!

HappyMJ

I'd give the room to L2. Do you have enough room in the house to have L3 a few nights per week. I'd take them as well and give them a discount for sleeping in a small room if you have one? I'm just thinking you could make quite a bit out of sharing your place with someone who's rarely there. What about about converting a room into a bedroom? Maybe a dining room or even the lounge it's only for 3 nights a week.

bundly

I've no intention of taking L2's deposit! I have told him that I will let him know on Wednesday whether his application is successful or not.

Something else incredible has happened: an ex lodger just phoned this minute and asked if I have a room for his flatmate -- a woman. He will vouch for her, and she can move in next Saturday.

I cannot believe this -- three people in one day!

bundly

HappyMJ wrote: »

I'd give the room to L2. Do you have enough room in the house to have L3 a few nights per week. I'd take them as well and give them a discount for sleeping in a small room if you have one? I'm just thinking you could make quite a bit out of sharing your place with someone who's rarely there. What about about converting a room into a bedroom? Maybe a dining room or even the lounge it's only for 3 nights a week.

Unfortunately, I don't have any other room that could be used. All I have to offer is half my double bed, but he'd have to put up with my snoring!

bundly

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

No, I was just trying to discourage you from not being candid with L2. You proposed lying to him and I thought that you should not. Why not be totally honest and tell him that another candidate is coming to see the room and you will let him know either way once you have made a decision? Meanwhile they are free to continue to look for another place if they want to. It sounds to me that by offering to take L2's deposit you were confirming that they could have the room if they wanted it but now you are seeking to withdraw it, only to re-offer it if the other candidate is less attractive or doesn't want it. That was the cake and eating it, too. Perhaps these sorts of actions are indicative of the troubles you've been having with your previous lodgers. I dunno

I am nearly 53. L3 is a householder in his 50s. L2 has just left uni. Older lodgers are better than younger ones. They are more civilised, more mature, more sensible, quieter, are used to looking after their own properties and so look after mine. They see the merit in house rules. They keep regular hours. Best of all, L3 will only be here 2 to 3 nights -- less pressure on the bathroom and kitchen and of course using less water, less electricity! So L3 HAS to be my first choice.

I have phoned L2, told him the situation and told him not to come today, that I cannot yet take his deposit as I am giving first preference to someone else, I said to L2 that I will phone him on Wednesday night to let him know if L3 is taking the room or not. Contrary to what someone else on here said, he did not mind at all. He's impressed that so many people are applying for the room.

As of ten minutes ago, I now I have an L4 ---- a woman. Oh dear! Nothing for weeks, and three in one day!

What a day this has turned out to be!!!

chris_m

bundly wrote: »

Nothing for weeks, and three in one day!

You should run a bus company :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

bundly

Cissi wrote: »

Edited because I've just seen your last post, and I agree with B&T that L2 is unlikely to hang about until Wednesday - don't think I would!

Well, you are wrong - I told him and he is happy to wait till Wednesday.

lostinrates

Bundly, my dh is a week time only lodger. He is also a married man who isn;t there at weekends but in his own home. His habits are not offensive or insafe (I find soe od though ) and every place he's moved out of (three) the LL has remained friends and ahas re offered him the room (when the realtionshp they wanted the house for fell trough, or when he left because he wanted too for whatever reason they kept reoffering him it, because he's a sweetie )

I can assure you right now, that going by DH this type of person would be put off by a three page rules list! It perfectly acceptable, and indeed preferable, to have terms agreed on paper, and to have some rules...e.g. no cooking in room.

Have to say, personally I'd be put off by not being able to sleep with my window open, I almost always do, but I can see why in your situation this is not possible. Maybe a window lock that allowed partial but not full opening overnight for window open sleepers would be a wise investment for you if your windows are timber? Most lodgers are only in their roos at night/evening, and certainly unsafe to leave window open at day when they are not there and by far the majority of rooms do need airing even if you sleep with the window closed....especially perhaps! Unless you have a clean air system or some such.

ali-t

bundly wrote: »

I have just checked online, and the court costs involved are small. I'd be willing to risk having to pay them should I lose. The non lodger would have to pay the court costs upfront, tacle all the paperwork, AND take a day's leave from work to attend (whereas I won't, as I am self employed) so his 'investment' is greater from the outset, which might put him off, especially since he knows he is in the wrong and has admitted so in emails that he knows I can show the judge.

A further online check reveals that I qualify for legal aid on the grounds of low income. (The non lodgers annual income is three times mine, by the way.)

Well OP, you have rapidly gone down in my estimations based on the above post. You are willing to make a point and take it all the way - because someone else will pay for it. that's right, you crack on and milk the system

bundly

lostinrates wrote: »

Have to say, personally I'd be put off by not being able to sleep with my window open, I almost always do, but I can see why in your situation this is not possible. Maybe a window lock that allowed partial but not full opening overnight for window open sleepers would be a wise investment for you if your windows are timber? Most lodgers are only in their roos at night/evening, and certainly unsafe to leave window open at day when they are not there and by far the majority of rooms do need airing even if you sleep with the window closed....especially perhaps! Unless you have a clean air system or some such.

Shame you wasted so much time on writing all this. The lodger's bedroom was on the second floor. He left the living room sash window open on the ground floor all night long, and the entire ground floor was unoccupied, so any burglar could have just climbed inside, robbed me of all my TV and stereo equipment, my PC, laptop, laser printer etc etc,. And my insurance would not have been valid.