Lodger didn't move in on date agreed - tricky Q - can anyone help?

bundly

Gwhiz wrote: »

ffacoffipawb cannot be serious, surely? If so then he's a complete idiot or a troll!!!!

Presumably, if I had used the word WELCH on the deal instead of WELSH, he would have no objection.

Or he might have put me on his black list.

Oh no! Racist again!

Gwhiz

bundly wrote: »

Presumably, if I had used the word WELCH on the deal instead of WELSH, he would have no objection.

Or he might have put me on his black list.

Oh no! Racist again!

You bad bad person

bundly

Gwhiz wrote: »

You bad bad person

Worse, my father is black and my mother is Welsh!

bundly

Oh Lordy what a mess I am in now. Prospective Lodger 2 wants to give me a deposit this evening. Prospective Lodger 3 lives 300 miles away and cannot view until Wednesday. Should I tell L2 the truth, that I'd prefer L3, an older man who will only be here two days a week, and say that if L3 does not want the room, he can have it? That sounds bad. Is it better to be honest, or to just defer taking the deposit by making up a lie (for example, that I am going away from now till Wednesday?)

Heeeeelp!

BitterAndTwisted

Accept Lodger 2. You haven't even met Lodger 3 yet and they could turn out to be most unsatisfactory. If I were Lodger 2, being told that I could have the room only if another prospect turned out not to be satisfactory at some point in the future, I'd tell you what to do with your room.

bundly

Hello Bitter, and thanks for trying to help me with your suggestions. I've just done some research on L3, he is an MSc and successful company director who is employed by my local council as a consultant 3 days a week - hence only needs to sleep here two or three nights and never at weekends. Married with four kids and lives 300 miles away in a big, expensive house. His company has a website and plenty of staff, so is doing really well. All I want to find out from him is how long his contract is with my local council. I don't want to let to someone just for a few weeks.

I could LIE to L2, telling him I am suddenly called away from home to care for my sick sister in London until Wednesday. Then I must tell L3 that he has to give me an answer immediately after viewing the room on Weds.

How's that?

BitterAndTwisted

I still think it's unfair of you to mess L2 around. Either you offer him the room and take his deposit or you tell the truth, let him down and take a gamble that your 2-3 days a week consultant actually likes and wants your room once they've seen it and take the hit on any weeks the room remains unrented. You sound awfully like you want your cake and eat it too. I really don't think that what you've suggested is a decent way to treat other people at all.

bundly

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

I still think it's unfair of you to mess L2 around. Either you offer him the room and take his deposit or you tell the truth, let him down and take a gamble that your 2-3 days a week consultant actually likes and wants your room once they've seen it and take the hit on any weeks the room remains unrented. You sound awfully like you want your cake and eat it too. I really don't think that what you've suggested is a decent way to treat other people at all.

Thanks for your opinion.

I don't want to "have my cake and eat it too". I want to get the BEST lodger that I can, which means someone who will pay his rent AND respect my home.

I've told L2 that I will let him know on Wednesday whether his application for the room is successful.

When people conduct job interviews, they don't give the job to people in order of when they applied or what date they had their inteview. They offer the job to their first choice, and if he or she doesn't want the job, then they offer it to their second choice. I am doing exactly the same, and you think I am treating them badly!

Cissi

Edited because I've just seen your last post, and I agree with B&T that L2 is unlikely to hang about until Wednesday - don't think I would!

BitterAndTwisted

No, I was just trying to discourage you from not being candid with L2. You proposed lying to him and I thought that you should not. Why not be totally honest and tell him that another candidate is coming to see the room and you will let him know either way once you have made a decision? Meanwhile they are free to continue to look for another place if they want to. It sounds to me that by offering to take L2's deposit you were confirming that they could have the room if they wanted it but now you are seeking to withdraw it, only to re-offer it if the other candidate is less attractive or doesn't want it. That was the cake and eating it, too. Perhaps these sorts of actions are indicative of the troubles you've been having with your previous lodgers. I dunno