oh packed his stuff and left tonight what do i do now?

Hard_up,_not_happy

I hope you two manage to sort things out. Relationships are never easy. When he has had some space hopefully you can talk and resolve any issues.

My advice, for what it is worth, is whilst you are chatting agree that next time you row neither of you heads out the door back to your parents house. Stay and thrash it out, work through it, come to a compromise. If your relationship is worth it you will both fight for it and make it work.

southoftheriver

I think that you have taken the flak that you've gotten on this thread really well. It is such a learning curve being in a relationship and everyone has acted in an immature way whilst finding their way (many people still do). Instead of being defensive you've come back and taken what people have said on the chin.

And for the record I didn't think you were being overbearing by trying to look after your partner, if my bf wasn't well I would have done the same. Obviously knowing when to back off is useful but I don't think you did anything wrong.

Good luck whatever happens, everything that happens will make you more able to deal with whatever else happens in your relationships, even though it feels rubbish now.

skypie123_2

Have you heard from him since Chloo?
I wonder if he is ready to give you an explanation yet?
All this constant playing Playstation, sounds like he needs to grow up a bit!
xx

Doozergirl

You have a fixed term tenancy which ends at the 6 month point exactly. You can move out on that day without giving notice, the law is clear, but you must surrender the tenancy properly - ie. give the keys back on that day. If you want to leave one day after that date or you decide later that you want to move out then will need to give full notice detailed in the tenancy to your landlord.

I suspect this will blow over and you probably won't need to move, but you have 6 weeks to work that out. There is a house buying, renting and selling board where people will confirm how and when you surrender your tenancy.

I'd get a copy of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. It's half full of rubbish, but the pertinence of leaving a man alone when he wants to be is in there... It would be interesting to put this post on ice for 10 years and then look back and see whether you still think you were being mature.

Alias_Omega

Time is a healer..

chloo

just an update really,

i want to say a big thank you to every one who has replied to my posts i think its good to see things from different people eyes.

i havent hear from him since his text on tuesday to say he had put the money in the account.

i miss just having him at the end of the phone or getting a cuddle when im feeling down or stressed.

i still dont know what to do, i dont want to throw away what we have/had as in my opinion that would just be stupid when 95% of the time we have a really good time and such a giggle.

should i contact him? how? should i wait for him to contact me?

in myself im really strugglying to eat sleep and i forgot to clean my teeth before i left the house yesterday

i slept at the flat last night for the first time since he left, it was awful i was so scared and so upset i just couldnt sleep it was worse than sleeping at my mums.

i asked my three close friends round tonight and they were all busy so im feeling really rubbish today, i just want to talk to him so much thats the hardest bit the not talking to my best friend.

i miss him so much and i dont know what i can do about it

thanks for listening

chloo

Loanranger

Just want to let you know that the whole MSE Forum will go offline at 1 am for maintenance.

No, I wouldn't contact him. Leave him be for now. Allow him to set his own pace.

FatVonD

I do feel for you (we've all been young and heartbroken at some point!) and I'm so sorry to see the site was down when you needed a bit of support.

You've done really well not to contact him and try not to let it take over your life. Of course you are upset and you won't be able to just snap out of it straight away but it WILL get better!

Allow yourself half an hour to think about it (and have a little cry if you need to) and then think 'okay, after this half hour I'm not going to think about it for 4 hours, I'll allow myself to revisit it again then but for now I need to function.' Acknowledge that it's natural to have those feelings but know that they have a time and a place.

Eventually it'll get easier, you are young with your whole life ahead of you and so many interesting things and people to discover! One day you will thank your lucky stars you didn't tie yourself down so young. Put on a CD (in my day it was Barclay James Harvest's 'I'm over you' but many women would thoroughly recommend Gloria Gaynor's 'I will survive') and belt it out at the top of your voice!

Stay strong, you're doing well

lilbert

(((((((((((((((hugs!!!)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
No advice I'm afraid, i think everyone has already given all opinions. Just wanted to let you know i'm thinking about you!

pearl123

Now is a good time to do things you enjoy. Rent a movie, go swimming, walking, time with friends, listening to you favourite music. Whatever you enjoy and make you feel good.