not knowing which way to turn

starrystarry

Oopsadaisy wrote: »

Not knowing which way to turn.............wasn't that the dilemma faced by Mark Oaten's wife??

Is this really a joking matter? (Not that it was funny anyway).

yvonne13_2

julie03 wrote: »

the first time he self harmed was to do with a relationship, he has been taunted before but never anything like this, he was worried about what i would do as i would never have let him take the dsi with him as its mine, thats why he would have done anything to get it back
he has done the councilling and he hated it

julie03 I will never fully understand what you and your family are going through as I am not in that situation myself. All I know at the end of the day it is down to your son where he goes from here. whatever choice he takes will map his future, I personally would say to him (he will already know) that you will be there for no matter what.

I know a lot have people have said turn the cheek or go to the police but we can only all guest how we would react to the situatation as we are not the ones going through it.

I personally would keep an eye on the situation, and if I ever heard those low lifes started any form of rubbish near my child again I will do time and i'm not joking.

As I have always said I do not abdicate the usage of violence but I know any descent loving parent will do whatever it takes to proctect there child.

Keep us posted on how your son is doing, I hope he is ok today and he is able to still keep the communication flowing with yourself as I know he needs to talk about a lot of things he has bottled up.

Take care of yourself x

julie03

yvonne13, thank you for you kind words, my son is alot brighter now, its his birthday tomorrow and he might go and stay with his uncle at the weekend for ps3 and a couple of beers and not have any contact with anyone and just really chill out.

my neice came round today and it turns out her friend lives next door to this scums cousin, so a small world, she said she will have a chat but we dont know if anything will come of it.

pimento

What a sad place the world is where these idiots can bully, assault, humiliate and steal from your son and nothing happen to them.

If it were me, I would call the police. I'd have to. You might just save another young lad from the same or worse.

Auntie-Dolly

I keep thinking about this thread and hope he is feeling better. I has a quick look at the victim support website & they have a section for youngsters & can help even if the crime is not reported - might be with having a look.

tagz

Hi Julie03

I hope your son and your family are feeling better. I know it will be hard but hope he has a good birthday today. He is lucky to have his family to support him.

hollydays

Just support him,tell him about Karma-what goes around comes around (ie prison).Let him know THEY are the losers,not him. He's the bright kid,who has reached advanced education-they probably were expelled from school!Use contacts to find out more about these pieces of scum,can he keep out of their way?If they have asbos,find the terms of their asbos,and report,report,report,using your cousins info if possible. Breaches of an asbo can put them in prison,but ONLY if the POlice are TOLD that they are breaking the tewrms of the ASBO.While my experiece has been through my work ,that you need to stand up to bullies,if its too close for comfort,you do need to be able to maintain your piece of mind.Keep the lines of communication open,speak to his school.Speak to his friends?x

hollydays

johnnyboyrebel wrote: »

That will be the general consensus however having experienced the situation many years ago (a friend of mine) it is actually probably the worst thing he could do.

how old are you?

hoyles10

Just been reading the thread and know what a difficult situation you and your son are in.

When I was 14 3 older lads took some money and my Sega Game Gear off me (Show's how long ago that was ) by threatening me with a hammer in the centre of town. I didn't know the lads personally but knew of them so took myself off to the local police station to report it plus it was the only way I could think of to ring my parents as I was stuck in town without any money. I gave the police the lads names and reported it, my parents came to pick me up and we were told that an officer will pursue my report.

By all accounts the 2 of the lads were questioned but nothing came of it apart from a couple of weeks later me and a friend got attacked on our way home from school. This again was reported to the police but again nothing came of it so my dad, my friends dad and the entire darts team from the pub collared one of the lads, got my Game Gear back and me and my friend ended up with an apology from all 3 lads and were never bothered again.

I wouldn't recommend retaliation and would always contact the police but I would try to get your lad into something like Karate or Thai Boxing not only to keep fit but so he can defend himself should anything like this happen again.

Hopefully these lads will get what's coming to them at some point though as I know that at least 2 of the lads I had a run in with are in prison even now. I also hope your lad has had a good birthday today

yvonne13_2

Julie03, I hope your lad has had a great birthday today and I am sure he will celebrate it fully at the weekend. 1 year older 1 year wiser