Living @ home and hating it

cassidy0111

gothrockchic1 wrote: »

Hi ya, just been reading your thread and posts and want to wish you luck. I broke up with someone 18 months ago and we were living together and I am still owed money but chose to keep quiet about it Im £300 out of pocket but it's better to have him out of my life and its a small price to pay for that :cool:

I would follow your instincts on how to deal with the phone bill saga only you will know how he will react. You can get a cheap Sim card for 99p in Tesco!

Also I want say that you are doing so well with the 100 day challenge! That £67 will turn up somehow! Its a good feeling getting it under £2k I did it recently! :j:beer:

It is good to be under £2k. I have a nice wee surplus building up this month and hope to able to knock another chunk off the debt just before pay day.

I think the phone bill is a small price to pay as I am enjoying the single life again. Oh and well done for getting under £2k

cassidy0111

LittleBoots wrote: »

Such a carppy situation, hope your friend gets through to him.

Have not had a chance to speak to my friend yet but will report back when I find out what has been said.

LittleBoots

I remember when I was about 10 years old my mum gave me future relationship advice...one thing only...keep your finances separate! Nothing else, just that haha.

With my now ex I would probably have taken all sorts of loans/cards out for him if he ever asked, I was blinded by love too! But I know now not to as I've learned that you never really know someone.

On another note can I ask which gym you use? Good rate you've got!!

cassidy0111

LittleBoots wrote: »

I remember when I was about 10 years old my mum gave me future relationship advice...one thing only...keep your finances separate! Nothing else, just that haha.

With my now ex I would probably have taken all sorts of loans/cards out for him if he ever asked, I was blinded by love too! But I know now not to as I've learned that you never really know someone.

On another note can I ask which gym you use? Good rate you've got!!

I still use my old Uni gym as I am currently doing another course. The headteacher managed to sort all the funding out for me with the council as she is a star.

cassidy0111

cassidy0111 wrote: »

Have not had a chance to speak to my friend yet but will report back when I find out what has been said.

My friend text me earlier. My ex has apologised for the extra charges. He is moving into a new flat and will return the phone to me "once he finds his feet". Im quite happy with that actually.

iwantahome

Yay you get the phone back!

Your situation sounds so familiar to mine. I hadn't lived at home for 10+ years, and it is extremely difficult trying not to revert back to teenage strops. Especially when parents refuse to see you as an adult any more. Mine saw me as an independent adult for all of the years I lived away and treated me as such. But since moving back in it is like they are trying to grab at having a child again. Personally I can't wait to have my independence back and feel like an adult inside my own home. Oh to close the front door from the world and not have my mother nagging at me, and just hear silence instead will be glorious.

I suppose you only make mistakes once though.

LittleBoots

Glad you are happy with the results

ceridwen

Fingers crossed for you that you manage to move back out again soon O.P. - £200 per month and your food on top...and I would be hurrying to go in your position (ie because the extra I was using for fuel, etc, wouldnt come to anything like £200 per month....). Hence I would want to be out back in the "wide world" as soon as possible. I havent checked exact figures - but I guesstimate that my bills and Council Tax together come to roughly £200 per month on my house in total - and then I have to find food and cleaning materials/loo paper on top of that.

But I guess different strokes for different folks and part of the reason I moved out as soon as I could (errr...<cough> number of years ago) is that I'd worked out that I might well be paying rather more than the extra costs of me being there....hence my personal view was that I would rather be paying even more...but be "out on my own" iyswim.

If I'd just been covering the "extra costs" from me remaining there - then I would have probably stayed rather longer than I did...but when one is paying "extra" anyway...than might as well have the "independence" that one expects from paying that "extra".

In fairness - I've been known before now to tell someone that they werent paying their parents enough to cover the extra costs of them being there - so they should pay more (ie as it wasnt fair to the parents to have them be out of pocket because their adult child was still living there....) and they took my advice and duly offered more and ended up paying a bit extra...

Good luck.

cassidy0111

iwantahome wrote: »

Yay you get the phone back!

Your situation sounds so familiar to mine. I hadn't lived at home for 10+ years, and it is extremely difficult trying not to revert back to teenage strops. Especially when parents refuse to see you as an adult any more. Mine saw me as an independent adult for all of the years I lived away and treated me as such. But since moving back in it is like they are trying to grab at having a child again. Personally I can't wait to have my independence back and feel like an adult inside my own home. Oh to close the front door from the world and not have my mother nagging at me, and just hear silence instead will be glorious.

I suppose you only make mistakes once though.

My parents are ok but i still feel like I am trapped. I like to have my own space and I am very fussy about food/cooking. I have always lived with other people be it flatmates or bfs so it will be strange to have a flat of my own. (hopefully in the summer!!)

cassidy0111

LittleBoots wrote: »

Glad you are happy with the results

Yeah it keeps thinks quite friendly I guess. I am not sure what I will do with the phone when I get it back but least the bills will be under my control.