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Bitsy_Beans

clairewop wrote: »

Although I had another pm from Mse Andrea warning me about advertising stuff for sale, although I never did it intentally. I have to be carefull what I say, I can put photo's here but not mention I'm going to sell them.

I actually think that's REALLY unfair. You were showing us what you intended to sell at market NOT "hey everyone look at what I've made, wanna buy one? contact me for details".
In the run up to Christmas we had a craft thread on Special Occasions board which was filled with pics and comments about stuff we intented to SELL at craft fairs. Not a word was said to me or any of the other posters as far as I am aware.

clairewop wrote: »

Well DHhas just had a go at me for being on the laptop when the house isn't clean :mad: so peed off now, told him I was just having a sit cause my leg was hurting he said whatever, who the hell does he think he is?

I would say words fail me but actually they don't but they would break the expletive rule :mad:
Is it beyond his comprehension to see what you've done today (despite being in agony) and to even heaven forbid actually raise a finger himself to help out.
Claire I honestly don't know how you hold your tongue because I couldn't live with a man who treated me with such disrespect.

Sorry for the slightly ranty post, few things I needed to say

claudiac_2

Dorastar - You just reminded me I need to get myself a timer! 15 minutes at anything is so doable - even for me!

MG - That was v funny, will show my wee GS tomorrow - he just loves funny things. And well done on the gardening, you must be getting better weather than us, it seems to be raining every time I go out the door at the moment.

Claire - He has no right to speak to you that way! Does he use the laptop as well? My OH sometimes has a moan at me for being online, seems to think I should be interested in some of the **** he watches on tv, but he is also completely clueless in using a computer, so I think maybe he just doesn't 'get' what I could be doing staring at a screen, as he says. Makes no difference though, nothing would stop me from getting online!

MrsMoo2U

Evening all, it has been raining here all day so I have continued in my quest to declutter. Loads and loads done over the last two days but I am starting to flag now. Still have a landing full of boxes to put away somewhere until they can be sorted later in the week. Guess my study is going to be over run! Hoping that all of my hard work this weekend will spur Mr C on to looking at some of his boxes and agree to pick out a few things to keep and let others go. I mean - who needs YHA guides from 1981 onwards :question::question::question::question:

Claire, I might be a little controversial here. Bear with me I mean well!
Has your husband always spoken to you in this way and you have just not noticed it before (or you have accepted it because you thought that was what you deserved)? I am wondering if some of the :eek: moments that you are describing are because you are noticing more or because you have heaps more confidence. I, for one, have seen you growing in confidence over the last year. Perhaps this change is causing your OH to react the way he is if he hasnt acted this way before. Or, perhaps you are just realising that you dont deserve to be a slave to the whole household. I found that as I got older and especially as I did some personal development courses my relationship with my now ex took a different route. I no longer put up with certain things because I knew I was worth more. He didnt want to go along that path with me so he left. I am not saying that this will happen with you but it might be something to be aware of. Once you recognise these things then there are ways to handle them. In the meantime maybe you really need to have a heart to heart with him. Or write down all the things that he has said over the course of the day and show them to him with notes about how you felt. Good luck

MrsMoo2U

Ahem, by the way, I decided last night to have a read back over Make do and Mend and I didnt know that Martin put in intros to diaries

Inserted Intro From Martin....

This is MemoryGirls 'make do and mend' diary. You'll see the first post immediately below, then can scroll down for updates (with others comments in between).

It's a fascinating, fun and inspiring insight into how to go thrifty and Old Style and well worth a read through... thanks for posting it Memory Girl...

PS for people new to forums, a quick abbreviation glossary.

DS - Darling Son
OD - overdraft
CC - Credit Card
LOL - laughs out loud
OS - MoneySaving Old Style which is all about thrift - see the Old Style Board and Thrifty Ways charity book

Now onto the info..

:T:T:T:T

clairewop

cherisong wrote: »

Evening all, it has been raining here all day so I have continued in my quest to declutter. Loads and loads done over the last two days but I am starting to flag now. Still have a landing full of boxes to put away somewhere until they can be sorted later in the week. Guess my study is going to be over run! Hoping that all of my hard work this weekend will spur Mr C on to looking at some of his boxes and agree to pick out a few things to keep and let others go. I mean - who needs YHA guides from 1981 onwards :question::question::question::question:

Claire, I might be a little controversial here. Bear with me I mean well!
Has your husband always spoken to you in this way and you have just not noticed it before (or you have accepted it because you thought that was what you deserved)? I am wondering if some of the :eek: moments that you are describing are because you are noticing more or because you have heaps more confidence. I, for one, have seen you growing in confidence over the last year. Perhaps this change is causing your OH to react the way he is if he hasnt acted this way before. Or, perhaps you are just realising that you dont deserve to be a slave to the whole household. I found that as I got older and especially as I did some personal development courses my relationship with my now ex took a different route. I no longer put up with certain things because I knew I was worth more. He didnt want to go along that path with me so he left. I am not saying that this will happen with you but it might be something to be aware of. Once you recognise these things then there are ways to handle them. In the meantime maybe you really need to have a heart to heart with him. Or write down all the things that he has said over the course of the day and show them to him with notes about how you felt. Good luck

I said to him earlier that I didn't like his attitude and the way he spoke to me earlier, and I wasn't his slave, he said he was just messing with me.

He has completely changed his attitude and has taken over cooking the dinner

tellmeitsfriday

Maybe just reminding him not to be such an a@se is enough. Keep doing this though, or it will become a habit for him

well done for sticking up for yourself (not that you should need to, of course) x

Memory_Girl

Sheep dip accomplished:D Roast Dinner made and devoured - you think they were hungry because of all the "child labour" I had this afternoon???

I remember Martin going back and doing the intro to that thread - I think it was used in one of the Weekly Newsletters. Wee bit scarey;) I bet you any money I run into him at some point when I am back at work - that would be a touch embarrrassing considering some of the things we have chatted about on this thread :rotfl:

Just shows how long I have been trying to get my bahookie in gear though :cool:

So one last job - mop the floors, and then I hope there is something good on the telly cos I fancy parking myself and doing some knitting. Boys are watching "Zathura" so I can mop in peace (at least without my Little Helper:D

Also came across some lavendar oil whilst tidying today - I think I may convert some of the Approved Food Olive oil into "castille" soap this week (I can call it DS1's science experiment for the week ) Luxury soap at real bargain prices.

I won underlay (real wool 10mm thick) and gripper rods (enough to do DS2's bedroom too) on Ebay this afternoon - at about the quarter of the price I could have sourced it for in the local shops - Go Me:j

Now I need to figure out something swish to do for a window treatment - the room has a Velux and I refuse to pay for a blind, so I'm thinking a curtain pole over the top of the Velux and one underneath so that the curtain falls behind the lower pole (does that even make sense???)............... would be so much easier if I could draw you guys a picture:)

My Mop is calling me - wonder how Souk and Flying Fresian got on having lunch?? I hope it was bubbles all the way.

MG

ClootiesMum

Cherisong - I didn't realise that either - Martin is a fan MG - go you..... although thinking back to some of the conversations we've had .......:o

Claire - I wouldn't interfere in other marriages but....:mad::mad: - can I ask - does he have a day off each week? - If so, then so should you - & on that day you can do as you wish - as he can on his, of course. This might be a small compromise if hubby's not always been like this with you or if you've just noticed it. Worth a thought if it keeps the peace for a few weeks & gets things back on an even keel....

Bu anyway ladies - I have been so good today.....

Bills paid online
Stripped, washed & dried bedding (stripped the bed - I didn't strip & then do the washing :eek:)
Been to recycle recycling
Several loads of washing
Have hoovered out car which seemed to have half the garden soil in it
Last wee bit of shopping (not supermarket stuff - other stuff & I am now a fan of Home Bargains as well as the £ shop)
Bought card for SIL's birthday (but not a SIL one as DH's brother has put her brother as his brother on FB - so she's obviously not a real SIL - if you can work this out Welcome to Mensa)
Poo patrol front & back - eeuurgh
Cleaned out hens
Been to chat up neighbour to ask him to feed hens for the next few days when we're away
Tidied, polished, hoovered & steamed floor of conservatory & hall
Livingroom - tidied, polished, hoovered & vaxed carpet

Still more to do but having a break......

And it looks like it's going to rain - so should I let the dogs in - they're sitting outside with sad faces but they might mess up the house......
Of course I will, even I'm not that cruel - or am I????

Bitsy_Beans

clairewop wrote: »

Never mind I'll just have to be carefull what I say from now on

In the mean time I would love to make a patchwork pram cover out of the scraps of material I have left, do you have any idea how to do it??

as in a mini quilted blanket for a pram or an actual cover that affixes to the pram?
If its the former I would suppose do a mini version of a standard partwork thing-y, if it's the latter then no idea other than to make it elasticated around the edging so it can fit snugly around the rim of the pram.

Bitsy_Beans

Memory_Girl wrote: »

Now I need to figure out something swish to do for a window treatment - the room has a Velux and I refuse to pay for a blind, so I'm thinking a curtain pole over the top of the Velux and one underneath so that the curtain falls behind the lower pole (does that even make sense???)............... would be so much easier if I could draw you guys a picture:)

I assume it's Velux then it's at an angle yes? Could you have pole top and botton like you describe but threat the curtain with either tab tops or a casing top AND bottom so that gravity doesn't pull the excess weight of the curtain from behind the bottom pole IYSWIM? That was you can just gather the curtain to one side during daylight hours although depending on how good that looks I suppose depends on the weight of the fabric.
Well done on your ebay win. I am currently watching a load of overlockers, I can't afford approx £200 for a brand new one but want to see if I can get one for under £100. It's a bit of a PITA though as the postage costs are horrendous!