Memorygirls - The Matrix Re-inspired

Memory_Girl

http://thesecret.tv/the-secret-check.html

linkie to the secret cheque for anyone else who wants to play.



Mum has offered me £30 towards my course as my Birthday Pressie:j Here I come Glasgow.

On Tuesday 14th of June I will be there - just watch me

MG

Souk08

Hi ladies, what do I think about being negative about men. Well you'll NEVER hear me do it. I wont live with one as I like my own space but I like them as a species.

Really hurt by your comments FW. It's ME who has to pay the bills every month on my own when I could so easily have opted for the safe life with some man. I chose not to do that. I have freedom and fun and lots of love and fun in my life. I have friends and good times. Why would I need a man. I appreciate that YOU have a man and that that suits you but I have various and that suits me. I have no idea why the fact that I choose to live alone makes you decide that I am fearful. Yep terrified of some things, losing my mum and dad, not finding work but not of being on my own.

I thought this was all about respecting each other. Those comments were not respectful.

MrsMoo2U

Gosh you lot can talk. I have had a bit of an odd day. Started fine then half way through the day felt really ill, very bad headache and throwing up (sorry TMI). Still feel a bit woozy but couldnt resist popping on here for a bit of an uplift. Sorry I have to admit to forgetting half of what is written before I write this
Claire - the aprons look great, not sure about the paddington apron. At first glance it looked ok but then I thought that as an apron I might want to !!!! my head sideways IYSWIM (getting the hang of this alien talk) ETA ooo I just posted this very innocently and it came up with !!!! I am now giggling like a naughty school girl, I use that word (think male hen) all of the time when talking about focusing on stuff
FW I hope that the results are all positive, if nothing else they will find pure genius running through those veins!
MG would that course be the one being run by a certain hero of some of us. I just had a lightbulb moment and wonder if he is Mr Big too???????? If it is the course that I am thinking of then I really hope that you get the money together because I am convinced the "The One" will be coming sooner rather than later. Oh, that made me think of Highlander "There can be Only One" (sorry geeky moment with one of my favourite films)
Loving all of the talk re men - sorry I missed out. MG I remember that Gabriel Byrne is your fantasy man but your perfect man doesnt have to even be anything like your fantasy man - hence the question. Now my fantasy man would be Robert Downey Jnr but not sure that I could live with him full time.

Sorry there was so much to comment on but as I am woozy I just picked a few bits out.

Craftyscholar

Souk08 wrote: »

Hi ladies, what do I think about being negative about men. Well you'll NEVER hear me do it. I wont live with one as I like my own space but I like them as a species.

Really hurt by your comments FW. It's ME who has to pay the bills every month on my own when I could so easily have opted for the safe life with some man. I chose not to do that. I have freedom and fun and lots of love and fun in my life. I have friends and good times. Why would I need a man. I appreciate that YOU have a man and that that suits you but I have various and that suits me. I have no idea why the fact that I choose to live alone makes you decide that I am fearful. Yep terrified of some things, losing my mum and dad, not finding work but not of being on my own.

I thought this was all about respecting each other. Those comments were not respectful.

Thank you, Souk.
I avoided replying to FW until I had calmed down as I feel the same way as you.
Yes, we are social beings and I enjoy company as much as anyone (have even been known to get into conversation with strangers at bus stops etc), but I also enjoy knowing I can come back to my own place afterwards.

Souk08

Time of the month so it actually made me cry that someone in what I thought of as a safe place would think that about me. I'm many things but antisocial and fearful are not amongst them.

MrsMoo2U

Oh dear, hormones are raging here too ladies! I have to admit to an :eek: moment when I read that post.Sorry that you are both upset by FW. I am sure she will be back to discuss further. I have to say that I am in a relationship and I do (most of the time) like it that way. That said I have been in other relationships that were not so healthy and I was in them because I thought that it was expected of me.However I spent two blissful years living alone and had lots of company when I needed it, friends and family. I did not miss having AN Other. When he came along we did not live together immediately we kind of drifted towards that as it felt right. My best friend has a "partner" but they do not live together and they like it that way. She has recently said however that she was as happy when not part of a couple but did not realise that at the time. We are all different. We are social animals but there does not have to be a model that is followed although the majority of society think otherwise. I applaud you both for knowing what makes you happy and for having those close relationships that suit your needs whatever they may be.

Bitsy_Beans

Sorry Redsquizz I neglected to pass on positive vibes for you so here they are ~~~~~

Sorry to see some of you are upset by FW post and whilst I don't wish to enter the debate too much I applaud your courage (if that doesn't sound too twee) for voicing your upset. Hope things can be resolved and i personally don't see a single woman happy in her own company as fearful x

ClootiesMum

Hormones - DON'T SPEAK TO ME ABOUT HORMONES TONIGHT

Dogs are hiding & DH has gone to his bed - aaahhhh but he can't escape I'm going to follow him & nag & annoy him to night 'cos my hormones say I can- & he's not brave enough to argue

Tomorrow, however, I will be back to sweetness & light...:A

Cheery_Daff

Oh dear, someone's ben shaking us all up in one of those boggle boxes today haven't they?? ((((((matrix folk))))))))

So sorry to hear you're upset Souk . You're absolutely right, we do all need to feel safe here - and it's a shame if we don't - and I too applaud you for speaking out up. I said it this morning - I value it *so* much that we are able to be open here and say if something bothers us, rather than disappearing and stewing.

Sometimes it's easy to forget that we actually for the most part don't know each other *that* well, and the internet is *not* a face to face conversation with all the nuances and ease of responding that we may have in real life, and it's therefore even more important to be respectful of other people, whatever our differing opinions may be.

Bleurgh, can't think of a single sensible thing to say More hugs I think (((((((((((())))))))))))) and some tea. And gin.

lionheartedgirl

seconding the gin there! hurrah for gin! (hic)

I am relieved to say that I am happy as a single girl, and I have surprised myself by being able to say it! :eek: As cherisong and others said above, having realised just how unhappy I have been in the last 2 relationships, I figure I need a gap. And if it is a long gap, permanent even, I will be OK now. I agree we need love and company, but part of my journey this year has been learning where else this can come from and what can be trusted and relied on. Loneliness still exists in relationships and crowded rooms.

It's great that it's so open here but I find forums/internet/text chat very difficult as I rely on the non verbal communications so much (especially after having lived with a compulsive liar where I would believe his words but other things gave him away and I wish I had trusted myself more).

I always laugh when I look at my phone tariff as Dolphin is so appropriate for me