Problems with Neighbours!

ceridwen

Not saying that anyone from any background might not be a troublemaker obviously....they just find different ways to go about creating that "trouble"....

Unfortunately - some people do seem to list "troublemaking" as one of their hobbies and simply don't have any empathy for anyone else or sense of fairness and its simply not possible to spot in advance if any of the neighbours are in this category (unless there is some very obvious sign on looking round the property initially - eg open windows and blaring music or broken-down furniture or cars in the front garden).

In the case of this particular neighbour - I guess the way to tackle it is to put up plants (but not a fence - so he has no excuse to take his down and "garden grab" a few inches of the garden!). It might be worth pointing out politely first that there will be great care taken not to damage plants, etc, etc - but if he rejects a reasonable approach like that - then go for putting up those plants to hide the fence.

wayne77

Get a tattoo of a fence on your arm.

Hoof_Hearted

Before you move house always check whether the neighbour has tattoos!

wayne77

Yea, maybe estate agents should say that on the house descriptions..!

Norman_Castle

Unfortunately - some people do seem to list "troublemaking" as one of their hobbies and simply don't have any empathy for anyone else or sense of fairness and its simply not possible to spot in advance if any of the neighbours are in this category (unless there is some very obvious sign on looking round the property initially - eg open windows and blaring music or broken-down furniture or cars in the front garden).

He may be being rather sexist here. That is - he can see that she is a lone woman and he is a man (or couple/family....depending on whether he lives on his own or no) and is trying to intimidate "Me man...me Tarzan...I lay down the law round here and you are a little woman on your own and won't dare say boo to a goose up against an intimidating man". Yes - it DOES happen...really:(

To which - the only possible response is "Me - middle class, presentable, woman who can burst in tears without being embarrassed about it, and I'm a lot more intelligent than you:D...so I know the law and have those 'sharp elbows' we are famed for:D" (depending on just what your sister is like of course.....). Game over - I win - so shut up.

All he has done is ask for his fence to be left alone!

Chickabee

Thanks everyone for your comments and suggestions.
Always good to hear some different prespectives - i personally think her neighbour is a prize-a$s

rover25

Sorry, I'm gonna jump in on this post. We live in a semi-detached house and there is a fence that separates our house with our neighbours in the back gardens. We bought nearly 4 yrs ago and these neighbours have been renting for just over a year.
There are gaps in the fence. It's just the type of fence it is. Our neighbours can see into our garden and vice versa. We really want to get some privacy to enjoy our own garde, especially as I'll be 7 mths pregnant in the summer months. We were going to get fence panels and put them up against our side of the fence (we have the fence posts on our side), being careful not to go any higher than the original fence . I'm now a bit worried that we won't be able to do this. Any thoughts

Mistral001

I have a friend who is a surveyor who makes quite a lot of money from expert witness work with regard to boundary fences. He tells me it is usually 10% about the boundary fence and 90% personal.

Judging by the OP's posts where there have been several personal comments made about the neighbour, I think this dispute follows the usual pattern.

If the OP is in doubt consult a solicitor. The solicitor will give objective legal advice on the fence and explain the rights of each party with regard to same.

Norman_Castle

We were going to get fence panels and put them up against our side of the fence (we have the fence posts on our side), being careful not to go any higher than the original fence . I'm now a bit worried that we won't be able to do this. Any thoughts

Assuming the fence is not yours, try talking to your neighbours. If they are not willing to allow this you can put a fence on your own property. If it is only for privacy bamboo screening may be easier or cheaper

lidlest

BigAl94 wrote: »

It's not her fence, she should have asked before painting it.

Yup, would annoy me if someone started painting my fence as it would drip through to my side.