Morrisons Cafe...unruly kids and shopping trolleys!

skiddlydiddly

moonrakerz wrote: »

Reminds me of a wedding I attended some years back. After the formal part of the reception I was chatting with the vicar who conducted the service. There were a number of small children running around and letting off steam after being restrained for the service and formal reception.
Two youngsters ran head-on into each other in front of us and collapsed into a wailing heap. We picked them both up and handed them over to their parents, who led them away.
The vicar turned to me, slowly shaking his head and said:- "You know, at times I think King Herod was a much misunderstood man"

Haha, at least he had a sense of humour.I recently went to a wedding where the vicar had one too but from a different angle.At the start of the ceremony he pointed out that there was a play area at the back of the church and children were welcome to use it during the service.

Tiddlywinks

had-enough-now wrote: »

My son has aspergers and ADHD and is one of these 'problem' children. .. He loves going out for a meal in a cafe for a treat for good behaviour.

Should i have to become a recluse just because people are too narrow minded to understand that sometimes children don't conform to the idea of 'normal' behaviour??

How many of the poorly behaved children we all witness actually have a recognised medical condition? Not many, I'd guess.

It's more now about bad parenting - I'm not saying that ADHD is - I'm saying that most unruly behaviour is...

Parents now sit or walk around texting on their phone or talking to their mates and have little quality interaction with their kids - other than the 'shut it' or 'siddown' kind of shout every now and again.

Also, ADHD etc does not automatically give a child (or parent) an excuse for just naughty behaviour - appropriate communication and discipline should still be used... some simply think that having this label means anything goes... well, it shouldn't.

Dave101t

so if i act like a tw@, can i just say i have an undiagnosed condition? could be true...

xangeleyes

I agree with Tiddlywinks. Although I understand that had-enough-now has a child with ADHD and Aspergers (sp), it can be controlled, not 100% and there will be mishaps, but it can be controlled with disapline, routine etc.
My cousins son is 8yrs old and has ADHD, but something else was wrong, and I think about 2 years ago he was statmented etc and found him to also have aspergers syndrome.
He can be very hyper, he can get confused about things etc, but most of the time is is good when out. He has 2 other brothers, and once I stayed there with my 2 young children, so you can imagine the hyperactivity they all had lol.

Don't get me wrong, it's VERY hard and I've seen my cousin struggle through it, but she's doing the best that she can and I'm sure you are too. Had-enough-now, DON'T stop going out to public places at all, like you said, why should you stay at home like a hermit.

Most of these children wont have a behaviour problem, like tiddlywinks has said, this is to do with parents who couldn't give two flying f**ks about what they're children are doing.

I would be appauled if my child was acting like that.

SMILE, IT'S SUNNY OUTSIDE

nellytheelephant

I have to say I agree with the comments about the Morrisons customers - a few weeks back, I was standing at the end of an aisle waiting for someone to come past the end as I couldn't get past as there was a display. A woman next to me was also waiting to come out of the aisle behind me, and started hitting me in the leg with her trolley to get me to move! I nearly boffed her with my Baileys!

I think all supermarket cafes are the same with the children/trolley/buggy situation - I do tend to avoid them tbh.

I've never really noticed children running around screaming in Morrisons - Tesco seem to be the worst for that, and Sainsburys second (I've found). Although, I did hit a kid in the face with my car keys the other day.... Oops! I was swinging them on my fingers and he was tearing around and ran into the swing of them. Might solve the problem!

ladymarmalade1970

bobbitz wrote: »

Hardly, it should simply be common sense that certain locations and activities are not suitable for certain types of people. Nothing wrong with that.
People pay their good hard-earned money to do certain things, it's hardly fair for their activities to be ruined by those unable or unwilling to act appeopriately.

Seeing as you like to point out everyone else's errors can you please get your self a dictionary.

It's appropriately ok :-D

Actually, a dictionary probably isn't required but please pay the same attention to your own posts as you do everyone else s.

trumpton

As the 'r' is next to the 'o', I would think it's pretty certain the offending spelling error is just a mistype. Generally pretty good spelling and grammar otherwise, I would have said.

dark_lady

Its funny that this thread should appear on here this week because in this weeks Take a Break there is an article about how mothers with kids are not welcome in some restaurants and cafes. The article calls them the persecuted minority.!!!!!!?
As for the ADHD/Aspergers issue i do sympathise but surely you have to see that whether there is something wrong with the child or not the end result is the same. Someone could get badly burned and scalded with hot drinks and food about whether the child has ADHD or not. Can these parents of either children say hand on heart that they wouldnt shift the blame to the waitress or member of staff (who is probably only getting minimum wage not a childminders wage) if something bad happened or blame it on another customer if their child ran into that customer while said customer was carrying a hot drink or a tray of hot drinks.
Something to think about perhaps.

kajstring24

My experience of any child on the autistic spectrum is that they struggle with crowded and noisy environments because of their hyper-sensitive hearing (among other things). I work in a school with a large amount of children with extra needs and those with ASD are allowed out of lessons early so that they don't get stressed when the corridors get busy. Obviously, the parents of any child will know them better than anyone, but is a busy cafe really the best place for a child with said condition?

easy

The point is, if your child doesn't have a medical condition, but is tearing about, screaming and being a nuisance/danger to themselves or others, you either discipline them OR take them home.

If your child does have a medical condition but is tearing about, screaming and being a nuisance/danger to themselves or others, you take them home, and try again another day. Which may seem harsh, but is the only civilised way to manage the situation.