What to do?Difficult Situation

Disdisbiff

It is very tricky i have sat here in tears about it as it was bought as a $)th birthday present for OH but i use it mostly it has photos of my niece from austrailia on it too so has sentimental attachment too.

LEJC

What does your OH make of it all?....can he talk to BIL and SIL and explain that the loss has really upset you?

coolcait

Disdisbiff wrote: »

its looking likely that its been taken during the time i was out and only 5 people were in the house

5 potential 'suspects', but everyone is pointing the finger at the nephew...

Why? Because he's said that he saw it on the table? An odd thing to say if he was trying to cover up the fact that he tooko it - far easier to deny ever having seen it.

Because he was standing by the table the whole time? But how does the OP know that, as he/she wasn't there? As yes, that 'fact' has been reported to her by [STRIKE]one of the other 'suspects'[/STRIKE] her eldest son.

OP, you have clearly ruled out the possibility that either of your sons took the Ipod, because they have PC in their own rooms (not exactly portable), and, Even though they had more opportunity than anyone else.

I imagine that your BIL and SIL (who, presumably, love and trust their son, and don't want to believe that he would/could do such a thing) would not be slow in pointing this out to you too.

In your shoes, I'd want to be a lot more certain of the facts before I took this any further.

Disdisbiff

He too thinks that it might have been taken but does not want to upset his dB or SiL by asking and it seeming like he is accusing nephew as we were both not at home when it went missing so he says we cant say for sure it was stolen.

avstar

I'd say in the interests of family harmony (and lack of any other evidence) then I'd let this go I'm afraid. You can't prove your nephew is responsible over any of the other 4 people.
I'd be keeping my gadgets out of the 'public' areas of the house in future tho - sounds like someon'es got sticky fingers but not sure who!

Disdisbiff

Both sons bedroom been totally cleared and searched to no avail. It was their birthday on sunday so they spent the time playing their new games on their console and only left their room when their aunt uncle and cousin were in

Padstow

jackieglasgow wrote: »

How old is your nephew and do you know him well? If it were me, I would call him up and ask him directly, say that you hope he never took it, but that if he did, and he returns it to you by a certain day then no more will be said about it. It might work better to go softly, softly directly with him, than go through his parents.

You can't say things like that to people.:eek: If someone had said that to my daughter, I'd have flattened them.

pulliptears

No use to you now, but if you own an iphone 4, iPad or 4th generation iPod Touch you can use an app called "Find my iPhone" and its free. All you do is go to the app store and download it, set up a mobile me account with apple (free) and you can then see where the phone/pad/touch is anywhere in the world as it is tracked through its inbuilt GPS. Not only that, you can lock it, wipe it, send a message to it or simply make it play a sound to help you locate it (the sound is played even if the device is left on silent).This would have proved exactly where it was.

nzmegs

You can't just let it go. this is an expensive item and someone has it. Maybe give it a day or two for the dust to settle and to be sure it isn't in your house and then question your family again. Simply explain that you are really upset and that you really don't want to point fingers but that it may have been picked up by mistake. Could you send your sons round to play with their cousins and ask them to have a scout around?

richardw

It's your OH's family, ask them for advice.