My home is a mess

Fruball

Emm-in-a-pickle wrote: »

Hiya Mesies. Against my better judgement I am still up, still relishing being off tomorrow.Did a long-day today, very satisfying day at work, one day off tomorrow then back in on an early. Should be a late next day but our Charge Nurse has sweet-talked me into another long-day on Friday. He is such a dear, but it`s a good job I`m more than old enough to be his mum, as I can`t say `no`! (OH not impressed)
Have briefly read here - got engrossed in the `HI Everyone` thread by Skintmum & poured out my guts there, it struck a chord & couldn`t help myself!
Snookey, your ratty problem had stuck in my head. Glad your problem is sorted, pity about the rat but I`m glad you know it`s sorted. I LOVE rats, we`ve had several as pets over the years plus used to have dissections and lab-rats when I taught biol years ago. Wild ones are a different thing though, just as intelligent but not what you want indoors unaccounted for.
Anyone who WANTS SNOW - you are most welcome to my share of it.
Messy status here:-
Downstairs - fairly static, no worse. Better than expected, really. Settee still clear, & kitchen worktops ok, pretty amazing really as I wasn`t here all day to nag about them.
Upstairs - still a state, but I`m cool with it. Shared my recent Liberating Revelation about `no chance till after pressies distributed` with a couple of colleagues today, they found it true & helpful. More wrapping tomorrow if I Can BA, so `twill get worse before it gets better! Only dread is that Daftie-dog will blunder into stacked storage crates in bedroom in middle of night & knock it all over...

FUR - Frugal,thanks, read your post and have to share this memory...my mum always fancied a fur coat, and it never happened, till a colleague of hers got way too fat to wear hers & wanted to sell it...mum cajoled my dad he bought it...mum, honour satisfied, finally had a fur coat, but never felt `right` about wearing it, then she put weight on. Mum had a mad do one day and took it to bits, made a floor rug from the main bit (armpits down, made a fair-sized rug) it was placed by dad`s armchair, & he reckoned it helped his chilblains no end. Then our Sally-dog (a truly foul-tempered spaniel !!!!! badly spoilt by mum, cussed & ignored by dad, walked/fed/ groomed & most handled & almost trained by me in my early teens, and my ally &`alibi` for walkies to meet my first boyfriend) took a liking to lying on the fur rug. Dad complained as she was lying too close, he couldn`t move his feet. They clearly weren`t going to share.
No idea what fur it was, but it was browny-black. Sally-dog was black. Mum & I always used to do the flea-inspection together & flea-powder applications - me holding dog as mum was nervous of getting bitten & mum applying stuff. That dog knew the word `FLEAS`. The fur rug question was resolved by a flash of inspiration. Ignoring the Sally-dog, mum & I dived on the fur rug around dad`s feet rooting in the fur saying the word `fleas` loudly to each other, and pretended to hunt & treat the rug as we treated the dog. Dog growled & hid under the sideboard (ignored her, kept up on the rug, repeating `FLEAS!` to each other. Dad cussed the dog, and said no wonder because all females in his house were mad! Dog kept away from the fur for a couple of days, & when she looked like she was interested again mum & I just pounced on the rug saying `FLEAS`. Dog under sideboard, rewarded by biscuits. Dad had fur rug to himself, dog avoided it like a plague! Binned the fur after dad died, he`d had a lot of comfort from it but bestowed a lot of mess in it too.

:rotfl::rotfl: What a lovely story! Great read, thank you :j

Rummer

Good Evening

I am exhausted.

Anyway I got the xmas tree up and hoovered all the resultant mess. Now I need to put away the dinner dishes (just finished) and clear up the mess I made baking. I have loads of apples building up so I made some festive muffins, yum.

Hard to believe it is nearly half ten and I have just sat down, I want to be able to afford a life of leisure where I can spend my days cooking and crafting

MessyMare

Sigh. I did nothing yesterday except overeat. And today, at work, the card terminal is down. and. Just. Blah.

Just one of those days where I want to crawl under the duvet, press the reset button, and start again. OH was in a funny mood last night, and didn't really speak to me until 8pm or so (he got home at 4.30)...it's hard when he's like that, I have to stop obsessing that I've done something wrong (I definitely hadn't yesterday, normally I have) and just wait it out. But when you've spent all day at work alone apart from one or two customers, then you get someone virtually ignoring you (I tried talking to him in my desperately upbeat way) for an extra four hours on top of that, it really creeps in and gets to you. Then...all of a sudden...he was fine again. Which in it's own way is hard to take because then, you have to be fine too otherwaise it goes back to how it was. Sigh. I don't think I'm cut out to be in a relationship. I do wonder sometimes if I would have been happier bimbling along on my own, I have plenty of friends who would have obliged on the womanly needs front :P (I know, way too early for talk like that!)

But my wallpaper at the moment is a photo of my OH smiling from the first time we went away together. It's probably the only time I've caught a genuine smile of his on the camera; and I look at it and melt and remember how utterly lovely he can be, and really, the only things that upset me are the things that most men do and is just part of the way they are.

Plus I looked into what our finances would look like if I went on maternity leave. Not good, was the answer- I don't think I'd be able to make all of my obligations on the money we would get stupid car loan. Need to look into it closer but I really don't think we could afford it until the car loan is gone. Which I can't overpay. I don't even dare talk to OH about it, he'll just push my concerns under the carpet and say we should do it anyway, but I want to be able to afford things as and when a baby needs them...I know we can borrow lots from my sister but she borrowed lots from her sister-in-law so in reality, they don't have that much to lend. I don't know. It's that I-have-something-to-say-but-physically-can't-open-my-mouth-to-say-it thing.

Sorry for waffling ladies. I know there's bigger problems in the world so I feel quite embarrassed at feeling so low over these things; my mental health is quite fragile at times due to past experiences and a whopping great nervous breakdown so sometimes it feels like all I need to knock me off my precarious perch is a brush with a feather

Thank you for listening ladies x

helen_jelly

MM - have a hug honey - I'm not much help other than to say you are doing great, could a letter to OH help - sometimes writing it all down makes things clearer in my mind and then I wait to see if I'm going to give DH the letter - never have yet but there's always a first time.

I've braved the shops today - gulp - far too busy for my liking and we're mega skint so shopping on a tiny budget didn't help. thank goodness Xmas is nearly over - back to normal then

Helen x

Cat501

BIG hugs MM (((((huuuuuuugs)))) I don't think I can really help either, but I know what you mean about fragility, you feel OH could easily topple you, my potential toppler is DD1. She's been so mean to me in the past that any slight approval or thoughtfulness on her part has me delighted - and vice versa. When she's mean, life doesn't feel worth living:(

I didn't like you saying that usually you've done something wrong though:(:(:(

I've done nothing the last couple of days I'm afraid, went out on Tuesday and I don't know what went wrong but I can't remember coming home and apparently I had a row with DD1 which I also have no recollection of.:o:o:o Last night I went to my friends house,must have drank more, and came home sober! Can't understand it.

Saw my CPN today and did a bit of shopping, then went back to bed:o We talked about how DD1 does nothing to help in the house and I have "homework" to talk to her about it, because it's really getting me down, shopping, cooking, washing up, tidying up around her while she sits on her @ss 24/7. But I've tried talking about it before. Anyway, I've made tea for the other two and not for her tonight, she'll end up making herself noodles but things have to change!

Fruball

Hugs to MM and anyone else who needs one x

Total fail in the kitchen atm - I know it will only take 10-15 mins to do it as its tiny, but it looks like an epic mission

Got dinner in the oven though rather than eat out/takeaway so thats good :T

I've been full on at work for the last 2 weeks and shattered - will be glad when sat evening comes as; 1, no more work (except maybe a day or two) until New Year and 2, the DDs are away overnight with my Mum - I haven't had a break in months so will be nice to be able to not be on call with DD2 who has been up coughing every night for 2 weeks Mum won't be pleased but she has the whole of Xmas to get over it!!! In fact she has all year as she is retired!!!

Just poured myself a glass of vino and intend to have a relaxing evening, except for load DW, watch the weather forums and hope to see some snow before I retire for the night :T The rest of the carp can wait until Sunday/Monday at which point I will dive into HW with gusto and get everything done ready for Xmas. I bought new socks today so I don't even have to put a wash on tonight :rotfl:

Yeah right... when I plan that, something always sabotages my plans, or I sabotage them myself!

jpscloud

Hugs MM - well done to you for sticking with your relationship - I don't often feel lonely and enjoy my singleton status but admire those who make relationships work, because I know how much hard work it is. I bet your OH loves you for your ability to cope with his moods too.

But on the womanly needs front... for avoiding complications, there's nothing like a BOB! (battery operated boyfriend, in case anyone was wondering!) :rotfl:Apologies if I've shocked anyone, I shall now return to my usual prim and proper demeanour!

Well I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself today - had minor surgery on my face earlier and have two stitches. Will not be going in for the last half day of work tomorrow either, as it's really sore.

On the messy front, my house is a bomb site. Hoping for a burst of energy after the weekend, during which I shall declutter, tidy, clean, wash, scrub, repair, decorate and make shiny the entire house.... or maybe just bits of it! There's so much to do I honestly don't know where to start.

helen_jelly

JPS - love the name BOB - really made me laugh and at least they don't sulk or snore

Cat - well done on NOT cooking tea for DD, she's old enough to be helping out and doing her own tea, stand firm lady, we're all behind you x

Frugal - enjoy that glass - have another, you deserve it

Rummer - I too want a life of luxury but its cos I'm a lazy mare and I want to be able to employ someone to do the housework lol

Going to tidy the LR and the DR now

Helen x

Cat501

thanks Helen - I'm going to try!:)

jps - hope you're pain free soon!:( x

BOB made me laugh too - DD2 went to an Ann Summers a couple of months ago and bought a very impressive looking BOB. Just wish she'd keep the box out of sight, any time mum or dad come down I have to rush into her room hissing "will you PUT that damn thing AWAY!":D

jpscloud

Hehe what have I started We'll have BOBs coming out of closets everywhere now!

Well BOBs are very MSE, they cost far less than a flesh and blood boyfriend for a start! And as Helen says, they don't burp, fart, snore or dribble.

Actually my cat does all of those things, but she's (a particularly delicate and pretty) female... there's no sense to things sometimes.

Hope all messies are well - hugs and warmest wishes for anyone who wants 'em.