Sod's Law - Part 1 & 2

Blue_Monkey

Thank you all for your thoughts and comments, and for listening (reading?) to me go on about this.

We've 100% decided that the new job isn't the right thing for me right now, and that other such opportunities will come along again. I feel completely positive and feel that one part of the weight is lifted off our shoulders, so that must be a good thing. I'm not looking forward to letting down New Job Woman, but I'll speak to her on Wednesday and hopefully she'll understand.

We're also about 95% sure that we'll go home in September-ish. We are both sad that we'll be leaving Oz, but it doesn't have to be forever and we both believe that being at home will be the nicest all round place for us to be when peanut arrives. There are still some things on our Oz Bucket List that we plan to tick off so we'll certainly make the most of our time left here. OH needs a bit of time to get used to this (hence the 95%) but I think I'm there mentally already.

Now I just need to navigate the Aussie medical system to book another appointment with the GP, my first midwife appointment and also book in my 12 and 18 week scans... Apparently its super-busy here at the mo so I might not get seen by a midwife until July!!!! Hopefully the scan won't be such a mare to book - we're dying to tell people our news and our plan now!

Moving back in Sept also means that it's not really worth buying stuff here as it will just add to the shipping... Am itching to start thinking about what we'll need though... Will get my head down and save lots of $$$ between now and then ready for a huge spend up in the motherland.

Thanks all - happy easter from a happy BM

Blue_Monkey

Torndao01 wrote: »

Hi Blue Monkey

Congrats. Its sounds as if all the pressure is being put on yourself to make the "right choice". I just thought that remember that coming back now to fit in with the baby doesnt have to be forever.

Having a new baby for most people is all life and time consuming and having good maternity, family and friend support is PRICELESS. Have you considered coming home to have the baby, having your maternity for the full year and once you have got a little more used to being parents consider moving back to Oz.

Your OH loves OZ and the lifestyle you have now. Well this is not the lifestyle you will have with a new baby. Dont want to make it sound rubbish but the reality is, you probably wont have babysitters (no Granparents) so going out is gone. You say the new job is no maternity pay, well there goes the extra spends you talk about. Really think what an average day maybe like once the baby is here in Oz and the UK.

I live 4 hours from family, and have two kids. I love where I live but I cant stress enough how hard it can be not having extra support from family.

Just remember coming back now doesnt mean you cant go back at a more suitable time in your lives.

Oh and a huge thank you to Tornado here... Your post really re-confirmed my line of thought and was a big help. Thank you

Torndao01

Hi Blue Monkey

So glad your feeling better about the situation. Funnly I was reading a site about 'what really makes people happy' today. One of the top 5 things was being close to family and friends, I immediatly thought of you:)

Im pleased you feel comfortable with your choice to come home, there will probably be days (rainy ones) when you long for Oz but nothing can replace a family member being there for you (new baby), when youve not sleep for 3 nights, not bathed for 2 or eaten anything but chocolate all day.:rotfl:

Good luck for you and your family and the move home.

Judith_W

Haven't read it all. All the best in making the decision about the job, I know I would be tied between telling them at 12 weeks, saying you didn't know before you started then didn't want to risk making it public before, or telling them at the time and hope they are so desperate for you right now, that they will worry about the mat leave nearer the time.

Judith_W

Sorry just seen you've decided to not go for the job and go home. All the best with the arrangements, sounds a brilliant idea

Blue_Monkey

Hi all, just resurrecting this old thread as I like it when you get to hear what people did after their dilemmas...

Well, we've been back in the UK for just over 6 months and our fabulous baby girl is 3 months old. I do miss Australia, but it doesn't really matter where we are in the world really, I'm so amazed by our daughter I could be anywhere!

scottishchick27

So glad everything worked out for you xx

cyclingyorkie

Indeed - glad to hear that you are so happy!

sassyblue

Blue_Monkey wrote: »

Hi all, just resurrecting this old thread as I like it when you get to hear what people did after their dilemmas...

Well, we've been back in the UK for just over 6 months and our fabulous baby girl is 3 months old. I do miss Australia, but it doesn't really matter where we are in the world really, I'm so amazed by our daughter I could be anywhere!

I often wondered how you got on BM. Congratulations on your baby daughter :j you are so right though, once you're a mum you don't care about alot of things, baby comes first and everything else waits.

Torndao01

Hi Blue Monkey

Congrats on your baby daughter, hope your coping well with the sleepless nights.

If you check back my posts last year I air more towards recommending you came back to be near family.

Well Ive moved to Las Vegas:-) so Im now alot more that 4 hours away from family, but my children are 9 and 11 now.

So you never now whats round the corner!