£5 per year?!!

sjc3

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£5 per year, good grief, what fool came up with that one. What a horrendous insult to your child. Im so sorry OP, no real advice to give, but not a bit surprised you are fighting this. Good luck

HappyMJ

sjc3 wrote: »

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£5 per year, good grief, what fool came up with that one. What a horrendous insult to your child. Im so sorry OP, no real advice to give, but not a bit surprised you are fighting this. Good luck

I would imagine a "fool" who has the income and expense figures provided to them by the NRP and has a calculator to figure it out with. The figures were provided in court so I would think they would be correct. He could be convicted of perjury if he was found to be lying to the court.

PayDay

DX2 wrote: »

You may not be a hen, but by god you are acting like a child!

It saddens me to see so many "men" unwilling to pay for the child they fathered. All the name calling and excuses they make, just to avoid paying for their own child. It's the child I feel sorry for.

DX2 wrote: »

Get the child a new daddy the child has a daddy already, some people really need to wake up and see the bigger picture you can't pick a childs' daddy once the child is born.

Fathering a child and being a father are two different things. The man that is there everyday for the child AND paying for them, is the real daddy. When the child becomes an adult, they will work that out too (if they haven't already).

PayDay

cycloneuk wrote: »

To be honest he dosn't care either way and sees this as a big joke imo. The only time he sees Josh is once every year or so when he comes over to see his mum and dad and then it is only for a day or so and only if Josh happens to be staying at his grand parents that weekend. Dosn;t bother to send Birthday cards, Christmas cards or even phone him.

I think everyone is forgetting, it is only the Isle of Man, £20 on the ferry and he could see Josh in 2 hours time. He isn't the other end of the world but makes zero effort because he dosn't care. He dosn't have parental responsibility and that is something we are looking into getting for myself. If anything should happen to his mum Laura then she needs peace of mind that he will be looked after by me and not be split from is brother here.

This is what a mean about the "real daddy". Any "man" can father a child, but the real daddy pays for them and is there for them everyday.

Children aren't stupid, they will work out what their absent OR non paying father was like. It is wishful thinking to believe otherwise.

PayDay

cycloneuk wrote: »

The OP is my partner and not new, been togeather for over 3 years and bought the child up as my own.

He is your son now then and he will know you are his real daddy as you spent time with him and pay for him. It is you who he will always love.

Just ignore the man who fathered this child, he sounds like a right waste of space if he refuses to pay for him.

PayDay

speedster wrote: »

and yet more balanced posts. NOT. chances are she's already tried that approach. standard procedure from a woman scorned. "find new daddy, get back at ex"

it's always about the money to some.

even my moronic ex has begun to see the bigger picture.

Do you spit this venom at your child/ren? Not paying much in maintenance for them?

They are going to work out what you are like. You seem to see it as a game of winners and losers and you are going to end up as the loser, so think on. You can't keep blaming your ex for what you are.

DX2

PayDay wrote: »

This is what a mean about the "real daddy". Any "man" can father a child, but the real daddy pays for them and is there for them everyday.

Children aren't stupid, they will work out what their absent OR non paying father was like. It is wishful thinking to believe otherwise.

Okay so so I understand this correctly you are not a real daddy if you don't pay child support, and you are not a real daddy if you aren't there for the child/ren everyday?

I wonder how many fathers in the forces would agree with your last statement.

PayDay

DX2 wrote: »

Okay so so I understand this correctly you are not a real daddy if you don't pay child support, and you are not a real daddy if you aren't there for the child/ren everyday?

I wonder how many fathers in the forces would agree with your last statement.

A loving daddy who is in the forces, still keeps contact with his children and will still be paying for them.

Don't compare those fathers who have to go away for work, with the deadbeat dads who try to worm out of paying for their child/ren OR don't want to spend time with their child! That is an insult to every decent daddy in the forces.

DX2

PayDay wrote: »

A loving daddy who is in the forces, still keeps contact with his children and will still be paying for them.

Don't compare those fathers who have to go away for work, with the deadbeat dads who try to worm out of paying for their child/ren OR don't want to spend time with their child! That is in insult to every decent daddy in the forces.

So you aren't actually aware that there are indeed deadbeat dads in forces aswell.

fannyanna

floralaura wrote: »

To the point where my Son has asked to be adopted by my partner and wants his last name too.

I think that if a child is adopted the financial responsibility for the biological parent ceases (although if I'm wrong I'm sure someone will correct me).

Whilst I'm sure you're not going to miss £5 a year you need to accept that if your ex suddenly becomes rich you'll have no claim to his money for your Son.

I appreciate you're not saying that you're going down this route (only that it's something your Son has mentioned) but it's just food for thought.