£5 per year?!!

floralaura

I am doing a REMO on the ex, I rang the court up today to be told hes been told to pay £5 PER YEAR for our Son..the best bit? The first payment was due the 22/03/2011 and I haven't even had that!
Theres no way I am taking it lying down..can I appeal it at all by going back to court? £5 a year is a joke, even a begger could pay more than that, i'm gutted

kelloggs36

Based on what information was this based? This is similar to the sorts of courts orders that used to get passed prior to the CSA's inception, although they were often 5p per year! Do you get any info about his circumstances so you can appeal with information?

floralaura

Not really no..my DS sees his Dads parents on a regular basis, in fact he will see them tonight and I will be letting them know about this and seeing what they say. I know hes married, with a mortgage, a plasterer, has 4 more kids, 3 cats, 2 dogs and some fish (lol)..I had applied for £50 a month (and thought that way low!) but to get £5 a year is a insult and when (if) it goes in my bank I will be returning it back to them. I would rather not have it. Hes seen DS about 8 times in 8 years and now this..im thinking the next court appearance will be because I will not allow any more contact form here on in, he obviously does not have DS interests at heart!

Wasteland_Drifter

You will find the amount has been set by the NRPs host country. They tend to do this just to make the REMO itself under an act of appeasement.

Try to find out that rules on child maintenance the host contry follows, they can be very different to the UK.

Wasteland_Drifter

floralaura wrote: »

I will not allow any more contact form here on

Many probably wont agree with you in adopting this policy. That benefits nobody and says alot about you.

floralaura

Its not a default amount, he appeared the first time and contested the £50 provisional monthly payments, went back and his financial circumstances means they set it at £5 a year.
I dont care if 'people' don't agree with me stopping contact..the Kids 9 years old has seen his dad a max of 8 times in 8 years, hasn't had a penny and ow knows his Dad is only willing to pay £5 a year for him..I doubt he will ever want to see him again anyway!

speedster

floralaura wrote: »

Its not a default amount, he appeared the first time and contested the £50 provisional monthly payments, went back and his financial circumstances means they set it at £5 a year.
I dont care if 'people' don't agree with me stopping contact..the Kids 9 years old has seen his dad a max of 8 times in 8 years, hasn't had a penny and ow knows his Dad is only willing to pay £5 a year for him..I doubt he will ever want to see him again anyway!

and there is where your problem lies.

ok, you have a sh1tty ex, but your attitude sucks. it's no wonder you've had the grief you have over the years.

and i don't give a flying toss if the hens on here start rattling on. there's always another side to EVERY story, and it's clear why you have a non compliant ex.

kelloggs36

it could be her reaction to the non compliancy - it was for me!

mrsspendalot

floralaura wrote: »

Not really no..my DS sees his Dads parents on a regular basis, in fact he will see them tonight and I will be letting them know about this and seeing what they say. I know hes married, with a mortgage, a plasterer, has 4 more kids, 3 cats, 2 dogs and some fish (lol)..I had applied for £50 a month (and thought that way low!) but to get £5 a year is a insult and when (if) it goes in my bank I will be returning it back to them. I would rather not have it.

Then why pursue the case? I agree, it seems very low (and I would consider it an insult too), but I don't know much about REMO as I've never needed to look into it. If that is a fair assessment by their standards, then that is it. If you find the amount insulting and would rather not have it, then I would close the case, forget about it, and move on. It will save you far more in stress than it will ever gain you in money, clearly.

Hes seen DS about 8 times in 8 years and now this..im thinking the next court appearance will be because I will not allow any more contact form here on in, he obviously does not have DS interests at heart!

As for not having your sons interests at heart, I'm afraid neither do you if you are talking this way about blocking contact. I would be very very wary of stopping contact where the NRP is in another country. I think it is wrong to stop contact just because NRPs don't pay anyway, but think about the trouble you may bring on yourself if you end up in court about access - and the other parent lives abroad. What if they enforce shared care and your child has to spend a chunk of time in another country and you have no control over that? Would you be happy with this? I don't know where your ex is living, but I would seriously think about what you're suggesting here and the implications. If it's this hard getting money out of him, imagine if he refused to hand your son back over and the courts let you down over that too.

Believe me, I can understand your frustration, and this might just be your knee-jerk reaction to what you've been told about payments, but lowering yourself to the same level makes you just as bad. Your son has to grow up and look back at his parents, and the way he was brought up. Far better that he can look back and think 'my dad was an absolute !!!!!hole and never bothered with me, but my mum was the best in the world and did everything right by me' than think 'my mum and dad behaved like schoolchildren fighting tit-for-tat constantly'.

I have just waited a year to get payments from my ex, and in all that time no matter what I thought of him when he turned up each fortnight to take them, I would never ever have stopped that. My husband, on the other hand, is an NRP and is on the receiving end of a PWC who thinks contact blocking is acceptable. She has to explain to her DD one day why she acted the way she did, I will never have to do that with my children.

Rise above it.

HappyMJ

Depending on what country the order is with then £5 is probably the amount that would have been paid locally. In some countries if both parents have an equal salary/wage then no payment will be paid by the NRP to the PWC. As unfair as that sounds. Don't forget the NRP can deduct the cost of the flights to see the children from any payment so it means any payment due to you will possibly be very small.

fannyanna

mrsspendalot wrote: »

She has to explain to her DD one day why she acted the way she did

This is so true.

I'm an NRPP and my husband has two children with two women. One he sees regularly and one he doesn't.

He sometimes gets upset that his youngest will think bad of him but I just remind him that when she's old enough to think for herself (and not go by what her Mum tells her) she'll realise the truth.