As The Workhouse Approaches....How To Do Everything To Avoid It, the Old Style Way

oldtractor

Dee I will tell you about me ,I think it will help. I am aged 50 now but when I was a teenager my elder brother got married. Now,he had a good job and above average income. My parents wernt particulaly well off . My new S-in-L used to bin every single thing I made for them. She used to take mum shopping and get her to buy things she couldnt afford ,and when I bought their new baby something in a sale that was binned too. We wernt good enough,you see,we lived in council accomadation. New S-in-L spent years making everyones life a misery and used my parents grandchildren as blackmail,she wouldnt let them visit if they sided with me or said anything about her behaviour and spending. Iloved my brother and she cut him off from us. Butwhat goes around comes around. Years later when her son married he didnt invite her to his wedding.

jediteacher

Dee I had a similar problem with my family especially my siblings. I started making handmade things for them four years ago and it all ended up in the bin (so, my sister recently told me). They would openly laugh at my presents and make jokes of them. Then last year they finally saw the light. My sister made all her Christmas presents and everyone excepted this and praised her. I blew my top and asked why her homemade gifts were acceptable and mine were to be thrown out. Everyone was very shame faced and apologised and we had a real heart to heart and all was sorted.

redlady_1

GQ - thought you had dropped off the face of the earth! Or maybe doing time for IB

dollydaydream07

ok this has absolutely nothing to do with money saving but it's a TOUGH thing for me to have to deal with
there is a possibility that we might have to pull DD out of school in September(all depends on what the head teacher has to say to an email i have sent him) so i might have to home school her so does anyone on here home school and have any tips for me??

Dee - families eh? we don't speak to any of DH's family as they didn't agree with how we are bringing up our DD or our lifestyle, they are the ones missing out and DH really isn't bothered by it in the slightest, we were the ones always arranging days out with his sister and her family but they would always cancel on us but then she would be on fb saying how she had been with friends(when they were meant to be with us) so we have given up trying, if they want to see us then it's up to her to arrange it as we are fed up of doing it and getting fobbed off with one excuse or another!!!
my family can be funny about homemade gifts, i can see it on their faces but they would never say anything like what your sisters have said, that is totally ungrateful and selfish on their part and imo your better off not bothering with a gift for your sister if thats the way she is going to be - i would just send a card to her and leave the ball in her court......

GreyQueen - it's good to see you back

thinking about others who used to post - has anyone seen NualaBuala around lately??

oldtractor

saveabobortwo wrote: »

are spending recklessly on credit cards without a care.i really dont like credit cards PAY THEM OFF CUT THEM UP DONT USE THEM AGAIN . The interest rates can be crippling no i dont have them if i cant afford it now then i dont have it not no more credit cards cost me a fortune

Well Said Indeed

mardatha

O god I hope Nooly is ok, she wasn't very well a while back. I feel terrible now that I didnt notice sooner

freudianslip

dollydaydream, i have to be quick but there are free resources on http://info.tes.co.uk/?gclid=CO6vp6Sps6kCFcoa4Qod8zZsKg&T=1307983242&JTID=175930339&OGID=330&network=GAW for EYFS right through to key stage 4.

you can also get department for education publications from here https://www.education.gov.uk/publications/standard/Subjects/Page1 take your pick on things you would need, some may not be available to you but you can down load some for free or pay for others.

more here on the law on home schooling http://www.education.gov.uk/popularquestions/childrenandfamilies/parenting/a005376/can-i-take-my-child-out-of-school-and-educate-them-at-home

and guidelines for elective home education http://www.education.gov.uk/schools/pupilsupport/parents/involvement/homeeducation/a0073367/elective-home-education-guidelines

HTH a little

redlady_1

I remember Nuala!!! She was always so lovely. Anyone stalked, sorry, checked on her yet??

dollydaydream07

mardatha wrote: »

O god I hope Nooly is ok, she wasn't very well a while back. I feel terrible now that I didnt notice sooner

i can remember she had said she was taking a break from posting as i think it was hurting her wrists? i too feel bad as even though i only post occasionally i do read a lot and it just came to me that i couldn't remember the last time she posted....... really hope she is ok

jackieglasgow

I have been stalking her every week, she has been lurking, she did say in March or April that she wouldn't be posting as her RSI was playing up and she wanted it to get a rest. Nuala, say hi next time you are lurking.