As The Workhouse Approaches....How To Do Everything To Avoid It, the Old Style Way

maryb

Lidl oats are lovely and creamy, not gritty at all. 39p for 500g. I've always found them better than value brands and it sounds like the difference is even more marked now.

redlady_1

Well I survived the camping trip. I can safely say Lyme Regis must have known I was heading down there as last night the heavens opened and boy, I thought the tent was going to give out! But he did good. Perhaps now is not the time to be mentioning to him that I may be trading him in for one with a fitted ground sheet.

In relation to exes, sometimes it isnt about fighting for money. Sanity can be worth so much more. Yes, I have had to fight hard to get back on my feet (I chose to walk away with nothing - but that meant no debt either) and work two jobs but, I have my sanity and to fight would have destroyed me emotionally, something he would have relished. A phoenix can be alot more frightening individual to deal with. That said NEVER trust what they say. I trusted mine wayyyyy too much and he played some cracking mind games and I forgave too much. In the end it cost me alot - financially and emotionally.

katholicos

redlady_1 wrote: »

Well I survived the camping trip. I can safely say Lyme Regis must have known I was heading down there as last night the heavens opened and boy, I thought the tent was going to give out! But he did good. Perhaps now is not the time to be mentioning to him that I may be trading him in for one with a fitted ground sheet.

In relation to exes, sometimes it isnt about fighting for money. Sanity can be worth so much more. Yes, I have had to fight hard to get back on my feet (I chose to walk away with nothing - but that meant no debt either) and work two jobs but, I have my sanity and to fight would have destroyed me emotionally, something he would have relished. A phoenix can be alot more frightening individual to deal with. That said NEVER trust what they say. I trusted mine wayyyyy too much and he played some cracking mind games and I forgave too much. In the end it cost me alot - financially and emotionally.

I concur. I walked away with nothing, in the middle of the night, with the dog under my arm and the littlies in tow. Your ex sounds a lot like my ex. 'Demented' doesn't come close. You are so right....sometimes you have to claw yourself out of an horrendous relationship and if it means no house, no home, no furniture etc, then so be it if it gives you your freedom back and your sanity.

Softstuff

meanmarie wrote: »

Softstuff....where are you on Sunshine coast....spent a week in Caloundra in 08 and loved it there, drove round a bit up the coast.

We're a little bit north from there. I like some of Caloundra, but it's a bit hilly for me. I find some of the drives around there where you either can't see the road going up or look like you're going to hit it going down quite terrifying! Good beach area now. Not sure if they'd have finished the rejuvenation in 08, but there's some really nice picnic spots and a water play area there.

Hardup_Hester

When I split from my ex of 25 years, we did a 50/50 split, he got the house, the business, the pension & the savings. I got DS1, DD1, DD2 & DS2.
It worked for me, he lives in a 6 bed detached in a third of an acre, I live in a 3 bed ex LA with a small garden, he met someone who could give him the one thing I never could, MONEY, I met the man I am marrying in June, he's as miserable as sin & I'm a happy bunny.
Hugs Hester

claudiac_2

Fiftyeighter - Just had to pop on here and say there is definitely hope for you! My mum and also my MIL both got married again in the same year, both at the age of 71! Both are happy to have a companion, someone to enjoy gardening, eating out etc with. And both are a lot happier than when they were on their own. I can't tell you how surprised I was to have the ' I have something to tell you conversation'. which by the way happened with each of them in the same week! I was a bit shocked to be honest, but it has been great to see them both happy, and the four of them are now firm friends as well, with a combined family that needs a hall if we are getting together so it's all good.
I hope in time you will also find a partner who appreciates you, but don't think at your age it's too late cos it isn't!
Slinking back to lurkdom now, bye bye

Butterfly_Brain

Warning to gardeners - there is a hard frost forecast for tonight so try to get the tender seedlings indoors, under glass or under fleece or you might have to start again

Softstuff

Hardup_Hester wrote: »

When I split from my ex of 25 years, we did a 50/50 split, he got the house, the business, the pension & the savings. I got DS1, DD1, DD2 & DS2.
It worked for me, he lives in a 6 bed detached in a third of an acre, I live in a 3 bed ex LA with a small garden, he met someone who could give him the one thing I never could, MONEY, I met the man I am marrying in June, he's as miserable as sin & I'm a happy bunny.
Hugs Hester

When I brought my ex-OH into England he had the contents of a small suitcase (and I'd even paid for that), when I divorced him he got a new car, designer clothes, a decent mobile and 35,000 pounds. But by getting rid of him I still got the better end of the deal.

I couldn't be happier with my hubby, but he's a polar opposite to my ex in every way.

GreyQueen

Butterfly_Brain wrote: »

Warning to gardeners - there is a hard frost forecast for tonight so try to get the tender seedlings indoors, under glass or under fleece or you might have to start again

:eek: Ohmigawd, THANK YOU for the warning. My spuds are approx 1 foot tall and although I fleeced them as soon as they poked thru, they've ripped thru the fleece on some rows and are standing proud. Have spare fleece in lottie shed, guess what I'll be doing after work?!

We had a devastating frost here on 16-17 May a couple of years ago and I've been paranoid about them getting burned until that date is at least past. It's a glorious sunny day here at the mo and I guess if it doesn't cloud over we may get frost, too.

Butterfly_Brain

My DS was born on 6 May 1994 and it was snowing on and off up until Whitsun:eek: