Can my Ex Husband keep me out of my own house?

JoJoB

Can I just say please don't go fiddling with the alarm electrics if you don't know what you are doing dear pregnant lady? :-)

Emmzi

if you want a "real" valuation pay for a surveyor, dont use an EA.

With the new information it does sound like you are being unreasonable. He just wants to physically be there to look after his stuff? That's reasonable.

C_Mababejive

You have every right to enter and even reside in your home if you choose to do so.

If you feel that the sale is being obstructed then you can apply to the courts for an order to sell which would give you control of the sale.

It may just be that it is over priced?

Are there any children involved?

Mojisola

vicxzy wrote: »

I fully respect the fact that he has been living there for the past year & may not want somebody poking round the house, however there are a lot of my personal belongings in the house that he is also now refusing to give back.
As I own the majority of the property I have been more than fair in allowing him to stay there for a heavily reduced price (4 bed house for £300 per month subsidised by me!) he apparantly moved his girlfriend in over a year ago according to neighbours however still maintains to me that he lives alone so can only afford £300 per month.
I left my personal belongings there when I moved out as I was effectively homeless & didn't have anywhere for storage.
It was agreed at the time that I could keep mt belongings there until I had somewhere for them.
The issue now is that he is being obstructive by claiming he is unavailable for valuations but not allowing me to accompany them myself. He is also refusing me entry to the property so I can check on it's upkeep etc, I have not been into the property for a year but was not worried until recently when he started acting suspiciously about me gaining entry to the property.
I worry that he has done something to damage it or worse is using the property for illegal means.
He is refusing me entry to the property to personallly check it's condition or to take any of my belongings whether he is there or not.
As he refuses to give me the code what would happen if he was on holiday & the alarm was triggered? How would I be able to turn it off?
I feel that he has something more sinister to hide as in 9 years whilst we were married the house alarm was not once used & suddenly it is?

Given these circumstances, I would want to look around before I took an EA to the house.

I would arrange with a friend - as moral support and a witness - to go to the house with me. I would let myself in and check the whole house. I would have the paperwork to show that I am one of the houseowners in case a neighbour phones the police when the alarm goes off.

I would take at least some of my personal possessions away with me. I would take a camera and record how things are in the house.

pigpen

If you speak to the police and explain he is being deliberately objective abotu you claiming your belongings from the house and that he is intimidatin to you and in your condition you are obviously concerned about your safety they will accompany you.. but you will have to go when they want you to.

They did the same for my cousin needlessly as there wasn't any issue othe than she was frightened she had not even asked for her stuff.. but the police accompanied her and kept the house occupants in one room while she gathered her stuff with the aid of a female officer.

newcook

can you not contact the alarm company and ask them for the code/for them to reset the code? as you have the documents to prove its your property so they should be able to do this for you.

oh, also dont forget your camera - if his girlfriend has moved in you can take pics of her presense. this could also be a reason why he doesnt want you in the house as you will see she is living there and therefore will want more monies for the mortgage!

Little_Leita

My friend is a legal secretary and I asked her to ask one of the solicitors about this when I split from my ex - he moved out but kept turning up and letting himself in with the key to check up on me. The solicitor said that because my husband had left the marital home, had removed all of his belongings and was now renting another property, that he now had no reason to enter the house without invitation (even though it is jointly owned). He said I could change the locks if I wanted to (this didn't prove necessary as he returned the key as soon as I showed him the email from my friend) . He also said that if he did return for any belongings that I should put them in the garage.

I don't know the circumstances of your split, but unfortunately it might well be the same in your case? I think taking legal advice is your best option.

I agree about not liking the thought of someone poking around the house - my ex thinks nothing of opening a drawer or cupboard to 'see if that screwdriver/tape measure/photo is still there'. Its an invasion of privacy, everything in there now belongs to me or my children.

HTH

vicxzy

Don't worry I'm not going to go messing with the alarm
there are no children involved, he is just being a nightmare.
I don't think it's unreasonable at all to ask to accompany viewings if he refuses to give me times/dates when he is available.
I also don't think it's unreasonable that I now want to check what is actually going on in my property, I think a whole year without me asking to go round once us extremely reasonable & if he were amenable to people entering the house then I would not be worried as I said before i understand he might not want the house gone through.
But these are professional people, I feel they are unlikely to root through his belongings.
What worries me is the fact he states he will not allow me to inspect the property at ANY time whether he is there or not, even though I still pay the majority of the mortgage.
He also refuses to have any of MY valuers in the property even when he is there instead insisting that he will get his own valuation which never transpires.

lynzpower

Can you just evict him? Does he own any of the property?

If he is paying you rent, do you have a contract for this?

Imp

It is clear the OP believes she owns 80% of the property, and refers to the house as "hers". Who owns the other 20%? Is it joint tenants or tenants in common?