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Is she really disabled?
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I'm sorry but I wouldn't call seizures a mental disability. There's nothing wrong with my mental facilties even though I do black out and I consider my disability to be a physical one.0
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I'm sorry but I wouldn't call seizures a mental disability. There's nothing wrong with my mental facilties even though I do black out and I consider my disability to be a physical one.
Oh gosh yes I missed that mentioned in the posts above. Seizures are definitely physical as are my drop attacks and vertigo.0 -
Agreed, Jen, but with this OP I don't think that's really the point. That kind of blatant discrimination against mental illness is to be discouraged whether or not the condition actually IS psychological as some seem to think.Homosexual, Unitarian, young, British, female, disabled. Do you need more?0
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What causes non-epileptic seizures?
Non-epileptic seizures (NES) can be divided into two types: organic non-epileptic seizures and psychogenic seizures.
Organic NES
These seizures have a physical cause (relating to the body). They include fainting (syncope), and seizures with metabolic causes such as diabetes.
Because these organic NES have a physical cause, they may be relatively easy to diagnose and the underlying cause can be found. For example, a faint may be diagnosed as being caused by a physical problem in the heart. In these cases, if the underlying cause can be treated the seizures will stop.
Psychogenic NES
Some NES have a psychological cause and are called ‘psychogenic seizures’. They are psychological because they are caused by the impact of thoughts and feelings on the way that the brain works.
Psychogenic seizures include different types.
Dissociative seizures are involuntary and happen unconsciously. The person has no control over them and they are not ‘put on’. This is the most common type of NES.
Hopefully your friend? will eventually realise that she would be better off without you,hopefully someone will point her in the right direction so that she receives the benefits that she is wholly entitled to claim for,the matter then rests with the DWP has to whether she gets any monetary assistance..thus taking the matter out of your hands completely.She has every right to submit a claim for DLA just as you do,why not try being more compassionate towards her instead of being so self centred,if you cannot do this then please cut her a break and leave her to get on with her life without you .Loyal to those deserving!!.0 -
What causes non-epileptic seizures?
Non-epileptic seizures (NES) can be divided into two types: organic non-epileptic seizures and psychogenic seizures.
Organic NES
These seizures have a physical cause (relating to the body). They include fainting (syncope), and seizures with metabolic causes such as diabetes.
Because these organic NES have a physical cause, they may be relatively easy to diagnose and the underlying cause can be found. For example, a faint may be diagnosed as being caused by a physical problem in the heart. In these cases, if the underlying cause can be treated the seizures will stop.
Psychogenic NES
Some NES have a psychological cause and are called ‘psychogenic seizures’. They are psychological because they are caused by the impact of thoughts and feelings on the way that the brain works.
Psychogenic seizures include different types.
Dissociative seizures are involuntary and happen unconsciously. The person has no control over them and they are not ‘put on’. This is the most common type of NES.
Hopefully your friend? will eventually realise that she would be better off without you,hopefully someone will point her in the right direction so that she receives the benefits that she is wholly entitled to claim for,the matter then rests with the DWP has to whether she gets any monetary assistance..thus taking the matter out of your hands completely.She has every right to submit a claim for DLA just as you do,why not try being more compassionate towards her instead of being so self centred,if you cannot do this then please cut her a break and leave her to get on with her life without you .
Or maybe she is taking the p*** ,she wouldnt be the first or last.
:eek:Mum/carer to Dallas who has Aicardi Syndrome,everyday i look at you makes my life fulfilled.0 -
I am a member of a small, parent led group for our children who all have disabilities. Of the eleven disabled children, only my son has physical features of disability - the other ten look 'normal' (for want of a better word). Having said that, many of the disabilities are physical. You just can't see them. Hearing aids are covered by hair, gastrostomy tubes are covered by clothing. Other disabilities have no visible features at all.
I have often thought how much easier it is for me with a child with a visible disability, having seen the way some of the other parents and children are stared at when their child behaves in a 'different' manner to most other children.
To the OP - you have been generous in giving lifts and not requesting payment towards petrol, but now it is time to change the rules. Don't give lifts unless you are going out (and preferably in the same direction) anyway. Ask for petrol money beforehand - the cost of fuel has increased greatly, so it is a valid reason to ask for a contribution. If no money is forthcoming, then refuse to give a lift. You are being taken advantage of, regardless of whether this person has disabilities or not. Only you can stop this situation.0 -
lilac_lady wrote: »I think you should remove her from your friends list as she seems to be causing YOU mental anguish.
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''Her "fits" don't make her collapse, fall down or anything she just puts her head in her hands and stares for a couple of minutes and then is fine but I can understand why this would be dangerous to drive but not to travel on buses?''
My DD2 has frontal lobe epilepsy and non-epileptic fits. When she has a NEF she is exactly the same and the reason it is dangerous for my DD is because she has no recollection of whats happened and is sometimes left confused she also forgets what she was originally doing and needs reminding, everyone varies and everyone is different as to how they are after a NEF and after a fit, have you asked her what happens after she's had one and how they make her feel
''She was on about driving again but when someone said she may have to wait for 2 years after having a "fit" she suddenly forgets how long ago her last one was and is not sure she really had one!''
My DD couldn't tell you or anyone when her last one was either but then she can't remember what day it is or whether she is on her way to school after one either.
''They now seem to have stopped as suddenly as she asked her hubby to stop working away now and come home.
If she is perfectly capable of living alone, travelling alone on public transport and walking for miles alone is she really entitled to any DLA?''
My DD can go a few weeks and not have anything and then she's having them back to back there is no routine or set amount as to how many you have per day.
As for her wanting her husband at home, is it really any of your business?
And also why should she not be entitled to DLA? It's a disability that does affect people and there day to day living. Also alot of people who are disabled live alone should they therefore not recieve their DLA because of this?
And as for your comment about her disability being a mental one, I find that to be very offensive knowing that it is much more than a 'mental disability' especially when I see my DD in agony from having a seizure and when she's in agony and can't eat or drink due to having sores from biting down on her cheeks and tongue. I could go on but I won't.0 -
One of the most ignorant posts I have read in a long time.
Totally agree. I am another with hidden disabilities. Some days I am feeling better than others so I try to make the most of them because I know they wont last.
If I know I have to do something I cant get out of I have extra medication to get me through it.
You can never know what someone is going through unless you are with them 24-7. I am lucky that I have some wonderful friends who would never dream of abusing my trust on a public forum and they would drop everything to be there if I needed them.0 -
I wouldn't call seizures a mental disability. There's nothing wrong with my mental facilties even though I do black out and I consider my disability to be a physical one.
Completely agree it is physical. Sorry I didn't pick this up in my response.
It seems the thread is mainly about whether a disability can be seen by others or not. Hidden disabilities, which can be both physical and / or mental disabilities, can be as debilitating (?spelling) as those that are visible to others. Except often with hidden disability there is the added misunderstanding or dimissive attitude of others. Also disabilities can be hidden the majority of the time, e.g. fits, and suddeningly become visible.
I am someone with both visible and hidden disabilities and true friends are those that take time to understand how these disabilities affect me, rather than discriminate against me because my disability is different to theirs. So maybe fifitrix123 could take time to understand this other woman/friend rather than make assumptions abouther fits affect her daily life. I don't know much about the condition this other person has but if I was her friend I would want to support her not turn against her.0
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