Would you donate your womb to a childless woman?

sarah*a

faithcecilia wrote: »

But I've just had a silly, over-tired thought - could you imagine the advert on freecycle

Available, one womb with or without ovaries. Unused but as far as I am aware, in working order!!:rotfl:

Sorry, I really do need more sleep!

Loanranger wrote: »

If you added, women only need apply, would that be regarded as discriminatory??

Does bring up the thought of would transgendered male-to-females be able to have a womb 'implanted' to allow them to carry their own child??

I'd be happy to donate mine (they can anything they want) but it seems to be faulty - I appear to have lost the manual

pigpen

DevilsAdvocate1 wrote: »

Without the emotional side, the effects on the baby, women who has had the womb removed and the women who received the transplant have to be taken into account. The article says that the women receiving the womb will have to take immunosuppresent drugs - what effect will these have on the growing fetus.

The women who has the womb removed will presumably face the same issues as those with a hysterectomy. Will this mean years of HRT on the NHS?

Too many side effects as far as I'm concerned.

The same effect as if they had any other transplant.. kidney, lung, heart, liver.. they still need the drugs.. in effect you are saying any person who has had a transplant shouldn't have children.. that's not really a sound argument.

There are lots of people who have had transplants who go on to have healthy babies.. they are carefully monitored and dealt with accordingly.

HRT is not needed for a basic hysterectomy.. the ovaries are what produce the hormones not the uterus.. they remove the uterus normally but leave the ovaries so the woman still has all the PMT and has menopause at the normallife stage.. unless it is a radical hysterectomy whien the ovaries are also removed which throws the woman straight into menopause.

elvis86

I really think this is an unnecessary step too far. Aside from the risks to (live) donors and recipients, the cost of this has to be scrutinised, unfortunately we don't live in a world of endless resources. Spending NHS money on a transplant which isn't actually neccessary to save someone's life, and is only temporary (so presumably the organ will have to be removed by a surgeon at some point, using even more valuable resources), seems unjustifiable to me when people have to wait for surgery that could save their lives. I think we need to challenge the idea that it is somehow everyone's "right" to have a biological child.

There's so much inequality in the world, it seems morally questionable to me that whilst people in the third world are denied simple surgery to restore their sight, resources and hours of doctors' time in the UK should be spent on something like this, fulfilling someone's desire to become a parent. It's not like there aren't 1000s of children out there already who need a stable home.

Obviously there's a fine line and we can't be expected to somehow "apologise" or feel guilty for all the priviledges we are lucky enough to have, but to me surgery like this is a choice.

I was born male (and gay), so I will never be able to carry my own children or conceive with a partner (though I would dearly like a family one day). However, I wouldn't in a million years advocate years and years of resources and research being directed at somehow enabling me to carry a child. Not when the time and money could be spent on looking for cures to the many diseases that ruin and end people's lives.

I'll just accept the way things are, and will have to find another way to have a family.:) That's not to say that it isn't difficult watching countless women "accidentally" getting pregnant, having children they're ill-equipped to take care of when I know that I could provide a loving, stable home for a child and yet cannot have one nearly so easily. But life isn't always fair. I think a lot of people who struggle to conceive would benefit from accepting that and exploring alternatives, rather than letting their infertility issues blight their lives and becoming obsessed with the pursuit of something that may never happen.:(

sassyblue

Princess_Coupon wrote: »

What if they told you they'd had a horrendous life? it would completely break my heart

It would, but then l have many friends who've conceived by IVF or egg donation and they are excellent parents. IMO parents who have to struggle so hard (myself included) truly know the value of parenthood so that scenario would be statistically FAR less than any 'normal' parent.

Unless the recipients were an infamous couple who lost their IVF daughter in Portugal whilst out drinking with their mates. :mad:

Re, the OP no l couldn't donate my womb, it's a reminder that it gave life to my precious child and l'm a woman. I'd happily donate any eggs but l'm considered too old by the rule makers

I'm on the transplant list for anything else when l die and l also give blood.

elvis86

sassyblue wrote: »

It would, but then l have many friends who've conceived by IVF or egg donation and they are excellent parents. IMO parents who have to struggle so hard (myself included) truly know the value of parenthood so that scenario would be statistically FAR less than any 'normal' parent.

Unless the recipients were an infamous couple who lost their IVF daughter in Portugal whilst out drinking with their mates. :mad:

Yeah, because I don't suppose they regret that ill-advised (but probably at the time, seemingly inconsequential) decision every day of their lives..:cool:

I'm sure if we really think about it, we've all made decisions which, should the worst have happened, we could've lived to regret forever (eg glancing at your phone to read that text whilst driving, leaving junior in the car whilst you run into the petrol station to pay). It's very easy to point the finger.

jcr16

oh gosh, i don't know.

if i didn't have my life i have now then who knows. but going by the life i have at the mo, where i'm a mum to 3 plus bump and we want more , i couldn't imagine giving my womb away and saying no more for us.

But if i wasn't with hubby and i didn't want children then it completly different. but i can't comment on a life that i don't know about if that makes sence.

Hubby and i spoke a while back about donating eggs and sperm, and both of us said we couldn't. as we looked at our children, and it would be so hard knowing their would be a half silbling to one of them somewhere and never knowing.both hubby and i are far to maternal to do it. i think those who can are amamzing, but it not for us.

Hubby has said he'd like to foster or adpot later on in our life. which i think would be fantastic.

sassyblue

elvis86 wrote: »

Yeah, because I don't suppose they regret that ill-advised (but probably at the time, seemingly inconsequential) decision every day of their lives..:cool:

I'm sure if we really think about it, we've all made decisions which, should the worst have happened, we could've lived to regret forever (eg glancing at your phone to read that text whilst driving, leaving junior in the car whilst you run into the petrol station to pay). It's very easy to point the finger.

I suggest you read up on the case (not their version of events) before you think l point the finger without good reason.

elvis86

sassyblue wrote: »

I suggest you read up on the case (not their version of events) before you think l point the finger without good reason.

I suggest you broaden your horizons and try to move on from the Daily Star and Take A Break magazine, to publications with big words and a little less bias against the middle classes.;)

mummyplus3

Princess_Coupon wrote: »

What if they told you they'd had a horrendous life? it would completely break my heart

Well yes that would be awful but I think it is alot less likely to happen considering the effort gone to just to create the baby, obviously there will be cases but hopefully these are few and far between.

Its still worth taking that risk in my opinion.

sassyblue

elvis86 wrote: »

I suggest you broaden your horizons and try to move on from the Daily Star and Take A Break magazine, to publications with big words and a little less bias against the middle classes.;)

The official police files have never appeared in either of those publications have they? :rotfl: