Trying for baby number 5??

Pink_Mummy

People get by, as much as they used too.. You give your child/ren as much as you can, no matter how many children you have.. You could ask the same questions about weddings/uni/ property ladder etc to parents with just 1 or 2 children.. They might not be able to afford it where as someone with 20 children could,
Parents do as much as they can to their financial abilities.

pigpen

smk77 wrote: »

Will you be able to afford to send them all to Uni? Will you be able to afford to help them on the housing ladder? Will you be able to contribute to their weddings? Not being able to help out with these may put children from big families at a disadvantage.

If you found yourself in a position where you had no income (unemployment, long term sick etc) would it be fair to burden the state?

I wouldn't pay for a wedding or a house if I had 1 child.. they want it they work for it same as I did. They are luxuries to be earned and worked for. I will provide as much as possible in terms of education and practical support but there is no way I would consider helping with a wedding or house.

Mine all have post office accounts with substantial lumps of cash to help with uni or a house or whatever they want to spend it on when they need that first helping hand.

vroombroom

I don't think its that people can't accept it if you have more kids, but like people say, it can be a constraint on the government esp if the parents don't work.

Example: my OH has a 24 year old sister who has four kids. She has never worked, her husband doesnt work and they have a huge house all paid for. They get more a week in handouts than me and OH get working full time. SHe spent in the region of £3k at Xmas on her kids, yet still knocks at my house asking to lend £100. (which I say no to). She has said she will quite happily have another baby at some point this year and her husband doesnt work as he has a 'bad back'. Doesnt stop him going on on the lash every weekend does it.....

Pink_Mummy

Lol at pigpen!!

Honeysucklelou, hats off to you with 7 hun.. your fifth was the best birth.. so there's hope for me yet lol!!

Pink_Mummy

Yep there are some people that scrounge and get everything paid for.. However it's not everyone that has a big family!!

JC9297

smk77 wrote: »

Will you be able to afford to send them all to Uni? Will you be able to afford to help them on the housing ladder? Will you be able to contribute to their weddings? Not being able to help out with these may put children from big families at a disadvantage.

If you found yourself in a position where you had no income (unemployment, long term sick etc) would it be fair to burden the state?

I think most people pay largely for their own weddings these days and since when were parents expected to help their children buy a house?

smk77

Pink_Mummy wrote: »

People get by, as much as they used too.. You give your child/ren as much as you can, no matter how many children you have.. You could ask the same questions about weddings/uni/ property ladder etc to parents with just 1 or 2 children.. They might not be able to afford it where as someone with 20 children could,
Parents do as much as they can to their financial abilities.

no, children used to be a economic asset - they're now a financial burden. Don't misquote me on that phrase...

The average family can afford weddings/uni/property help for 1 or 2 children. You'd to have a massive income to be able to provide the same for 20 children.

pigpen

Pink_Mummy wrote: »

Yep there are some people that scrounge and get everything paid for.. However it's not everyone that has a big family!!

Too right.. there is my dad for example.. lazy turd that he is.. worked maybe 15 years of his 58.. though most of that time he was off sick.. now on incapacity or whatever it is called now.. gets his 3 bed house paid & his council tax.. not a thing wrong with him and never has been.. I tell him one day there will be something wrong and he'll get nothing.. not even sympathy!

Sad thing is my brother is following very closely in his footsteps!

madelaine

I think people are entitled to have as many kids as they want, but not if they are not working and claiming benefits,that really gets my goat, if you want the kids great, just fund it yourselves.

vroombroom

am not saying it is, but what incentive do people have to get a job/support their families when they know if they add another bairn to the brood the state will pick up the tab?

I'm not having a go at any of you with large families as I don't know your personal circumstances but I think in the age we are in where people are struggling on a day to day basis, questions will be asked if you could support another baby?

But personally speaking, we'd never be able to afford another kid. We will struggle with this one as we will only get child benefit - but then, he's our baby and we'll pay our way for him.

(sorry if I am rambling, am v tired!)