Living life, loving life.......hypno's having a ball!

Karmacat

Ouch. Ouch, ouch. Hypno, I'm sorry things are feeling so bleak for you at the mo - I know you don't want to post details, but do you ever do any journal writing? It can help ...


In the meantime .... lots of hugs from me (((((((((((((())))))))))))))))))

hypno06

Not tried journal writing, KC. Presumably you are talking nothing more sophisticated than writing in a paper diary?

I'll be ok - it will pass.

MrsMoo2U

Hypno, no need to thank us. You have been there for so many people its time for us to payback. Sometimes we just need to wallow a little. The wallowing helps us to work things through in our mind and make plans. Do be sure to take care of yourself in ways that will bring a little sunshine to the wallow. When did you last go to the beauticians for one of your favourite aromatherapy massages or to the hairdressers or the sauna even. Think of something that makes you smile and get out there and do it. Just a small ray of sunshine each day will get your through eventually. It does get better I promise.

Karmacat

Exactly - nothing sophisticated at all about it - but because you *never* show it to anybody else, you can write whatever you want - there's research that shows that writing is very effective in terms of self help .... I know you'll be okay, I have every confidence in you, it would be nice to get back to your recent "life is good", tho :grouphug:

gallygirl

hypno06 wrote: »

I'll be ok - it will pass.

I have 2 sayings when I'm down:

This too will pass

and, if that doesn't work, !!!! it & pass the gin

It may be a bit early for the latter, but maybe the former will get you through till it's a reasonable time for the gin .

Give yourself time to grieve for the past 10 years, a lot went on and now that you've come through the other side your brain is probably taking time to process it and file it away.

Enjoy your weekend xx

Lula-Hula

Morning lovely,

Been catching up with the last few pages & most of what you write rings true for many ( apart from the falling over house bit)

You have battled so much for so long & are now feeling a bit bereft; so much of your very being has been consumed by what you have to achieve & now that's done you need to spend some time re-centering yourself & just finding you who you would like to be next.

It's almost like a grieving process; to let go of all that you had to be to deal with everything. Go with however you are feeling & be kind to yourself ( chocolate, cofffee, cake, shoes etc).

The future is a scary place when you're not sure quite what to aim for. Yes, paying off a mortgage is a practical challenge, but easily progressed when you have all the strategies. Who to be & what to do for/with yourself is far more daunting.

I'm living in the same realm, so really feel for you right now.

You will find a way & to get you through each day, just remember to fill your protective bubble with goodies each day.

xx

Karmacat

Lula-Hula wrote: »

The future is a scary place when you're not sure quite what to aim for. Yes, paying off a mortgage is a practical challenge, but easily progressed when you have all the strategies. Who to be & what to do for/with yourself is far more daunting.

Lula! Thats very good. I like that. Thats an exact summary of what *so* many of us are facing.

lucielle

No words of wisdom from me just echoing what everybody else says. Have some ((((hugs))))
L

ZTD

hypno06 wrote: »

And yes, I sobbed when I got home.

:grouphug:

hypno06 wrote: »

And no, I didn't sleep well either.

I know it's hard - but stop worrying about the not sleeping. Worry about the stuff that improves when you worry about it. Your sleep will just have to cope with being ignored for a while.

hypno06 wrote: »

I'm up and watching the rugby,

Hopefully that will be entertaining and not in a "throwing stuff at the telly" kind of way...

hypno06 wrote: »

and will do Zumba mid morning and will just see how things go this weekend.

Enjoy your Zumba-ing...

hypno06 wrote: »

Thank you for all the hugs, the kind words and for putting up with what is turning into being a bit of a prolonged episode of bleakness!

Why do you use the word "bleak"? That seems to imply no hope for the future. Is this episode just something that came out of the blue, or are there events which give a foundation to it?

Have you seen your friend recently? The one who was bringing a smile to your face.

hypno06 wrote: »

And especially thank you for the picture of JD that I could finally see this morning :cool:

He needs a haircut...

hypno06

Although there are identifiable elements to it, Z, I think the extent at which it has floored me is what has come out of the blue. I honestly can't remember a period like this (other than immediately after losing Dad, or OH announcing he was leaving) when I was this tearful etc.....

Yes, I have had odd days - we all have those from time to time, and I have learned (or at least I thought I had) to deal with those as they arrive, and to give them the respect they deserve.

This feels different in some way - and I don't like it, and I want out of it.

I do very occasionally see said friend - real life gets in the way of that one rather a lot at the moment.

Right, need to get trainers on and get out.