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The Giving up/ Cutting down Alcohol support thread- number 10

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  • shaggydoo
    shaggydoo Posts: 8,435 Forumite
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    Set your targets for November. The Christmas festivities start now - rack up some AFDs while you can :D

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    Everyone Welcome!

    Shaggyx
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  • shaggydoo
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    November :-

    firework.gif= 7 Days AF

    014.gif = 14 days AF

    cool.gif= 21 days AF

    angel-smiley-028.gif = 28 days AF

    smiley10signzj4.gif = 30 days AF

    :j = target achieved


    Annie G


    Barcode


    Bearacus
    /TF


    Beckseven
    /20


    Bretts


    Caramelcaron /15

    Carer Adrian

    Cheezypeas
    /26


    Dave'sdaughter


    Fakeplastic
    /20


    Fedup /30

    Flimsier
    /27


    Forever /16

    Gien /30

    Happyshopper
    /20


    Idristhe dragon

    Jungle Jane
    /29


    Lamarsi
    /20

    L
    egsand /20

    Mackeroo /19

    Maman
    /10

    May
    /17

    One for the Rd


    Shaggy
    /17


    Pricey SOS
    /25


    Rachel /15

    Tearose


    TotallyInzane

    Yorkshire Belle






    PLEASE PUT YOUR TARGET AFDs IN A BOLD RED FONT and good luck! (and if I've made any mistakes, don't be shy, please let me know!)

    EVERYONE WELCOME
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
  • Hi everyone. Last 2 days AF so I finally finished October on 7. I was gutted it all fell apart last week but I'm really pleased I managed to stop again. My usual pattern is 2AFDs fighting it every inch of the way, give in on day 3 then drink every day for 6 months before trying again. So 7 since joining you guys last month is a bit of a record. Put me down for 20 for Nov please Shaggy
    Good luck everyone
  • maman
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    Is that meant to be AOC?

    Well done gardenanna on jumping back on the wagon. We all have bad times but drawing a line and moving on is the way to regain control. Good luck for November.....to EVERYONE!!
  • Hello all,

    I'm not an alcoholic, but I am living with one. My flatmate has been struggling with his drinking for years now, and although he can go some weeks without booze, I know he slips back. I love him to bits, he is a great friend (I wouldn't have offered him a home if he wasn't) but I am torn about how I can help him, if I can help him at all.

    I have read some of these threads, and am quite stunned by the strength that you all have. You deal with this condition in such different ways but with dignity and recognition of the power of addiction.

    If there was anything you wished your friends/loved ones could have done, I would be very grateful for the advice or comments.

    He is an awesome man. He is lovely, kind, funny, smart and generally the best flatmate a person could have. Yesterday he got drunk and came onto one of my friends, whom he knows to be vulnerable from a break-up at the minute, told me after she had left that he really likes her and wants to be her boyfriend, then spent a further ten minutes staring into my eyes telling me how beautiful I am, then tried to kiss me. Frankly, when he's drunk I think he would shag a warm scarf if gave him the eye :) I can deal with it and just brush him off with a friendly hug, but it's now risking my friends' feelings. I want to help him, but don't know how.

    Thank you for your advice - anything is appreciated.

    the only person that can stop your flatmate drinking is himself and he needs to change himself from within. do you know why he drinks?
    does he remember what happened? if he doesn't (or claims he doesn't), you should tell him and make it clear that his behaviour is not acceptable or normal. you said you 'brush him off with a friendly hug' but that will just excuse his behaviour and give him licence him to carry on.
  • AF yesterday so that's my target of 8 in October made please Shaggy.
    Bearacus I would like to go for the full 4 in the SNC and 1 already under my belt.
    Thanks
  • I'm feeling a little bit more relaxed this week. I had a couple of glasses of wine Friday night. My BIG achievement (in my mind anyway) was going to a party on Saturday night and swapping wine for schloer after two glasses. So I remembered the whole night, even danced sober :j

    Well done; I'm getting better at this myself; and I agree it's a big achievement :T
    I'm looking for alternatives to wine when I'm out; is Schloer nice? I remember it as being very sweet but perhaps there are different types?
  • ForeverHopeful_3
    ForeverHopeful_3 Posts: 276 Forumite
    edited 1 November 2011 at 4:19PM
    Well done; I'm getting better at this myself; and I agree it's a big achievement :T
    I'm looking for alternatives to wine when I'm out; is Schloer nice? I remember it as being very sweet but perhaps there are different types?

    It was actually Asda extra special sparkling grape juice with elderflower. Just couldn't be bothered writing that all out at the time X
    Need to start again :o
  • Hello all,

    I'm not an alcoholic, but I am living with one. My flatmate has been struggling with his drinking for years now, and although he can go some weeks without booze, I know he slips back. I love him to bits, he is a great friend (I wouldn't have offered him a home if he wasn't) but I am torn about how I can help him, if I can help him at all.

    I have read some of these threads, and am quite stunned by the strength that you all have. You deal with this condition in such different ways but with dignity and recognition of the power of addiction.

    If there was anything you wished your friends/loved ones could have done, I would be very grateful for the advice or comments.

    He is an awesome man. He is lovely, kind, funny, smart and generally the best flatmate a person could have. Yesterday he got drunk and came onto one of my friends, whom he knows to be vulnerable from a break-up at the minute, told me after she had left that he really likes her and wants to be her boyfriend, then spent a further ten minutes staring into my eyes telling me how beautiful I am, then tried to kiss me. Frankly, when he's drunk I think he would shag a warm scarf if gave him the eye :) I can deal with it and just brush him off with a friendly hug, but it's now risking my friends' feelings. I want to help him, but don't know how.

    Thank you for your advice - anything is appreciated.

    As the others have said, it will be up to him to stop. He has to reach rock bottom and realise what effect his behaviour has. Until then all you can do is advise/give your opinion/tell him his behaviour is unexceptable. I know how tough it is to live with a drinker who can't control their behaviour. Unfortunately I'm still waiting for MrR to reach the point of changing his behaviour himself. You will get support on here.
    MrsR xx
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  • Hi All,

    Well done on some fantastic totals for October :T
    And for those who feel a bit down about their total, we're in a new month. Everything that has gone before can be forgot :D

    MrR came home from work and went straight to bed. He's been sick twice and has got the shakes. Will he ever learn...............

    I've got my xmas job at Asda :j 20 hours a week spread across 4 days/evenings. So I'm now here feeling sick at the thought of leaving BabyR and missing her bedtime 4 times a week :sad: I think there may be tears.

    MrsR xx
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