The Giving up/ Cutting down Alcohol support thread- number 10

bearacus

Beckseven - use any colour you like As long as its bold so i can see it!
Sumsup, Shaggy- I ve updated the list :T
Gien- Do you want me to put you down for 3 nights in this weeks challenge ?

Any last minute takers! Im happy to list 3, 2,1 nights if that helps anyone x

bearacus x

Toomany- i will update it now ! Glad to have you on the challenge and 3 nights it is x

May2013

Hi Bearacus

Can I jump on board the SNC...I'm going to try for 2 this week if that's ok? Not going to be easy as I'm away with work this week (drinks in the evening is part of the deal) but I need to start taking control of this!!!

bearacus

May2013- course you can jump onboard ! I will update the post. Good luck with your AFs :T

bearacus x

Chloris

graemecarter wrote: »

Yes. I tried to control my drinking for years, and while it may have worked for a fortnight or so, I always ended up back where I started (out of control).
So at least when I know I am not going to drink today (I can only not drink for one day at a time), I don't have that internal dialogue of "Perhaps if I have a couple of glasses, that will be pleasant, but not enough to get me drunk", etc

My alcohol problem is physical and mental
Physical because when I have alcohol in my body, I want more. I never had the feeling that one drink was enough for me. I sometimes stopped at 2-3 drinks, but never wanted to stop.

Mental because even after a period of being AF and my life being much better, I still would put that first drink in my body, and thus start the whole physical problem.

So what I had to do was make sure I never have that first drink. It's that first one that gets me drunk, as it starts off the craving for more.
To ensure I don't have that first drink, I needed to change myself, and stay changed.
That's not easy, but it is possible. If I can do it, anyone can as I am ill-disciplined and lazy, and hate change. What I needed to do is get proper help, and get in contact with people who haven't drunk alcohol for a long time, and learn what they know. I need to continually be in contact with people with the solution to my alcoholism, as left to my own devices, I drink.

If I pick up a drink now, my past becomes my future, and I don't want that to happen. All I need to do is not drink today, and I think I can do that.

Good luck for whatever you decide.

Thank you for this. It is where I am now. If I try to decide I am not drinking ever again my mind goes into rebellion and I desperately want a drink, I panic "What, no drink when its XXX occassion?" etc. But I can chose today not to. Thank you because I did wonder if I wasn't being ambitious enough.:cool:

Kerry78

AFD No 1

Helped by the fact I'm sick in bed with a tummy bug.

PriceySOS

2 AFDs please, Shaggy

2 SNC, please, Bearacus

It's still me, but I felt the previous name was giving too much information - and you just never know, in RL, who else is reading, and I do like to be very honest with all my virtual friends.

maggiesoop

Done my back in making my bed yesterday morning (pulled a muscle or it's a spasm) much as it's horrible not being able to walk without looking like Mrs Overall, at least it's another 2 AFDs please, Shaggy
. Thanks Maggie

sumsup

Hi everyone, well I survived going back to work without grabbing a glass of wine as soon as my DS was asleep! SO that's 3 AFD in May so far please Shaggy.

Hope everyone else had a good day,

Sums

flimsier

2 for me please.

Yesterday and today.

eca00opc

3 for me please Shaggy.

I've been doing AF for a month now and it gets easier - can't believe it's a week since my last drink, it's gone so quick. This time last month a day without alcohol seemed like a lifetime!!:j