How can I get him to pay?

Phil_Wood

Text him & ask if he'll be a trustee in the childs inheritance......the smell of money is often enough to draw out the creepy crawlies. :rotfl:

Phil.

PreludeForTimeFeelers

The CSA can generally trace him from his full name and date of birth, as they can access Government databases. It helps if you can identify the area where he lives, or has lived, but the more info you can give them the better.

Phil_Wood

Britneys_Firefly wrote: »

Hi all,

All I have is his name, and mobile phone number, as well as the town that he lives in!, can the CSA help me?...

since my little boys arrival I have told dad he has a son, but at the moment he is being bone idol and hasnt even visited yet.

Can anyone help?

I'm new here so please excuse me if this is impertinent.
I made a couple of suggestions earlier which were meant to be taken light heartedly.......I got thanked for them.

More important than any financial gain is "Do you want this man in your life"?

It is important that he supports his child but if you are on benefits & he is on benefits then you may not feel any benefit.

The taxpayer will not benefit because all that will happen is they'll take £5 a week off him & give it to you......then they'll take it off you.

Whilst all this paper shuffling is going on, a government employee will be getting paid by the hour to do the paperwork.....their boss will be getting paid to supervise them...and so on.....all the way up to the government minister responsible.....Talk about wastage!!!!

If the bloke is working...make him stand up & be a man .... is this what you want?

Phil.

nannytone_2

phil, they don't take child support of any amount into consideration when working out benefit entitlement, so it doesnt matter if she is on benefit or not. she would receive and keep any child support that the father pays.

vasseur

These are good points.

It may be that at the moment the OP's ex (for wont of a better word) may still be coming to terms with what's happened. There is always the possibility that they can come to some kind of private arrangement financially once he's had a chance to think things through. For so many though, the CSA is their only option.

Being a single parent is hard work, both emotionally and financially - I don't think too many people would choose to become one. Speaking for myself things would certainly have been easier to have had my ex around if only to muddle through together in the 'newborn' days.

Even if the OP's ex doesn't want to be involved, he still has financial obligations and at the very least not having to worry about money so much makes everything else seem a hell of a lot easier.

Phil_Wood

nannytone wrote: »

phil, they don't take child support of any amount into consideration when working out benefit entitlement, so it doesnt matter if she is on benefit or not. she would receive and keep any child support that the father pays.

Inncorrect....if an income support claimant gets £X per week from another claimant in any form, it's still deducted.
It's a stupid system that means that an absent parent on benefit has a small sum deducted .....but the recipient also has it deducted....it just keeps people in jobs pushing paper.

Phil.

Rebecca01

I thought that system was abolished last year and the pwc being on benefits had nothing to do with receiving maintenance????

shell_542

Phil_Wood wrote: »

Inncorrect....if an income support claimant gets £X per week from another claimant in any form, it's still deducted.
It's a stupid system that means that an absent parent on benefit has a small sum deducted .....but the recipient also has it deducted....it just keeps people in jobs pushing paper.

Phil.

No, that is incorrect. The system changed last year. Now a PWC gets to keep all of their maintenance regardless of if they are receiving benefits.

http://www.csa.gov.uk/en/case/child-maintenance-changing.asp

DebtHater

Phil_Wood wrote: »

Inncorrect....if an income support claimant gets £X per week from another claimant in any form, it's still deducted.
It's a stupid system that means that an absent parent on benefit has a small sum deducted .....but the recipient also has it deducted....it just keeps people in jobs pushing paper.

Phil.

No, YOU are wrong. CSA payments, along with Child Benefit payments, are not taken into consideration when working out benefits.

sheilavw

Is it possible you could look on electoral roll?