Daughter keeps running away

System

Anotehr who didn't want to read and run sorry to hear what you're going through. I hope she's found safe and sound and something can be worked out to help her and you.

LadyMorticia

When I was a teen I used to run away alot. I'm not sure entirely why I did it. I wasn't in with the wrong crowd (I went to a school 20 miles away so had no local friends). I was in foster care and got stressed really easily. I also had mental health problems as a teenager (still do) and looking back I think it was my way of coping (I'm not saying there are problems at home or anything). I think the referral to CAMHS is a good idea. Looking back I can see that the running away was one of the starts of my mental health issues.

LadyMorticia

I hope she's found safe and well.

MCMitten

Since you've not posted since 12.45, i'm just hoping no news is good news and your DD is back safe and well.

I've not really anything to add, but I just wanted to let you know i'm thinking of you.

XXX

nad1611

"I locked the front and back doors so she couldn't get out".

Do be very careful about trying to restrain her yourself. There was a case recently, as crazy as it sounds of a woman being imprisoned for false imprisonment of her teenage daughter, attempting to stop her daughter getting out to feed her drug habit.

Obviously this situation is already out of control you must seek help from professionals before this gets worse.

gizmo111

Hi,

Hope she is back soon - I guess she will be most teenagers turn up in this sort of scenario with absolutely no idea of the worry and chaos they have caused :eek:

Not much to add to others but I'll keep an eye out and if SS become involved help as much as I can.

Take Care

jinty271

I have an almost 14 year old daughter, I cant contemplate what you are going through - it must be horrific.

To flip the coin, 24 years ago, I was that same 14 year old.

Please please please - persevere with her. Sounds to me like you are doing everything correctly. Just be there for her. My " parents" decided they couldn't forgive me for the handful of times I ran away, and I have now had no contact with them for over 25 years. Their loss, I did turn out OK in the end !

Thoughts and prayers are with you, now that I have my own daughter, I regret what I put my folks through ( although I would never disown any of my 4 kids)

LadyMorticia

jinty271 wrote: »

I have an almost 14 year old daughter, I cant contemplate what you are going through - it must be horrific.

To flip the coin, 24 years ago, I was that same 14 year old.

Please please please - persevere with her. Sounds to me like you are doing everything correctly. Just be there for her. My " parents" decided they couldn't forgive me for the handful of times I ran away, and I have now had no contact with them for over 25 years. Their loss, I did turn out OK in the end !

Thoughts and prayers are with you, now that I have my own daughter, I regret what I put my folks through ( although I would never disown any of my 4 kids)

Sorry your parents don't have contact with you. If anything, when kids run away, after letting them know how much pain they've caused, they need love.

My foster parents didn't want anything to do with me. When I ran away, they didn't care so that just made me want to run away more because I didn't want to be in a place where I wasn't loved or accepted.

RainbowChild_2

I last spoke to the police at 4pm they found out where she stayed last night but still can't locate her. She sent me a really abusive text earlier and her friend rang me giving me abuse because the police had been to her house which I let the police know about and she also sent her Dad one too.......

I had a bit of a meltdown earlier and the crisis team have been out to see me. They will come back tomorrow....in the meantime I can't do a lot.

WeeBabyDoll

I used to be one of those kids - abusive and out of control. MY school tried to send me to one of those 'boot camps' but I wouldn't have any of it.
To be honest there is nothing you can do. Parents like to believe there is always something but it is either something she will grow out of or she won't. Simple as that really. I'm sorry for you but there really is nothing you can do to straighten her out.