Can i nominate a next of kin

Mojisola

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

Difficult one, because this was why civil partnerships were brought in (partly). Though I don't think a heterosexual couple can be in a civil partnership?

Just checked and no they can't.

Heterosexual couples already have the option of a civil ceremony, as opposed to a religious one.

If couples don't want to get married, they should spend some money on wills and advice about house ownership, etc, so that their partner and any children are protected when they die.

escortg3

Mojisola wrote: »

Heterosexual couples already have the option of a civil ceremony, as opposed to a religious one.

If couples don't want to get married, they should spend some money on wills and advice about house ownership, etc, so that their partner and any children are protected when they die.

Thanks for the help and advice given.

It is not the money side of things we are worried about. We have wills. What we are worried about is having a loved one take care of medical choices or funeral arrangements, not a next of kin.

shellsuit

escortg3 wrote: »

Thanks for the help and advice given.

It is not the money side of things we are worried about. We have wills. What we are worried about is having a loved one take care of medical choices or funeral arrangements, not a next of kin.

Those are the main reasons why me and my husband got married last year. (plus we have a child together)

I didn't want anything happening to him and his Dad taking over when he hadn't bothered with him in the 8 years we'd been together.

Even him being the babies Father wouldn't have helped so the only thing for it was marriage.

Can I ask why you are so against marriage? You don't have to answer if you don't want to of course!

escortg3

shellsuit wrote: »

Those are the main reasons why me and my husband got married last year. (plus we have a child together)

I didn't want anything happening to him and his Dad taking over when he hadn't bothered with him in the 8 years we'd been together.

Even him being the babies Father wouldn't have helped so the only thing for it was marriage.

Can I ask why you are so against marriage? You don't have to answer if you don't want to of course!

I do not feel that i should have to get married just to be able to be his next of kin. I feel like society is always trying to pressurise you to be married.

I have been married and so has my partner and no thankyou i dont want to do it again:mad:

It is my partner who keeps asking for me to make sure he gets the care he may need and also tells me that he wants me to arrange a funeral for him.

I just know that there will be a stink when the time comes and his dad appears.

RAS

RAS wrote: »

Hi

A few starting points, because you can nominate your next of kin.

1. Start by making sure that you both carry something which indicates that the other is the next of kin; just saying, in the case of emergency please contact. That way, after a car crash, say, the police contact you not his dad.

2. Use a nomination form as above.

3. If this is really serious check out the Public Guardian's Office http://www.publicguardian.gov.uk/arrangements/lpa.htm and arrange an LPA.

Please read aLL THE RESPONSES.

yOU CAN DO SEVERAL THINGS ABOUT THIS.

oops

Mojisola

escortg3 wrote: »

Thanks for the help and advice given.

It is not the money side of things we are worried about. We have wills. What we are worried about is having a loved one take care of medical choices or funeral arrangements, not a next of kin.

Just fill in several of the cards mentioned on the advicenow website - so that you can be sure that one will be found - and write a letter to the GP.

It would probably be worth doing a letter to be kept with his will that can be produced if his father gets too awkward.

euronorris

tanith wrote: »

This is not correct .. I think this might be helpful I printed out the card for an elderly friend who didn't want her family as 'next of kin'.

http://www.advicenow.org.uk/living-together/next-of-kin/next-of-kin-html,183,FP.html

Thank you Tanith. This is very helpful and I had no idea it existed.

birkee

escortg3 wrote: »

I do not feel that i should have to get married just to be able to be his next of kin. I feel like society is always trying to pressurise you to be married.

You can't have it both ways.....The system can only work to specified guidelines. No rules = chaos.

Society is not pressurising you to get married, this is something a couple does because they want to be together. Who cares what society thinks.
Or, if you choose not to get married, then it doesn't matter to the rest of the world, but the system rules come into force.

Since when did marriage equal social pressure?
Marriage is a couples commitment to each other. Sounds like you both treated your first marriages too lightly, ...nobody forced you to marry.

escortg3

RAS wrote: »

Please read aLL THE RESPONSES.

yOU CAN DO SEVERAL THINGS ABOUT THIS.

oops

My partner has spoke to funeral director and they have told him if his dad came in as next of kin he would be able to arrange funeral and i wouldnt have any say

Mojisola

escortg3 wrote: »

My partner has spoke to funeral director and they have told him if his dad came in as next of kin he would be able to arrange funeral and i wouldnt have any say

Is that just because they don't have any authorisation to stop the father arranging it?

If it says in the will that the executor - presumably you - has full and only rights to arrange the funeral, wouldn't they accept that?

Hope you can get a clear answer.