Can i nominate a next of kin

escortg3

This may sound confusing but wonder whether you nice people can help me. Me and my partner are not married.

We dont want to get married but would like to nominate each other to be each others next of kin. My partner does not speak to his legal next of kin his father.

He is now worried that if he had a serious accident or died that his father would take over. He definately does not want this to happen.

Can we somehow nominate our own next of kin.

Any help would be appreciated

[Deleted User]

Hi,

next of kin has to be family, kin is family, kindred

If you mean someone to benefit from his will, then that is different.

escortg3

[Deleted User] wrote:

Hi,

next of kin has to be family, kin is family, kindred

If you mean someone to benefit from his will, then that is different.

No we are not worried about who benefits from the will, its more about my partner and also myself being able to decide on what care he may need or arrange a funeral. He really does not want his father involved.

Mrs_Ryan

I dont think it has to be a blood relative - I think you can nominate anyone. OH's CPN asked me if I wanted to be classed as his next of kin but I said no - we arent married either. If he is estranged from his father and does not want him involved I see no problem. However bear in mind (and I have seen this happen) where an unmarried partner is not allowed to be with a dying partner as they arent family - shocking really.

if he were to be taken into hospital or vice versa they usually ask who is the next of kin - AFAIK himself/yourself could just say the other person.

[Deleted User]

Hi,

well, I would say go and see your local undertaker, have word with him, keep you right.

shellsuit

If it's that important to you both, would you not consider getting married?

It would cost you less than £100 for a quick midweek register office wedding and nobody even need know.

escortg3

Thankyou for your replies.

I just find it hard to believe in this day and age we cant legally nominate someone. I really do not want to get married. why cant we just choose who we trust to make important decisions about ourselves.

My partner only has his father and after years of abuse really doesnt want him involved ever:(

tanith

[Deleted User] wrote:

Hi,

next of kin has to be family, kin is family, kindred

If you mean someone to benefit from his will, then that is different.

This is not correct .. I think this might be helpful I printed out the card for an elderly friend who didn't want her family as 'next of kin'.

http://www.advicenow.org.uk/living-together/next-of-kin/next-of-kin-html,183,FP.html

RAS

Hi

A few starting points, because you can nominate your next of kin.

1. Start by making sure that you both carry something which indicates that the other is the next of kin; just saying, in the case of emergency please contact. That way, after a car crash, say, the police contact you not his dad.

2. Use a nomination form as above.

3. If this is really serious check out the Public Guardian's Office http://www.publicguardian.gov.uk/arrangements/lpa.htm and arrange an LPA.

Mojisola

If it's for general or medical matters, you can nominate whoever you want to be considered your "next of kin". The link given by tanith is very useful. You can also get your GP and the hospital, etc, to make a note if there are certain blood relatives that you don't want to make any decisions on your behalf. It can be difficult for medical staff if a mother or father or other close relative turns up at the hospital and tries to take over from your OH. If they have your instructions in writing, they can make sure that doesn't happen.

As regards inheritance - for example, if you die without a will - then only spouses, civil partners and blood relations are counted as "next of kin". If one of an unmarried couple dies and there is no will, their OH cannot inherit. It will all go to blood relations of the deceased.

gratefulforhelp_2

Difficult one, because this was why civil partnerships were brought in (partly). Though I don't think a heterosexual couple can be in a civil partnership?

Just checked and no they can't.