Had to call the police on my parents today :(

Money_maker

Just an observation, OP.

You see you are telling us that you were pulled by the police for a duff bulb and incorrect insurance on a car you were driving. Fair do's, you've admitted it was correct and you made a mistake.

Then for the above reason your parents burst in your house, frightened your children and made you so afraid you dialled the emergency service for life-threatening situations.

Here's the problem - no one can understand why your parents would be upset, no one knows what sort of relationship you have with them, how have things got to this stage or have they always been bad? Do you normally talk reasonably to them? Have you cut them from your life before? We just need a little background as nobody can understand such an extreme reaction to a police ticket!

mishkanorman

poog wrote: »

I dont see how that conclusions been made?

I've not mentioned my children's ages. My mum and dad are PO's well office PO's not on the beat ones and I work full time. I've got a bout of PND vs some severe disioactive disorder?

I would read through your previous posts, and perhaps if you are sharing an account make that clear too !

Money_maker

One of your little girls was born Dec 2007, one was born March 2010. Ages are very close.

ALIBOBSY

Well I've got a parent who has/might react in a stupidly over the top manner to the smallest of things. When at nearly 17 she found my contraceptive pill (which was hidden under a set of drawers-she had to pull all the drawers out and remove the loose panel at the bottom to get to it) she shouted and screamed, smashed plates and called me a stupid !!!!!, nice.
Look at my other threads about my mum and look at the replies, many people have to deal with parents who simply don't act "normally".

However I would say any parental/child realationship has many years of history and it is hard to judge over one incident. I would say to OP to distance herself from the family whilst things calm down then perhaps try to have a chat with them on neutral ground and explain how much their bad handling of the matter upset you and the kids, or if you can'r face them perhaps put things in a letter. If they know how much they hurt you perhaps you can move on to a more adult relationship with them (they sound like my mum who still tried to treat me as a child).

Good Luck
ali x

poog

I share this account with my Boyfriend, I did have a friend with circumstances similar to my own, whom I became close too from another forum, although it would seem a long term troll was at the end of the posts and it really upset alot of people including myself turns out their life was amazingly similar yet oh so much more dramatic than quite a few of us

My partner orginally set this account up for doing his Matched Betting and I kind of hi-jacked it.

We have an up and down relationship at the best of times, We fell out recently and I changed my landline number and didnt want anything to do with them, but I cave under the need for approval or something stupid. This isnt the first time they have had there "friend's" inform them of things that are meant to be confidental, the first time was when I was raped and then this. I think i've got so angry because of the first time and I didn't make a complaint back then even though I wanted to because the officer was a "friend"

I would say my relationship has been getting worse over the last 8 years, pretty much as soon as I hit the teens things have gradually gone down hill, running away, self harm, sucide attempts etc where the norm for my teenage life.

Everything was reasonable I cant recall the exact words that were used but they barged in through the back door into the lounge when I asked what they were doing here it all started kicking off...

"you know why I am here" etc... and at the point I really didnt know why she was there so said I didnt and she just esculated and went off her rocker.

My dad was just standing there with his slapped !!!! face on and mum just going more beserk, I told her it was none of her business and that the officer shouldnt of told her she replied it was her business (?!) I stood up and told them to get out of the house, then she started saying no were not going so for a few mins im just standing there saying get out of my house and she's saying no.

So I grabbed the phone and told them to get out of the house again, she said no and laughed and said "so your going to call the police are you, you've already been so silly" or something like that. So I called them and she finally left not before trying to get my OH to go outside and talk to them but I told him not to go.

That's abit more detail. I just am physically and emotionally exaugshted of the stress of it all. This is the first time its been anything like this infront of the kids and as far as I'm concerned thats them struck off now. I'm just feeling quite raw and drained tonight.

Money_maker

Hey, think you've had quite a rough trot of things recently. Cannot condone your parents overreactions but if they have your full MH history then perhaps they were just worried about you. Can you get advice from your SW - they may be able to give a more personal response with knowledge of your family.

Try to sleep on it - won't be so bitter and raw in the morning. You may have a bit of a multiple persona on mse but you come across in all of them as a good person just trying to hold it all together.

Things will be better tomorrow - who knows, your parents may come forward to apologise and hopefully you can all move forward. If not, it's their loss, not yours x

shellsuit

So you're Lauren?

I'm confused, all these names and friends and police officers!

diable

Data protection act comes into force screw the rozzer who grassed you up to your parents............

Oldernotwiser

Driving an untaxed, uninsured car isn't a minor matter as you seem to think, so I can understand your parents being annoyed; it's really everybody's business if someone does this as the consequences for other people if they'd been involved in an accident with you would have been drastic.

However, breaking into your house is a bit extreme.

nottslass_2

So when the you called the police did you inform them that all this has escalated because one of their officers has broken the law by breaching the DPA ?.