am i being unreasonable??

Mum-2-Be

No you aren't being unreasonable but then Im female so lol. .

My ex was the same, if you asked him to hoover or walk the dog he would go mental - note the word EX

ktheartsu

I have to say my partner does'nt do much around the house but thats partly because I have more time off than he does and partly because I like things done in a certain way!
He'll do the dishes if asked and because hes a chef, when he does the dishes he cleans the whole kitchen! He does the ironing too. I generally have to ask him to do things but like I say, I like things done in a certain way so I'm not totally fussed about it.

I guess if he had more time off he probably would do things around the house, I'd like to think he would anyway!!

January20

saintly wrote: »

i admit i got it easy when i lived with my folks, we only only moved out 8 months ago but i got a culture shock and i know i have to do it but he was an only child so they did everything. and he wonders why i dont want children lol

he's done 1 set of washing since being in the flat together, he put it on a boil wash haha[/QUOTE]

There is an old story I heard a few years ago: couple of guys chatting, one telling the other the best way of getting out of doing chores like the washing by putting a red piece of clothing in a white wash... A whole wash ruined. Wife never asks again.

Could have just been a trick

Chyna-s

When my OH (male) moved in 3 years ago I told him I hated the sound of the vacuum cleaner - I've not vacuumed since :rotfl:

DansMum_2

Mines like this. Reckons as I work 5 days and he does 6 then I should do it all.... He hasnt picked up a hoover in 2 years let alone dust. He did a couple loads of washing last year..... He does however, look after the cars and bikes and is in sole charge of renovating the garden atm and washes up 5/7 days.

I get frustrated though as we both make the mess so why shouldnt we BOTH clear it up?:mad:

evespikey

I wouldn't live with someone who didn't do their share of the housework. If one of you isn't working and is physically capable, they do the housework. No ifs and buts about it.

ERICS_MUM

saintly wrote: »

its his bloody mother that has got him like this, he openly admits that, i was shocked to hear the reason he never scraped the left over food off his plate was because he used to put it by the dishwasher and his mum did it! :eek: that soon changed!!

You're right there. My mum taught my brother all sorts before he left home, so his wife was blessed with a hubby who could wash, iron, cook tea, collect kids from school (he works shifts), hoover, decorate, diy mow the lawn, clean the bog etc.

B+tch of a wife still wasn't satisfied and had a fling with the ice-cream van man :mad:

Your fiance "cleaning" the bathroom floor with full strength bleach is just taking the pith and he needs putting straight. You sound very hard-working and supportive - don't let him take an unfair advantage.

Do you plan to marry this man and have children with him ?

bargainbetty

You are not being even vaguely unreasonable! If needs be, leave out the instructions for the washing machine - sellotape them to the machine so he can't say he can't use it. Show him how to make up a bucket of 'floorwash'.

I've had a partner who tried this schtick, and lasted all of a week. His clothes sat unwashed while mine were clean, I wouldn't cook a meal if the pot it needed was unwashed on his 'shift' and if he complained about anything not being done, I would give him very simple advice on how to do it himself or alternatively to not let the door smack his a*se on the way out.

I work, he worked, we either split the housework or he can pay a contribution for a maid/cleaner. I am not one, and will not be treated as one. Neither should you be.

Best of luck

barbiedoll

When my husband had his work hours cut, he thought he would be spending the day loafing around on the sofa, watching "Loose Women"

After a couple of weeks, I got thoroughly cheesed off and we had a *discussion* about him pulling his weight and he agreed that if I left a list, he would do some of the chores.

On the first day, the list included "Take the washing out of the machine and hang out to dry" When I got home and the washing was still in the machine, I was not best pleased. Apparently, he couldn't work out how to open the door! :mad:

(To be fair, the door doesn't have a handle, no-one can work out how to open it at first. But still...........:mad::mad::mad:)

Oldernotwiser

It sounds like he's also doing the good old male trick of doing something badly so you don't ask him to do it again. (The bleach on the bathroom floor and the boil wash incidents.) If he really doesn't know what to do then you need to show him but if things don't improve, treat this as a useful warning and get the hell out of the relationship.