How to Get Through The Tough Times The Old Style Way.

ifonlyitwaseasier

joeck68 wrote: »

I think (and in a way hope) that the 'it's tough' thread will soon close, the unpleasantness that keeps happening mean that sooner or later it will self combust. Maybe that will be a good thing as the thread is far removed from what kittie originally intended it to be, and would perhaps be better absorbed into the daily thread. Sometimes even lurking on this thread, in the hopes of picking up tips, is uncomfortable because of the tone of some of the messages. I am shocked at how rude some of u can be and am sure you would never be so abrupt if speaking face to face with someone. Maybe it's not intentional but to someone just dropping in to this thread must be pretty shocking. Some posters here are lovely, but the few who aren't really spoil it for everyone. It's such a shame.
Jo

i really hope it doesn't close,

i find the best options when there is something i disagree with is posted is either comment once and then move the post t a different topic or just ignore it.

i have found GQ's posts amusing in the way i'm sure they were intended. a way to let off steam about an awkward situation.

anyhooo back to the tough way, i'm finding its eased a little for me but thats merely because our budgeting has worked out better for us i know a lot of others still have it very tough and i want to say i think it will get better for us all eventually,

lostinrates

ifonlyitwaseasier wrote: »

anyhooo back to the tough way, i'm finding its eased a little for me but thats merely because our budgeting has worked out better for us i know a lot of others still have it very tough and i want to say i think it will get better for us all eventually,

The bills we are getting are really scaring me atm. I will NOT take on more debt that can be avoided, but its so expensive to get things done. For the planning application we have to put in...primarily being got now to stop the hpuse falling down, not to extnd ...though we have extention on the same planning ap. to save money and not have to do all these checks twice....we have to have a Bat survey, a water system survey, a structural engineer and trial pits. Each window we have changed is going to cost us a fee of £100 to have approved....we asked if we could pay a one of £1200 fee for the whole building as new builds do, but no, we have to have each item checked individually.

And i want to get the roof insulated too...desperately before next winter!

I'd also really like more curtains for next winter. I keep an eye out at the charity shops, but they are all v. thin and I can't help feeling that its a bit of a drama to line curtains I don't really like anyway. But I can't afford material for ones I do ATM either!

It just feels like there is a LOT going out ATM...and I can't stop it.

Puddleglum

Life is tough for most of us posting on this thread (I say most just in case there are one or two who have never had it so good!). It gets tougher when you don't get enough sleep and I for one really feel for GQ, although tbh IB does sound like a fairly typical, inconsiderate, possibly studenty, young man. When I was in a similar situation years ago a pack of wax ear plugs were an excellent buy BUT I also managed to get out of the situation in a few months which GQ has not been able to do, hence the need to let off steam from time to time.

Best wishes to all.

Puddleglum

welshcamper

morning all

if this gets closed i will see you all in the pub:D

well job oh telephoned for had gone that morning:( so Oh thinking of starting up his own business, he did many years ago and kept us ticking over nicely, he has an appointment with pathways monday.

picking up greenhouse today, had to hire a van £35 , but fil paid:D

my cuboards are starting to look like old mother hubbards now, freezers still ok ish, must go out today and do a little bit of basic shopping.

son and daughter have decided to try for another baby, apparently this is very common to try so soon after losing one, im terrified for them, but its their choice, i can only be there for them.

ceridwen

ie - I have found a specific Noisy Neighbours Forum...working on the basis that "whatever it is - there is probably a specific help group for it" - I found:

http://www.noisyneighbours.net/forum/

Yay

Also found:

http://www.digitalspy.co.uk/forums/showthread.php?t=680993

and

www.noisyneighbours.co.uk/

www.nfh.org/uk/resources/Articles/noise/index.php

Other thoughts I have on this are that other overcrowded "modern" countries with a high proportion of "attached" (as opposed to detached) housing will share this problem - so maybes there are websites out there (written in English) from countries like Holland and Japan (China and India are also very overcrowded countries - but I suspect might have a different take on this possibly to us???). Certainly the Dutch are also very overcrowded and have very similar ideas on the right to a nice, peaceful home to live in - so there might very well be Dutch sites...and theres "translate" functions on the Internet anyways..

EDIT: 4th link didnt come up so try googling "Neighbour noise helpsheet and what you can do" by this organisation.

jackieglasgow

Welshcamper, good luck to your family, it sounds good that you are all looking to the future. I don't pray but I shall certainly think positive thoughts for your son and daughter (I really like how you refer to her as such ) in the coming days and weeks. xx

Lavandula

Well I thought my job was reasonably secure...ha what do I know...I will be made redundant (unless I choose to relocate to another country...no way!!) at the end of 2012:mad:

So at least that gives me some time to think what I will do in the future. I am the breadwinner and OH looks after our 6 yr old son. I earn 40K at the moment. I reckon I could live off the redundancy package for a least a year.

I now realize I have had a lucky escape. I was about to take out a 180K mortgage and move to a slightly bigger house...luckily I had the redundancy news before that happened and we had not made any offers on houses...

I also realize I am actually happy with my current house and was only contemplating moving because I could afford a much bigger house..

I am mortgage free and own my house, and feel like this is a new opportunity for me to escape the rat race and live an even more simple life that I was doing already.

Luckily we already have a decent size garden, and we have extended the veg beds and the plan is to become as self-sufficient in veg as much as possible. I am already very frugal and hate consumerism....hence I paid off my 70K mortgage in 9 years..for that I am very grateful!!

Up the workers!!

mardatha

Welshcamper, sending love & light to the son and DIL, I wasnt paying attention and didnt realise what had happened. I lost three babies, at 5/6/7 months & I went on to have 3 more.
LIR, I can empathise with your memory pet. At least you've got one ! God knows where mine went .. Poor eldest son is here today, going through a very hard time and I'm worn out trying to be cheerful and positive so I gave up and retired to the kitchen. When in doubt, especially with a Taurus, feed them!

juliettet

My two-penneth is that although I lurk and have read every post, agreeing with some and disagreeing with others I am very grateful for people bothering to post hints & tips and will continue to follow with Interest. I too had an IB as a neighbour who almost drove me to the doctors to ask for sedatives. I saw a clearer picture after a week at my mum's and actually waited until a visit from his father invited them in and spoke to them both. It was immaturity and a hefty chunk of cash from his Gran that was his problem It was much better after that. If I had not had this experience I too would feel there was another side to this but please carry on with all your support it is invaluable.
Julie

maryb

To everyone who has ever felt put off or unwelcome, please don't. I used to think I was a Thread Killer because every time I posted no one ever responded. I just carry on regardless - we all have a right to post. Like most of us, I'm not in any clique here and I hope that we help a few people who are feeling down

Grey Queen please don't stop posting either. I don't want you to think that my post was in any way critical. It's just that if you are depending on an anti social behaviour case by the council, then as you know yourself, that might not succeed because the court might take the view that he has the right to come and go. Is there a friendly surveyor at the council who could advise what might be done to make things better? If you could sleep through his comings and goings the rest might be bearable ie if he doesn't wake you up when he first comes in you might be able to sleep through his faffing around once he's inside