Weekly Flylady Thread 14th February 2011

Natty68

LameWolf wrote: »

Natty I've had varifocals for 3 years now, the ones I'm picking up Thursday are just an updated (stronger) prescription. I was advised to get used to them gradually when I first had them, wearing for an hour the first day, 2 the second and so on, and going back to my other specs in between. But in fact I found no problems getting used to them, and was wearing them the whole time after just 3 days. I think they err on the side of caution, because some wearers do take a bit longer to get used to them.

Thanks for that LW, although I must admit I'm not quite sure if I am using them right..I am just using them like normal glasses, although I do tend to look down to read anything. Oooh saying that I have just been playing around with them while watching t.v. and I can actually tell a difference if I look through them normally or look out the bottom of them (more blurry!) I did get the more expensive style of varifocal rather than the cheaper version, this one does have a bigger lense and all over cover - I thought if I need them all the time I need something that I can get on with..and DH was paying..lol I also can't believe how clearer everything is, even the computer.. And I don't have to take my glasses off to read or do the sewing now..so am not straining my eyes. It's also nice that I don't have to have a book/mag/sewing practically under my chin to do anything

Happy Birthday Vanilla, hope you are having a reasonable day. Hopefully things won't be too bad when the !!!!! hits the fan re DH. If you need to talk give me a shout, having spending problems myself and hopefully getting them sorted this year with help..plus having the hiding/depression/BP and Borderline Personality I kind of understand what your DH is doing. Although in some respect it isn't very nice for you, and believe me I put my DH through hell and still do sometimes. But I am here if you need to reach out..

Well as a few of you who are on Fb probably know I have done sweet f.a. but I am getting a bit of a spurt on and will be doing a few bits later on..plus I need to pop to Asda to pick something special up for DH as we are having a belated valentines meal tonight.. Sorry Toots I didn't manage to get dressed before midday, more like before 3pm..lol.

Hugs and spoons to everyone, especially Toots and LL

Monday ~ Kitchen and Dining Mess
Level One
Sweep, vacuum and mop floors
Oven and hob cleaning week... and it is level one so none of you can get out of it..
Level Two
Wipe table replacing cloth if necessary..
Clear out a cupboard.. the larder unit if yyou jave one or just the general messiness of cupboard.. the one where you stuff all things useless.
Level Three
Wipe units and large appliances.. don't forget kickboards!
Wipe the tops of the wall units.. lining them with old wallpaper or newspaper keeps them clean!
Dejunk window sills, dust blinds and wash windows!Extras

1. Wash light shades and clean bulbs
2. Clean out the smelly fridge
3. Sort out and restock baking cupboards
4. Wash the vacuum cleaner innards, noonoo's, brushes and filters.. do not reassemble until completely dry!!

Tuesday ~ Living/Family/Reception room
Level One
Declutter and vacuum floor!
Wipe sticky grubby marks from sofas
Level Two
Wipe sticky grubby marks from walls and paintwork
Vacuum nuder furniture you can safely move.. we have bit of a baby boom on at the moment so please all be careful!!!
Wash any smelly soft furnishings (this may include pets and OH's)
Level Three
Decant all the miscellaneous papers and bits into a box
Polish any glass.. screens, pictures, ornaments mirrors etc
Extras

1. Wipe and water any plants
2. Vacuum fluff from the fire and behind the radiator
3. Sort through the box of miscellaneous belongings
   
4. Binbag dance

pigpen

Lenza.. I am thinking of inflicting myself on Triker and her brokkid foot while she cannot flee I shall take advantage!!! lol

katiecat

Happy Birthday to the Birthday girls hope you both have a nice day.

Cold here today Just waiting for heating to come on and then I can make a start on list but first cup of tea and then put washer on .living room not too bad so shouldn't take too long.

Hugs to all

Katiecat

sockdrawer

Gah! That was horrible. I am never ever cleaning out the oven ever ever again even if it is at level one.
I should have known that while 99% of the population can, without difficulty, clean an oven, only I will find mine is leaking gikky brown corrosive :eek: gunk all over the floor. Only I would get paranoid about it and start cleaning it off just an hour after it was put on, and only I would then obsess about breathing corrosive fumes/ waste product going down the sink/onto food areas/etc etc etc.
Would someone please kick my bum and tell me I'm being stupid, and also tell me how to avoid all that in the future- short of not using my oven?

vanilla

embb wrote: »

OMG! I had a sharp intake of breath when I read that. I know he has his problems but bl@@dy hell, i haven't really got the words, I'm gobsmacked he's done that to you. :mad:

Thats an addicition for ya. He's promised to get me something later next week but what gets me is he thought so little off me in the first place that he spent his money the way he did.

Dustykitten wrote: »

Vanilla - feel so sorry for you but have no advice as I know nothing of addiction. I hope you can get the support that you need and that the kids are being kept as protected from all this as possible.

Kids are always well protected and i usual know when something isn't right. He's been told already that if he relapses at all i'll sign him in straight away. I see it happening sooner rather than later, i just looked on his ebay account and he looking at one of them stupid masks. Think i'll be taking all his money off him, for his own good.

toottifrootti wrote: »

more bucketfuls of (((hugs))) for you angel yo certainly deserve them - I would agree about talking to his CPN - if his addiction gets started again you need help and maybe someone can nip it in the bud before it gets a grip again.
What about a HUGE GINORMOUS IOU for your birthday - make a list of jobs you need doing and he does them by way of an apology!!!! It wont cost him any money but will cost him time which is what he should be giving you - maybe make him forgo one of his trips away?

He did help with the back garden yesterday but has done nothing since. He's getting it easy today because my sister and BIL is here but there going home at 4 (they have no heating in there house) so i'll have a very long chat with him this evening. He's over come this so many times before and if i had of been with him on saturday it wouldn't have happened but i have to be able to have him go out by himself and be able to say no. The lies got me the most because i knew he was still holding stuff back. Even when i told him to be honest. He still lied but he gets caught in the lies and can't remember what he said but i do.

Shysarah i may take you up on the offer as i've told hubby before about the 12 steps but he wouldn't go. A friend of mine, her OH done it and is off everything, drugs and even meds and smoking.

My snooze is decluttered and i feel loads better for it. Kids are heading to the cinema tonight with there granny so need them ready by 7, gonna go and leave sister home now and prepare myself for a long night. I NEED to have things sorted tonight.

Maxonian

pigpen wrote: »

Lenza.. I am thinking of inflicting myself on Triker and her brokkid foot while she cannot flee I shall take advantage!!! lol

Good idea. She always talks sense
My only advice to ANY situation, is play the tape to the end. What i mean is think what the end result might be? Having said that, there are boundaries, and it is where YOUR boundaries are and no-one elses. Not sure if that makes sense 'on screen'?

Happy Birthday Vanilla
Sorry DH has relapsed. You need to look after yourself and your kids.

Greenbee - I used your line today at work. Delivered it with a straight face and then howled laughing when I got round the corner. thanks for that one.

Came home to 2 piles of cat sick which are now cleaned up. Just having a coffee then will do some flying.

Also came home to another bouquet of flowers!
DH complained about the bouquet i got on friday, said it wasn't up to their usual standard. He then bought me more flowers yesterday as an apology. today the flower company have sent another bouquet as an apology! Need to go and see if I have another vase? Funny thing is I thought they looked ok. Heck what would I know :rotfl:

Ok - here I go........

cat_smith

pigpen/vanilla No advice, but (((Hugs)))

:TBoth ovens now sparkling. Kitchen being decluttered. Freezer arranged so DH can find food for the next 10 days. Last of 2008 bread mix used up. I will find the back of the pantry cupboard this year:rotfl:

Hugs to anyone else who needs them. sockdrawer fluffy mule. Oven liners are your friends.

sockdrawer

cat_smith wrote: »

sockdrawer fluffy mule. Oven liners are your friends.

Are they ok with a gas oven? They do look rather good!

Mumto5

Wow! I disappear for a morning and so many things kick off.

Jinky - hello stranger! Nice to have you back again

Vanilla - Wishing you a Happy Birthday sweetheart. You don't deserve this !!!!!!, you're such a happy flylady, I can understand how this must have knocked you sideways. Massive Hugs and coping vibes.

Thrifty - Happy Birthday

Pigpen - I'd be so very hurt and would explode immediately. I admire you for thinking it through first. AnW's comment was very wise words. It's very destructive behaviour. Is it tied up with his annoyance about the childcare issue's with KH and visiting his parents? Pretty extreme retaliation.

My hand consultant has the vomitting bug so I've been pushed back to Thursday. DH can't take me and it's 5.45 - the worst possible time. DS1 is off college feeling poorly. He asked me if he had a temperature and I had to stand on tiptoes to reach his forehead:rotfl::rotfl:6ft 1 inch and he's still getting taller

Monday ~ Kitchen and Dining Mess
Level Two
Wipe table replacing cloth if necessary..
Level Three
Wipe the tops of the wall units.. lining them with old wallpaper or newspaper keeps them clean!
wash windows!

Extras

1. Wash light shades and clean bulbs
2. Sort out and restock baking cupboards
3. Wash the vacuum cleaner innards, noonoo's, brushes and filters.. do not reassemble until completely dry!!

Tuesday ~ Living/Family/Reception room
Level One
Declutter and vacuum floor!
Wipe sticky grubby marks from sofas
Level Two

Vacuum under furniture you can safely move.. we have bit of a baby boom on at the moment so please all be careful!!!
Wash any smelly soft furnishings (this may include pets and OH's)
Level Three
Clear and wipe firesurround..
Polish any glass.. screens, pictures, ornaments mirrors etc
Extras

1. Vacuum fluff from the fire and behind the radiator
2. Binbag dance

justD_2

Tuesday ~ Living/Family/Reception room
Level One
[STRIKE]Declutter and vacuum floor![/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Wipe sticky grubby marks from sofas[/STRIKE]
Level Two
[STRIKE]Wipe sticky grubby marks from walls and paintwork[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Vacuum nuder furniture you can safely move.. we have bit of a baby boom on at the moment so please all be careful!!![/STRIKE]
Wash any smelly soft furnishings (this may include pets and OH's)
Level Three
[STRIKE]Clear and wipe firesurround.. [/STRIKE] no firesurround
[STRIKE]Decant all the miscellaneous papers and bits into a box[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Polish any glass.. screens, pictures, ornaments mirrors etc[/STRIKE]
Extras

1. Wipe and water any plants
2. [STRIKE]Vacuum fluff from the fire and behind the radiator[/STRIKE]
3. Sort through the box of miscellaneous belongings I guess I'd better do this later, have sooo many boxes of miscellaneous stuff
4. Binbag dance

Having a bad day, feeling really down and I really don't feel like doing anything. Lunch was a disaster, got my 1 hour of quiet to sort out dinner and still haven't laid the carpet.