Weekly Flylady Thread 14th February 2011

somethingsgottogive

Pigpen - I can't believe you're questioning whether you should be angry or not!? I don't know what your relationship with your OH is like, but if it were me and my OH I'd be heartbroken! I really think that the emotional side of a relationship is more important than the physical, and if my OH were telling another woman that he loved her and wished he was in her bed.. God, I don't even know what I'd be thinking Sorry if anyone thinks I'm overreacting but I think your OH's behavior is appalling, especially as he's clearly in a committed relationship with young children.. the selfish t w u n t! :mad:

pigpen

AnW'sMum wrote: »

Honesty should be at the core of any reationship, you both need to sit down and have a calm rational discussion about your relationship, your wants and needs, your fears and hopes. There should be no secrets between you as this is where the mistrust starts to leech in and once that trust has gone it is very difficult to regain.

Be honest to yourself first and foremost and the rest should follow.

toottifrootti wrote: »

piggers you cant get rid of him until you have passed your driving test!
tell him if ge wants to go it is HIS decision that you dont want him to go and you are not making decisions for him.

toots xx


have hung out the towells =dont think they will totally dry but its better than them being draped around inside

Thank you both.

Most sensible.. unlike me that would flounce if I was up to it. I shall think on it a few days and see where my head is come Friday..

somethingsgottogive wrote: »

Pigpen - I can't believe you're questioning whether you should be angry or not!? I don't know what your relationship with your OH is like, but if it were me and my OH I'd be heartbroken! I really think that the emotional side of a relationship is more important than the physical, and if my OH were telling another woman that he loved her and wished he was in her bed.. God, I don't even know what I'd be thinking Sorry if anyone thinks I'm overreacting but I think your OH's behavior is appalling, especially as he's clearly in a committed relationship with young children.. the selfish t w u n t! :mad:

That's about where I am at the moment.. but I have so much else going on I can't filter the emotions into their proper places.

I am really confused as to why he would consider it.. I was actually more upset he had told her she is his valentine when I should be.. completely irrational as it is all a load of balderdash but I found that really really offenive.

I think it may be time to get stuff straight before I completely destroy my head thinking about it.. I made the wrong choice with KH alllowing his affair to go on without majorly blowing a fuse I don't want to do that to myself again.

vanilla

Piggers no advice really except that i would have it out with him, making it very clear that it is his decision what to do next.... it will only eat away at you until you do.

I've managed !!!!!! all since my last post and i'm still livid with hubby, no pressie here or happy birthday until the kids got up and they said it first. He did go on saturday to get a pressie and even told me when he got home that is was a great surprise and i'd love it. Turns out he fell in with someone and spent the money...on an old addiction (he had been clean for a good few years and was doing really really well)....then lied and lied and lied, he's been well caught out this time. :mad:

I'll phone his CPN later just so there aware of what is going on and to also prepare them for when the crap hits the fan. My heads messed up now, so think i may just snooze (it usually helps) and then work out what to do with him.:(

I may even manage some flying later.

seafarers_wife

and then my mum phoned so HHC starting NOW lol

Shysarah

Oh Vanilla...

I know how hard addiction is as I myself am a recovering addict and am working a twelve step programme. It is an awful disease and we addicts often tend to hurt the ones we love the most. I am not in anyway excusing his actions but if u need someone to talk to about this who is an addict themselves please feel free to contact me anytime.

Ok.. I have had lunch, mums been for a chat. Had a lovely phone call from Lincolnshire fire service and they are doing my home check tomorrow afternoon. Sending me a man in uniform too so I had better be a good girl. Good job I am getting on top of the house today..

Ok.. off I go HHC starting now.. x

LameWolf

Hello all.

Belated Happy Anniversary to PenPen and Mr PenPen; sorry, I'd logged off by the time you posted that it was your anniversary.:beer:
1 step closer oh, I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. May their journey be a peaceful one.
Jinky Hey.... welcome home!!:beer:
Katiecat sending posi-vibes to your sister.

Grateful ooh, what sort of puppy are you getting?

Natty I've had varifocals for 3 years now, the ones I'm picking up Thursday are just an updated (stronger) prescription. I was advised to get used to them gradually when I first had them, wearing for an hour the first day, 2 the second and so on, and going back to my other specs in between. But in fact I found no problems getting used to them, and was wearing them the whole time after just 3 days. I think they err on the side of caution, because some wearers do take a bit longer to get used to them.

Vanilla (((HUGS))) I don't know what to say to help you, but will send posi-vibes your way. Have a Happy Birthday, in any case.:beer:
Happy Birthday Thifty and also to Mummyyof5's DD:beer:
Cyclingyorkie congratulations on getting to the end of the ironing...... time for a bottle of champagne, methinks! (Any excuse......):beer: (Gosh I seem to be using that smilie a lot today)

Mudders welcome home; make sure you take it easy, s0d the housework for now, just declutter a few hugs for The Stripey One.:o

Dippypud step away from the nasty nicotine coffin nails – cuddle a kitten instead!:o

Poohbear I hope your DS2 isn't too poorly, and makes a swift recovery.

Piggers oh dear, if Mr LW did something like that, I think he's get his 'puter shoved up his rectum – tower and all. But there, I don't often lose my rag, but when I do, I do it big time, and I most definitely over-react to things. And that said, I cannot imagine Mr LW doing that, not ever. I hope you can work out the situation and regain your equilibrium. Oh for goodness sake, I know you don't do hugs, but have a (((HUG))) anyway. So there.

Lady-Liberty wrote: »

... for all the newbies it's the love & support that makes this place so special.

Wot she said, with bells, whistles and a tartan ribbon! I don't really have RL friends, so you folks mean a great deal to me.:grouphug: <--- dodgy hug for all my Flylady pals.

jinky67 wrote: »

Why has Piggers picked the ONLY room I havent touched for today?:mad::rotfl:

Haven't you heard? Those eight-leggeds you find indoors are actually Piggers' spies.... they report back to her via the World Wide Web.:rotfl:

We had a lovely night out; the food was superb, as was the champagne. This morning was excellent also, but I'll say no more, lest I get told TMI.:rotfl: I'm absolutely shattered today, but that's to be expected. I shall attempt a little flippy-flappy-fluttering in a bit.

Actually, flying-wise, I did load the WM before we went to bed, and set the timer to come on overnight, so it was ready to empty at 05:30. Then put a 2nd lot on, with my undies and a couple of tops that go on the Delicates wash. It's all out on the rotary line at the mo, (Mr LW helped peg it out before he went to work), so I'm keeping an eye on the weather, ready to [STRIKE]rush[/STRIKE] hobble out at the first sign of rain. And no, Valli, the pegs are totally random, I'm afraid.:rotfl:

I'm just glad I did the bit of baking that was needed yesterday as I'd deffo not have the energy today! Cheese straws, and a carrot'n'orange cake, if you're interested.:D

embb

Hi guys :wave:

Toots You could always try filling the gap with silicone if you want, either that or expanding foam will do the trick, workmen of any form will have seen it all before, just fill it up and stop worrying

piggers what the heck does he think he's playing at!!! Gosh I'm fuming and he's not even my fella I'd go in there all guns blazing, but then I'm like that, renowned for flying off the handle.

Happy Birthday Vanilla xx
Happy Birthday thifty xx

Done dailies and stuff, and been to work, but today is gonna be taken up mostly by pc stuff, littleys got a major virus on her Net Book which I'm currently trying to sort, think I'm getting there slowly but surely.

Need to hoover through and bung some washing in the TD, feed the rabbits, again, who are in my bad books cos they're norty! wouldn't go back in their hutch after playing in the garden for 5 hrs :rotfl:

Still waiting for AVG to do it's thang.

embb

vanilla wrote: »

I've managed !!!!!! all since my last post and i'm still livid with hubby, no pressie here or happy birthday until the kids got up and they said it first. He did go on saturday to get a pressie and even told me when he got home that is was a great surprise and i'd love it. Turns out he fell in with someone and spent the money...on an old addiction (he had been clean for a good few years and was doing really really well)....then lied and lied and lied, he's been well caught out this time. :mad:

OMG! I had a sharp intake of breath when I read that. I know he has his problems but [EMAIL="bl&#64;&#64;dy"]bl@@dy[/EMAIL] hell, i haven't really got the words, I'm gobsmacked he's done that to you. :mad:

Flying related, I've took my cuppa off the table and am now gonna take it into the kitchen, where I'll rinse it out and make another broo.

shellysue

level one- done
level two- just need to do cushion covers
level three- glass doors to finish

extras
plants watered
fire sorted
miscellaneous stuff sorted
hall floor done

not a bad day today, all things considered

Pigpen you are damned if you do and damned if you don't, I am sneaky so I would be monitoring his every post and email, store it up and use it when it counts:D

Shysarah

Monday ~ Kitchen and Dining Mess
Level One
Sweep, vacuum and mop floors
[STRIKE]Declutter and wipe worksurfaces
Oven and hob cleaning week... and it is level one so none of you can get out of it.. [/STRIKE]
Level Two
[STRIKE]Wipe table replacing cloth if necessary.. [/STRIKE]
Clear out a cupboard.. the larder unit if you have one or just the general messiness of cupboard.. the one where you stuff all things useless.
[STRIKE]Wipe and replace small appliances.. Clean one thoroughly![/STRIKE]
Level Three
[STRIKE]Wipe units and large appliances.. don't forget kickboards!
Wipe the tops of the wall units.. lining them with old wallpaper or newspaper keeps them clean!
Dejunk window sills, dust blinds and wash windows! [/STRIKE]Windows not washed but all others done

Extras [STRIKE]Wash light shades and clean bulbs
Clean out the smelly fridge
[/STRIKE]

1. Sort out and restock baking cupboards
2. Wash the vacuum cleaner innards, noonoo's, brushes and filters.. do not reassemble until completely dry!!

Tuesday ~ Living/Family/Reception room
Level One
Declutter and vacuum floor!
[STRIKE]Wipe sticky grubby marks from sofas NA[/STRIKE]
Level Two
[STRIKE]Wipe sticky grubby marks from walls and paintworkNA[/STRIKE]
Vacuum under furniture you can safely move.. we have bit of a baby boom on at the moment so please all be careful!!!
[STRIKE]Wash any smelly soft furnishings (this may include pets and OH's)[/STRIKE] Heavy wool blanket so will do it when I can get it outside to air
Level Three
[STRIKE]Clear and wipe firesurround.. [/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Decant all the miscellaneous papers and bits into a box[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Polish any glass.. screens, pictures, ornaments mirrors etc[/STRIKE]
Extras

1. [STRIKE]Wipe and water any plants - kitchen ones done[/STRIKE]
2. Vacuum fluff from the fire and behind the radiator
3. Sort through the box of miscellaneous belongings
4. Binbag dance - started

Fire lit and messy pile of clutter on sofa cleared away. Bin also pulled round for collection tomorrow so will empty bins next.
Then hoover round then some time studying I think. Need to get a wiggle on and finish this weeks so I can make a start on my assignment. It has to be in by 2nd March and I have not even made a plan yet. Plus I need to select relevant data from a 21 page document for it... :eek:

Still once I have hoovered the house will be presentable for a bit.

Laters Ladies n Gents xx