Is there something wrong with me?

Scotty1.7

OK I'm no Oil painting, but I'm sort of funny, I don't try to be something I'm not, I'm respectful- Yet I've still been single for 6 years.

Is it to much to ask to have someone to just sit on the edge of hill and watch the sunset and raise with them having a conversation, that at the end of it all you both don't know what it was about, but it just made you feel whole as a person.

I've done the single thing (badly but will skip past that) and I know now that I want to settle down with someone.

There all cheesey/corny/sad/romantic lines but all these sum up were I am right now

I want to walk hand in hand down the high street with that smile on my face cause I have you next to me
I want to lie under the stars with you, watching the moon, hoping to see a shooting star to make a wish
I want to sit by the window cuddled up under a blanket watching the rain outside run down the window, but still see the blue sky cause your there
I want someone to have that smile on there face when there with me and for it to brighten the darkest days, not matter what has happened or how bad work has been.
I want to be there for them, there best friend, there shoulder when they need to cry on it, there rock when they need support, there shelter from the storm.
I want to have someone that no matter what comes our way, we face it- side by side together.
I want to look forward to leaving work, not going to work, and I want to wish away the hours in work to be home to just see you

I put my heart on my sleave all the time, and it seems people see that as either a reason to worry or as being overlay sensitive. I don't know how to be any other way- This is the real me, no tricks, no front, no bluffs.

These words don't come from hours of planning or thought, they come from the heart. We should all listen to our heart once in a while, It tells us things the our heads can't. It helps guide us through the darkest time, and it beats that little bit faster when the ones there.

The line in a few Love songs (old and new) of ' you leave me breathless'- its not just a line, its a feeling.

I've gone over the last 6 years from being a depressed, reclusive hermit- cowering away from reality- to actually enjoying single life, and finally knowing I'm ready and wanting to meet that person, settle down and wonder how I ever managed with out them. having moments that you remember for the rest of your life.

Plans_all_plans

OK, well I don't mean to sound harsh, but the way you phrase all of this is WAY too full on.

If you come across as needy to people, it will put them off. I think you should work on your happiness outside of being in a relationship and then it will all fall into place with the right person and you can open up to them once you know a relationship is going somewhere. Best of luck.

ticklepenny_2

Meeting the right person just takes time. Its best to join up with some groups where you share an interest... film clubs, book clubs, walking groups, anything that you have an avid interest in. I moved house 250 miles away from where I previously lived just because I fancied a change of scenery, managed to find a job and met my DH who had only just got divorced. Some things are just completely random and happen when they happen.

Also worth a mention is I think its best to get to know a person and find out what they want in life without telling them what you're looking for. That way you can work out if they want the same as you with out the possibility of coming across as too full on.

HTH and wish you all the best

skintchick

I was single for ten years. It can be hard, but when you meet the right person it will work. I had actually know OH for 11 years before we fell in love. And on our first date I said I wanted to get married so if he just wanted a fling I was going home there and then! We've been married nearly 3 years now have one child and another on the way.

It will happen.

Sambucus_Nigra

All the things I wanted to do with my OH - we never have. Because we were too busy doing things that came to us as it went along. The songs I wanted playing when we were lazing about, didn't happen as we like mostly different music...but I wouldn't have it any other way.

That stuff - if you started on about that in the first few months - I'd run for the hills.....

Chill out, and get yourself out there back into reality....

soupdragon10

Why not aim to develop a good circle of friends and see where that leads you. Whether this be through a shared interest, sport or a social club it is a way to start developing a social network which in time leads to introductions, invitations, social events where you widen the circle etc etc.... and one day you will meet someone - often when you've forgotten you were looking.

balletshoes

Aw bless you OP, I read your list of things you want to do with someone - I haven't done any of them with my OH and he'd just look at me like I'd gone off my rocker if I suggested them :rotfl::rotfl:.

I have lain under the stars on a clear still night with my best friends and talked for hours, I actually remember lying in a field looking at the sky for ages with my sisters one evening too when we were kids, these memories are so clear to me that they could have occurred last night, they are so special to me.

You'll find the right someone, you sound like a confident together person now (but I also wouldn't be saying that "mushy" stuff to anyone I'd just met or had a few dates with, unless I wanted them to disappear).

Tropez

From your post, your biggest problem is that you need someone.

I don't wish to be harsh, because I'm a soppy sod at times, but you can't go looking for a relationship with such expectations, and such a need to live to some idealist list.

de1amo

internet dating..... a whole world of possibilities---get to know someone without the full on! i met my wife while chatting on an international site--i now live abroad and i am extremely happy with both my life and my wife!

Bloomin_Freezing2

I have to agree with others i'm afraid, I honestly read through your post thinking 'oh dear' you were a bit 'weird'. sorry

Saying that there is someone for everyone, I believe that, and I believe in fate and it will happen when the time is right. People can meet their future OH's in all sorts of places.

You have to be comfortable with your self before you can expect others to be attracted to you. Would you want to approach someone in a bar/library if they were looking miserable? No, you'd leave them to it. Don't put yourself down about being 'no oil painting', if we were all attracted to the same person there'd be one huge scuffle fighting for their affections.

Be happy with who you are, mix with a few more people, be comfortable around them and your happy ever after will fall into place when you are least expecting it.

Red_Doe

Going on your post, there`s absolutely nothing wrong with you at all! I found it romantic ( a rarity nowadays) and sweet and if I were young and single, it would definately have attracted me.
I didn`t find it `full on` at all....people are different, and any romantic girl would have loved to have had those words spoken to her, and no, I don`t think she`d have run a mile from them either.
I actually agree with de1amo re internet dating.... the net opens up a world of possibilities unavailable to us just a few years ago. I met my fiance online and we`ve been together four years now and are happier than ever. Funnily enough, both of us are also romantics and absolutely unafraid to voice our emotions, hopes and dreams and wishes about relationships, the future, whatever.
I wish you luck and am sure there`s the right girl out there for you somewhere. Don`t give up on her now! You`re a breath of fresh air in a world of cynics.