baby wipes bad for baby???

zaksmum

onlyroz wrote: »

Cotton wool - fine - but why do you need to boil the water?

Because the midwife told her to, apparently to make the water almost sterile?

I can't believe all the conflicting advice first time mums get from people they trust to know what they are doing...!

brighthair

Not a Mum here, but I have incredibly sensitive eyes and a dry eye condition, and the ONLY thing that doesn't sting removing my eye make up is J&J fragrance free baby wipes. ASDA smart price ones seem to do a fab job of cleaning my paintwork ;-)

zaksmum

Been to see my daughter this afternoon and it all does seem to be over the top advice she's had from the midwife. Because she's breastfeeding she is going upstairs to feed baby and as she's feeding every 2 hours - including during the night - and it takes an hour including the nappy change each time, she's spending most of the day upstairs.

She's being swamped with visitors wanting to see the baby and doesn't feel she can just fish her boob out in front of everyone. The midwife's advised demand feeding too so she's not getting any real sleep. I'm sure I used to be told every 4 hours was about right.

I know it's vital to get it right for baby but she's going to be totally exhausted at this rate, with all the boiling and cooling water for his bottom too.

GobbledyGook

Demand feeding is seen as important to get breastfeeding established. It'll probably settle to around to either 3 or 4 hourly, but whilst the supply is getting settled it can be constant. Cluster feeding in the evening is also not uncommon.

In time she'll probably feel more comfortable feeding in front of people. TBH I was a ruder host - I used to kick people out of the lounge, get the baby latched and settled, cover myself if needed and then let them back in! Perhaps that might be something you could suggest rather than her sitting upstairs?

Although I also used to put my visitors to use as well:rotfl: No cuddles with baby until you've made me a cuppa!

Edited to add - I wouldn't change a nappy every two hours. Only when it needs done here. Also if she hasn't been shown/learned already once she's established feeding then learning to do it lying down can be brilliant as you get the chance to catch up on rest while the baby feeds and saves your arms.

patchwork_cat

Why cooled boiled water? You don't bath the baby in cooled boiled water. Personally we were not told anyway at all, not how to bath or clean or anything. I would however like to say don't use talc on girl babies bits. ( they have found talc inside some uterine tumours)

patchwork_cat

zaksmum wrote: »

Been to see my daughter this afternoon and it all does seem to be over the top advice she's had from the midwife. Because she's breastfeeding she is going upstairs to feed baby and as she's feeding every 2 hours - including during the night - and it takes an hour including the nappy change each time, she's spending most of the day upstairs.

She's being swamped with visitors wanting to see the baby and doesn't feel she can just fish her boob out in front of everyone. The midwife's advised demand feeding too so she's not getting any real sleep. I'm sure I used to be told every 4 hours was about right.

I know it's vital to get it right for baby but she's going to be totally exhausted at this rate, with all the boiling and cooling water for his bottom too.

Since my son was born demand feeding has been the advice although 4 hourly used to be the advice. I will be honest that this was a major factor in my changing to bottle as I was exhausted and at least my DH could help. ( it does become nearer to 4 hours as they get older)

brighthair

zaksmum wrote: »

Been to see my daughter this afternoon and it all does seem to be over the top advice she's had from the midwife. Because she's breastfeeding she is going upstairs to feed baby and as she's feeding every 2 hours - including during the night - and it takes an hour including the nappy change each time, she's spending most of the day upstairs.

She's being swamped with visitors wanting to see the baby and doesn't feel she can just fish her boob out in front of everyone. The midwife's advised demand feeding too so she's not getting any real sleep. I'm sure I used to be told every 4 hours was about right.

I know it's vital to get it right for baby but she's going to be totally exhausted at this rate, with all the boiling and cooling water for his bottom too.

get rid of visitors except ones that she actually wants to see/close family :rotfl:
Otherwise ask them to make themselves useful and cook something for the freezer/cake/casseroles, do some shopping/cleaning etc
I always felt with my friends I didn't want to intrude straight away, Mum should have some rest and bonding time with baby

zaksmum

brighthair wrote: »

get rid of visitors except ones that she actually wants to see/close family :rotfl:
Otherwise ask them to make themselves useful and cook something for the freezer/cake/casseroles, do some shopping/cleaning etc
I always felt with my friends I didn't want to intrude straight away, Mum should have some rest and bonding time with baby

It's difficult though to get rid of visitors wiithout hurting feelings.

First day after baby came home from hospital there were 16 separate visits! Everyone wanted to stay at least an hour...it was ridiculous. But it's the first grandchild on her partner's side and he does have a big family, and there are a lot of close friends too, and neighbours, work colleagues etc. So what can you do?

I've managed to hold off loads of people like my own brothers and sisters but over this weekend everyone who works throughout the week wanted to visit. My daughter's still on cloud 9 over the baby but is in desperate need of some down time now!

dianetheartist

I use baby wipes in my painting classes i run-they are wonderful for getting oil and acrylic paint off hands, tables and doors etc! We have often joked in class about what thye wipes must do to babies bums if they can remove oil paint so easily! I get through loads of them and stock up with any sort that are on offer!

zaksmum

dianetheartist wrote: »

I use baby wipes in my painting classes i run-they are wonderful for getting oil and acrylic paint off hands, tables and doors etc! We have often joked in class about what thye wipes must do to babies bums if they can remove oil paint so easily! I get through loads of them and stock up with any sort that are on offer!

Fair point I suppose. They must be quite hard on a baby's bottom if they can cut through oil paint.

The midwife announced today that baby had LOST weight!:eek: My daughter was a bit upset about that even when told it's quite normal for a newborn to lose weight in the first week. He's lost 6% of birth weight which is hard when you're feeding him 12 times in 24 hours...how much more can you do?

So he has to be given formula morning and evening to try to get his weight up, and breastfeeding in between...and still positively NO baby wipes. Oh dear...!:(