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Discipline in nurserys

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  • lil_me
    lil_me Posts: 13,186 Forumite
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    Don't blame you for not wanting to leave your child there again, no child of mine would go back somewhere I had witnessed something like that and I would be making an official complaint and contacting the parent of the child who was grabbed like that.
    Don't expect them to be anything less than human.
    And I wouldn't describe such a thing as HUMAN.
    One day I might be more organised...........:confused:
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  • Sarahjovi
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    Whilst helping at my sons Pre-School, I witness some pretty horrible 3 year old twins who constantly beat each other and bullied and hit other children. The patients of the Pre-School leader and assistants was amazing, how they controlled there tempers was brilliant. They dealt with these children cooly and calmly and even when the little girl called one of the assistants a !!!!!, she did not received any attention from the assistant for it!

    When I questioned the leader (in passing conversation) could she expel these children if necessary, she said in extreme circumstances, but also indicated it was the parents fault the children behaved that way, and she rather not go down that route.

    I think it takes special people to work with children! I know I couldn't keep quite so cool!

    Sarah
  • Crazychik
    Crazychik Posts: 1,994 Forumite
    Hi Astonsmummy - glad your'e feeling a little brighter - dont feel bad about or if she loses her job, that will make her think of her actions in the future - Like I said about my situation with my DS and the council worker, I did feel bad at first, but you have to draw a line some where, as you never know what could happen next to the next victim.
    You do right to inform ofsted also. Glad that was mentioned - I couldnt think what is was called as I mentioned to report it to the education dept.

    Good luck - and hope your LO is ok - xxx
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  • And actually, I do expect them to care for my daughter to the same standard that I do. I wouldn't expect anything less.
    I think the original comment has been taken out of context. I do believe that the poster meant that no-one can provide the level of care a parent can because they don't love them in the same way. I know I haven't explained that very well but I hope it makes sense.

    However, shouting and grabbing by the coat is totally out of order. Nurseries are run differently in different places but that should never ever happen. I'm glad everything's been reported and that it seems to be investigated.

    Can we have a update Astonsmummy? How are you both doing?
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  • Hi
    I did start a new thread as i am taking him out of the nursery, i turned up yesterday and he was playing outside in just a T shirt, no jumper, no coat, no hat, even though he's been poorly for a couple of weeks.
    I was going to look for a childminder but now i'm giving up work completely, apart from the fact i cant afford to work anymore, i have lost trust in leaving him wth someone for a long period of time.
    I have been quite a crap mum and think i really need to focus on sorting out my bond with him.
    :j Baby boy Number 2, arrived 12th April 2009!:j
  • Rachie_B
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    Hi
    I did start a new thread as i am taking him out of the nursery, i turned up yesterday and he was playing outside in just a T shirt, no jumper, no coat, no hat, even though he's been poorly for a couple of weeks.
    I was going to look for a childminder but now i'm giving up work completely, apart from the fact i cant afford to work anymore, i have lost trust in leaving him wth someone for a long period of time.
    I have been quite a crap mum and think i really need to focus on sorting out my bond with him.


    hun dont think like that :(:love:
  • crutches
    crutches Posts: 1,065 Forumite
    hobo28 wrote:
    And as for excess force and raising of voices, how many of us here can claim we've never lost our temper with our kids? As much as I love them, mine drive me bonkers! Its just something to remember thats all. Not saying it justifies it all, but a factor to consider.

    i used to work in creches/schools/playgroups so when my kids are driving me wild......i pretend i'm their nanny!
    Every day above ground is a good one ;)
  • lil_me
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    Sorry to hear you are having to leave work but I hope you enjoy the time it will give you with your little one. Not adequately clothing them to go outside (when they can not really make these decisions themselves due to age) is extremely responsible. Poor kids at our school are probably the opposite and playing out whilst cooking as everyone makes sure they are wrapped up.
    One day I might be more organised...........:confused:
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  • mrcow
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    I have been quite a crap mum and think i really need to focus on sorting out my bond with him.

    I hope that things improve for you both ;)
    "One day I realised that when you are lying in your grave, it's no good saying, "I was too shy, too frightened."
    Because by then you've blown your chances. That's it."
  • Crazychik
    Crazychik Posts: 1,994 Forumite
    You are not a crap mum astonsmummy ! If you was a crap mum, you would be staying at work, and not bother with the help of upbringing your LO. And you would keep LO in this nursery just for the convenience. Instead (like any parent) you want the very best and thats why you are choosing to leave work, and give him the attention he deserves,

    Perhaps in yrs to come when he's settled at school full time, you may seek part-time work. My 2 are in full time school, I work mon-fri 10-2pm. It gives me that bit of independance and still be at home for the kids.

    Good luck with your new avenue and best wishes.
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