Can a guest wear Black?

minerva_windsong

I've got two, possibly three weddings to go to this year (cousin - which is in Liverpool so all the stops will be pulled out! - a family friend, and boyfriend's sister) and I've bought a new dress and bag for them. I would normally buy a new dress for a wedding, and certainly if I was going to more than one in a year, but I wouldn't spend daft money - the dress I have bought was £50 and I'm justifying the bag as it'll get used for going out anyway. I think that is probably the most I've spent on a dress for a wedding though, previously it's been about £20-40 but I've bought shoes and accessories on top whereas with this one I've already got shoes to go with it. However if I hadn't found this dress I probably would have ended up wearing one I already had because I hadn't seen anything else I liked.

Personally I think if you have nice colourful accessories then black is fine for a wedding, hot pink would work really well in my view. And in terms of whether or not the dress is too expensive, I'm of the view that it's the OP's money and if she can afford it then she can spend it on whatever she likes.

I also don't see anything wrong with black as a wedding colour scheme - one of the weddings in the hotel I worked in as a student had an 'Old Hollywood' theme with black, ivory and silver as the colour scheme and it looked lovely, but apart from the bridesmaids' dresses (which had ivory bands at the top and bottom and at the waist) black was more of an accent colour in things like the napkins, the fabric around the bouquet, balloons in the centrepieces etc.

globetraveller

I'm not sure why some are taking exception to those who are commenting about cost. The OP states she is trying to clear debt. So the post is about saving money as well as querying the black.

FunnySaving

I was looking at my wedding photos, and realised that I didn't really recognise the dress my Mum was wearing, so anyone else certainly wasn't on my radar on the big day! I agree that a quick word to the brides/grooms would probably be a good idea...

LEJC

In my opinion I think its more how you wear the dress than what colour it is...I would rather see someone in a black well fitting dress than an ill fitting dress in a different colour...
its also about the accessories you choose too so it can easily appear much brighter if you put a bold colour with it
I re looked at my wedding pics and people choose all colours...I wasnt offended by what colour anyone wore....

Black is becomming a colour for bridesmaid dresses with a contrasting colour and its very striking...and as long as you steer clear of their colour and style I would say the dress you intend to wear is perfect

floss2

I think the OP has chosen a gorgeous dress that she can purchase at a reduced cost due to the 20% discount and her £30 voucher, so it will work out at £65.20 and be worn for both weddings. Why lambast her because she is repaying her debts but wishes to look good at 2 weddings, when she's planning to Ebay it later to recoup some of her outlay, and has accessories to compliment it?

Black is fine for a wedding - I would happily buy & wear that dress and pay full price for it In fact, I would consider buying it from Ebay if it was a size 12

Afitos

I think that dress is lovely. With hot pink I think you will look very classy.

I wore a black dress to my brothers wedding last year with a black and cream jacket and a black hat ! I was worried but decided that I loved the look so would go for it. When I look at the photos I love the way I look and Even if i say so my self better than some of the other guests who were in coloured chunky knit cardigans :eek:

Oh and when I was signing the register the registrar said how much she loved the jacket !

(I didn't read the comments about the dress price but now I have I think that is a good price for 2 weddings and you will still have a quality dress to wear again or sell on ebay, and as they always say on the tv a black dress is always a good buy)

MrsDrink

Haven't read every response but my thoughts are I'd just want you there - I wouldn't careless what you wore. But then I may be a rarity as I can't see the point in a lot of wedding 'etiquette'.

Everhopeful

I recently went to a quite posh - but non church wedding, followed by a meal then dancing in the evening.
I agonised about wearing a darkish dress which I loved - but was pleasantly surprised to see quite a few guests in 'Little Black Dresses' and quite a few in monochrome outfits too.
The nicest outfit was the brides best friend in a plain black dress with long pearl/gold necklace & pearl encrusted bag - very Audrey Hepburn!

clearing_out_my_pockets

I should hope so - my mum's planning on wearing a black dress to my wedding (although she's starting to change her mind)!

MrsManda

codemonkey wrote: »

No problem with someone wearing black, but I would be very irritated if any of my guests turned up in white.

a friend found a lovely cream and beige outfit but had decided that it wasn't suitable for the wedding we were going to so chose a lovely plum coloured outfit instead. Fortunately she mentioned it before buying as the bride was wearing plum She bought the cream outfit instead

To the OP. I didn't mind anyone wearing black to my wedding, I have goth friends so it was almost mandatory that someone would wear black I wore a dark grey/black dress to the last wedding I went to and didn't feel out of place at all.The dress looks lovely though i wouldn't spend that much on a dress I'm only likely to wear twice.
I suppose the bottom line is:
Will the bride/groom be bothered what you wear?
Will you feel comfortable?