Can a guest wear Black?

RainbowDrops

Everyone's ideas on how much you should spend on a dress, but that's not the question the op asked.

With bright accessories like you've suggested, I think you'll be fine.
I've seen plenty of people in black at weddings!

Chrisv

Even better if you've got a Debenhams voucher - I'd go for it.:)

PootleFlump_3

Torry_Quine wrote: »

That is still an awful lot of money. Are you really saying that it is normal to get a new dress for a wedding? I tend to wear something I have, if I buy something new it would be a lot less than that and be worn for a lot more than twice!

I would never go to a wedding in something that I already own. I would most definately always buy something new so I guess everyone has their own take on it and everyone different. I dont think its expensive either although I think the OP was wondering about the colour rather than whether we felt she could afford it or not.

globetraveller

It is a dress that you could get a lot of wear from. Teamed with a bright jacket I don't see anything wrong with it for a wedding. Just a thought though- as you are talking about saving money- remember its silk and will need dry cleaned.
Have to say- wish I had a figure for that dress!

Starrystarrynight

I think it's a fab dress, OP, and you're absolutely right about it being a flattering shape for those who are a bit top heavy. Would be suitable for lots of occasions, too.
If someone told me that I couldn't wear black to their wedding, then I just wouldn't go. I really don't see the problem. Go for it!

ellay864

PootleFlump wrote: »

I would never go to a wedding in something that I already own. I would most definately always buy something new so I guess everyone has their own take on it and everyone different. I dont think its expensive either although I think the OP was wondering about the colour rather than whether we felt she could afford it or not.

I'd have no problems wearing something I'd already got, unless I'd worn it in front of the same guests who are going to be at the wedding. But having 2 weddings to go, and the discounts she's mentioned does go to justifying it. Most of the weddings I've been to I've worn something nice that I already had but hardly got to wear. Last wedding I went to I would have done the same but having put on weight I had to buy something( and found a gorgeous dress with shrug at an outlet store for £15 so didnt feel guilty!)

Torry_Quine

minnie123 wrote: »

I think it's normal to buy a new dress for a wedding - it's what I always do anyway. I don't think it's ridiculously expensive, especially as it will cover 2 weddings. I normally buy a dress I like and then sell it on ebay after to recoup some of the cost.

I have never heard of it being inappropriate to wear black to a wedding, I just know you shouldn't wear a white dress.

I just think that itsn't very money saving to buy a new dress for every occassion but that is just my opinion. Black is traditionally the colour for funerals and mourning which is why for some it is inappropriate.

glimmerofhope wrote: »

I havent been to a wedding since I was a bridemaid for my sister 7 years ago so have nothing suitable
I dont buy new clothes as have been stucking to a very tight budget luckily work is casual so clothes double up.
Of course it would be worn more than twice and if not ebayed (might look on there now and see if there are any on there), but I was given a voucher for debenhams for xmas (£30) and using the daily mail voucher code mentioned on here thats a further 20% off.

You said the cost but not vouchers etc. so it appeared to be one very expensive dress only worn twice.

PootleFlump wrote: »

I would never go to a wedding in something that I already own. I would most definately always buy something new so I guess everyone has their own take on it and everyone different. I dont think its expensive either although I think the OP was wondering about the colour rather than whether we felt she could afford it or not.

Well we'll have to disagree on that. It is far more than I have ever spent on a dress. Also the OP herself said she would wear it twice so I do think it strange to have to have a new dress. As to how much to spend - the OP raised the cost and being in debt so I was only responding to that.

Torry_Quine

ellay864 wrote: »

In that thread quite a lot of the replies do support wearing black. If you're teaming it up with colour I think it'll be lovely. And I seem to recall only a couple of weeks ago our future queen wore very plain black as a wedding guest

A lot of the replies were also opposed though which shows it isn't clear cut. Wasn't aware of Kate Middleton's dress but it doesn't change things though, I suspect.

glimmerofhope

Thankyou to everyone for their responses

glimmerofhope

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I just think that itsn't very money saving to buy a new dress for every occassion but that is just my opinion. Black is traditionally the colour for funerals and mourning which is why for some it is inappropriate.



You said the cost but not vouchers etc. so it appeared to be one very expensive dress only worn twice.
:)I meant twice for weddings - off course it would get worn after that


Well we'll have to disagree on that. It is far more than I have ever spent on a dress. Also the OP herself said she would wear it twice so I do think it strange to have to have a new dress. As to how much to spend - the OP raised the cost and being in debt so I was only responding to that.

:)I appreciate the candid responses. When I take it account the voucher, and daily mail discount this puts the dress at £65. I watch every penny and thats why this is a highly considered purchase and didnt want to but it wear to the first wedding and then feel it was wrong for the occasion....I guess the debate rolls on