CSA non biological father

Loopy_Girl

Deleted_User wrote: »

Loopy girl all you ever do is come on here and make unfounded moral judgements about people!! If you can't offer people advice which is what the forum is about then get a life or a hobby that does not involve the internet....

Feel free to put me on ignore if you don't like any of my answers.

I offer plenty advice unlike yourself who seems to use it as a message board for her 'woe is me' life....poor poor you.

You go on about making judgements and then try to tell me what to do?!!!! lol

And yes, if her ex is what she is saying he is then I think it's terrible that her children are left there....big bad me for thinking of the kids and not !!!!!!! money (which brings us neatly back to you and your 'issues')

Lilybeth

Joannenotts - your email was a breath of fresh air, it doesnt make the issues and the hurts go away but knowing your not the only one that the justice system and the ss have let down makes me not feel alone in it al,l i am gutted with the response on here whether it was because i wasnt clear enough i dont know but surely a few more questions rather then judgements would have been more helpful, the case you mention sounds like my situation only at least it was 50/50 the poor mum must be in bits with it all ..

and your right life is far to short and children are not children for long enough i dont want them being dragged through it all as much as you try and keep them out of it they are not silly ..

[Deleted User]

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

I offer plenty advice unlike yourself who seems to use it as a message board for her 'woe is me' life....poor poor you.

How do you draw that conclusion? I am very happy with my life Thank you, I have nothing to be unhappy about?

And I am yet to see you ever post anything of use to anyone...unlike myself :rotfl:

Loopy_Girl

wiggine wrote: »

Joannenotts - your email was a breath of fresh air, it doesnt make the issues and the hurts go away but knowing your not the only one that the justice system and the ss have let down makes me not feel alone in it al,l i am gutted with the response on here whether it was because i wasnt clear enough i dont know but surely a few more questions rather then judgements would have been more helpful, the case you mention sounds like my situation only at least it was 50/50 the poor mum must be in bits with it all ..

and your right life is far to short and children are not children for long enough i dont want them being dragged through it all as much as you try and keep them out of it they are not silly ..

I'm sorry you feel like that but in fairness, having looked at your initial post then question you asked has been answered on several occassions.

I'm mot sure what else you are asking to be honest.

Hopefully the info you have been given will be helpful in any options you are choosing.

Loopy_Girl

Deleted_User wrote: »

And I am yet to see you ever post anything of use to anyone...unlike myself :rotfl:

Oh dearie dearie me....what shall I do about that?

Hmmm....I'll pop it in the 'I won't sleep tonight' file shall I?

Or not. Obviously

Lilybeth

Loopy girl - your right my initial question on here was not about him it was a simple question of how the CSA works, i was then judged so have had to go into details i definaitely would not have done initially.

Soubrette

Deleted_User wrote: »

How do you draw that conclusion? I am very happy with my life Thank you, I have nothing to be unhappy about?

And I am yet to see you ever post anything of use to anyone...unlike myself :rotfl:

I can't comment on your posts in general but on this thread you have posted at least one bit of extremely useful advice which I hope the OP follows through.

I have also seen lots of good advice from Loopy on this thread and in general. She can also be very funny

Lilybeth

Loopy girl - yes yet again you have stated the obvious my question has been answered my continual responses are to put my point across it seems you have managed to make this post about you?.. as a newbie to this it seems its not the first time either.
Oh well i am signing out but again just wanted to thank Joannenotts for her support and advice

Loopy_Girl

Hmmm...it can sometimes happen like that I'm afraid.

As I say, if nothing else, then you have your answer so it should save you time trying to contact CAB etc.

I can see you are in a frustrating situ and I do feel for you however, I make no apology for always thinking of children's welfare above everything else and if the picture you are painting is correct then I frankly wouldn't leave my dog with him.....but then it struck me that the children are old enough to see what goes on and clearly don't have an issue with their side of life with him else I am assuming they would beg to stay with you.

kelloggs36

Haven't read whole thread, but if I were you I would just do what I legally had to do, ie pay the reduced maintenance as per shared care, and that's it. If he feels unable to budget etc then that is his lookout and more ammunition for getting residency yourself as he clearly is unable to look after the children properly. He is playing you for a mug and using the children as weapons to blackmail you with. Call his bluff, and withdraw all but what you legally have to do. The children won't go without as you provide for them when they are with you - he needs to grow up and start providing for them himself, afterall he gets all the additional premiums for having them live with him as it is.