CSA non biological father

Lilybeth

maternity leave is what i ideally wants to do thats if the job is held open what with the current climate.

I dont beliave i am bang out of order at all clearly there have been alot of NRP that dont do anything this was assumed of me and untill people know the full facts they should keep there opinions and maybe personal experinces to themselves, this is a completely different case and i could go on forever over it how dare you comment on whether or not i can afford to support my current children and shame on you regarding bringing more children into this world this is suppoed to be a site whereby you gain advice not judgement again as i stated above on a situation you have no idea about.
I am appalled by how this initial in my case innocent question has been made into some sort of moral issue.

Soubrette

Wiggine, I respond to the situation as I see it - legally you are the NRP and have responsibilities as such.

If you give up work then as I said you do not have to pay CSA2 as it is based on your income only.

If you disagree with your ex partner being the PWC (and the ultimate responsibility that he has for them because of this) then go back to court.

If you can't do this then maybe a change of mindset will make your life easier.

Also bear in mind that the less access the PWC allows you the NRP - then the more child maintenance he would be due - the fact that he has not done this is a point in his favour.

Lilybeth

tried that and again the kids suffered and ss where less then helpful this has been an awful situation for over 9 years i think ill leave it there as clearly this is not the site to gain help and advice only somewhere people can let of there own steam due to there own experiences or feelings..

Just because i deviate from what is deemed the norm people cant see my side of it when i was with my ex he was an abusive controlling dodgy dealing you name it kind of bloke i finally left him and now he controls me via the kids all said and done he does love the children but love doesnt always put food on the table and clean clothes on your back...you know what think whatever you please ill google the next bit of information i need i wont do it via here.

Loopy_Girl

wiggine wrote: »

my case innocent question has been made into some sort of moral issue.

You painted the picture that you are the ONLY supporter to your children and then asked what would happen if you gave up work....

In a forum of parents what do you expect?

He is the devil incarnate and you are Mother Earth and you want to withdraw the support that only YOU and YOU ALONE give....apparantly.

Child welfare - it's an emotive subject.

Loopy_Girl

wiggine wrote: »

he was an abusive controlling dodgy dealing you name it kind of bloke

And your kids spend 50% of their time with him?

Lovely

Lilybeth

he has tried several times to get full custody as he would get more money and everytimje we go back to court the judge sends us away with shared care .. he has no points in his favour i am afraid there is so much history to this that i think as i said before ill leave it here for now. ill look elsewhere for help as i think this was a wrong choice i have tried the CAB if i can ever get through on the phone its a miracle cant afford more solicitors fees but he is ok legal aid gets him a solicitor and a barister i am not bitter just trying to get help and advice free like he is able to do.

Soubrette

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

You painted the picture that you are the ONLY supporter to your children and then asked what would happen if you gave up work....

In a forum of parents what do you expect?

He is the devil incarnate and you are Mother Earth and you want to withdraw the support that only YOU and YOU ALONE give....apparantly.

Child welfare - it's an emotive subject.

Personally I don't know what she wants?

She's been told what the situation is several times and by several different posters. She has the information, there is nothing to google.

Now she just has to decide if she is going to change the situation or continue as it is because legally, if she has an income, the PWC can go to the CSA for child mainenance.

She has to balance up the pros and cons of giving up work and who will support the children.

Loopy_Girl

Your question has already been answered.

If your case is CS2 (post March 2003) then when you give up work there will be a nil liability and you will not be due to pay any CS.

If it's a CS1 case then it's slightly more complicated and it's the household income that gets taken into consideration as oppose to the NRP.

Lilybeth

yeah 50% but with a good solicitor and barister all provided on the state its amazing what a smart suit can do in court and me on my own in there is a really fair situation isnt it i dont try and be that its all me doing everything but i can honestly say it feels like it specially when i get the calls and texts to get this that and the other .. and still pay via the CSA all i was saying is i cant afford to do the CSA and all the other bits not for one minute am i saying i cant and wont support my kids.,

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I see exactly where you are coming from. Your children will not suffer as you will continue to provide clothing shoes etc when they stay with you, but you won't have to pay the premium to the CSA which your Ex is not spending on the kids anyway. Yes I say go for it, if he's a lazy git who can't be bothered to get off his !!!! and get a job but would rather use your kids as a meal ticket then why should you make it easy for him? Why is nobody having a go about him not working, you have been seoperated 10 Years, your kids are obviously at School so what's his excuse? Joint custody is so messy, when your kids are over 12 consider going back to court as the kids have a say then who they live with :-)