Would you buy a coffin online ?

paulineb_2

Theres only 3 of us in my family and unless I meet and marry someone before I die, which is very very unlikely, its going to be left to my brother to sort out my funeral. Im not religious, Id just rather I had plans in place to take the weight off him, they could chuck me in the sea for all I care as well really

My gran made no provision for her funeral but she had savings so when she died my mum sorted it out within a couple of days and my gran made it very clear that when she died it was to be close family only, that was my mum, me and my brother

The other family who didnt care about her for the last 25 years of her life werent invited and havent spoken to my mum since, but my gran got the funeral she wanted

I may just put money aside and make it clear to my bro I want an eco coffin and no people there who I dont care for, if its just my brother there and a few close friends who I do care about, great.

No fuss, my mum has also said when she dies, no fuss, just family.

paulineb_2

I actually have more to leave than I have right now, my brother wouldnt be wealthy but what he would get would probably run to about £30 000 and more when it came to life insurance and pensions, whereas on a day to day basis Im skint, so I need to get it sorted, because hes the closest person to me in life, I dont want people who havent said boo to me in 40 years to get any of it.

My mum obviously if I died before her as well.

What_a_rip_off

paulineb wrote: »

Theres only 3 of us in my family and unless I meet and marry someone before I die, which is very very unlikely, its going to be left to my brother to sort out my funeral. Im not religious, Id just rather I had plans in place to take the weight off him, they could chuck me in the sea for all I care as well really

My gran made no provision for her funeral but she had savings so when she died my mum sorted it out within a couple of days and my gran made it very clear that when she died it was to be close family only, that was my mum, me and my brother

The other family who didnt care about her for the last 25 years of her life werent invited and havent spoken to my mum since, but my gran got the funeral she wanted

I may just put money aside and make it clear to my bro I want an eco coffin and no people there who I dont care for, if its just my brother there and a few close friends who I do care about, great.

No fuss, my mum has also said when she dies, no fuss, just family.

With you there, all about minimal fuss. Glad to see finally that people are moving away from black funerals and flowers, colour and smiles is how i want mine. All about the celebration :-)

System

Is it just me but does anyone else think that a wake is totally inappropriate after a funeral?

When one of my loved ones die, the last thing I will want to do is party.

What_a_rip_off

I think it's a personal thing.

I've certainly enjoyed many a knee's up following a family funeral, with much laughter and tears.

I've also been to more traditional events, I didn't enjoy those if I'm honest.

Colour, drink and laughter will be on the bill when my time comes !

paulineb_2

Judi wrote: »

Is it just me but does anyone else think that a wake is totally inappropriate after a funeral?

When one of my loved ones die, the last thing I will want to do is party.

Its very common, when my mums friends mum died she was asked to go for something to eat and a drink, I think its more about making sure the mourners are ok

Not sure its about a party, but more like people getting together and remembering

However, being from a family my size, one thing you tend not to do is go to funerals

If I do win the lottery before I pop my clogs I'll leave my bro some cash with instructions to go and get !!!!ed, why not

But I do understand why some people just want a service and then no fuss

Soleil_lune

I'm not gonna lie; I have really never ever thought of this! So I said 'maybe.'

DigForVictory

I might buy a coffin online, if I thought it would help my family get on with the cheapest funeral & the most expensive party we could then afford. I'd rather know which crematoria were OK with it & that it could fit into the car too though, so I think there's a case for buying from costco.

My American holiday, when I get around to it, will be the stuff of legend as I have live firing range dates across four states, several Real Steak Dinner invites, family to see, long limbed & big footed family to shop for & now a coffin to pick out from Costco. Disney can go whistle, I'll be having *far* more fun.

Then, I'm all for doing it how "it works for us". I reckon a paupers funeral of in-county blood-kin-only in whatever they wear to work or school or Scouts then, later, a huge family party in a rented NT or Heritage property that can accomodate 5 families, children, wheelchairs & give a lovely setting for a serious kneesup, is what I'd *like*.

However, I really can't see us doing that for my in-laws who are much more traditional & who would view me grinning at them with a tape measure & an eBay app running as being throughly improper. They appear to want the full traditional ceremony, all of us in mourning black, paying the proper respect (and the funeral director) - if I were to find out what hatchment was for certain, I'm pretty sure they'd like that too, if they thought it was "proper & fitting". Being invited to a four generation bring drink & food & at least one uproarious tale (backed up with photos) shindig would probably not strike them as the article at all. Which is a pity, as that's the sort of funeral I'd much prefer to go to.

SailorSam

Why should i go online and buy a coffin even if it is a bargain, i want need it until i'm dead. So let someone else pay then.
My Mum always use to carry a donar card and say when they've taken all the bits that they can reuse put the rest in the wheelie bin on Sunday night before the bin goes out in the morning.

System

Why should i go online and buy a coffin even if it is a bargain, i want need it until i'm dead. So let someone else pay then.

That's a bit of a selfish attitude to take

My Mum always use to carry a donar card and say when they've taken all the bits that they can reuse put the rest in the wheelie bin on Sunday night before the bin goes out in the morning.

They don't take just any body you know. From what I can remember they can be quite selective.

As for putting the rest out in the wheelie bin the next day.... well that's never going to be an option is it?

Oh and I opted No. If you can buy a cheap coffin for £160 why bother faffing around trying to find one cheaper?